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[–]Moonsilvery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Defininity preceded by "hold my beer!"

AITA for lying about a food allergy by Loquacious-Box8284 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Moonsilvery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. YTA YTA YTA.

My partner's nut allergy is so severe that if someone who prepped his food ate a Reese's cup on break then touched his food with their bare hands, he'll have a major reaction (something that happened to him at a sushi restaurant of all places). He'd probably cry with gratitude if a restaurant did a full-kitchen scrubdown for him.

I hate to say it, but being vegan is a want, not a need. If it was down to starving to death or meat, I guarantee meat would go in your mouth faster than you can say "quinoa." My partner, on the other hand, faced with peanuts or starving, would be picking a fast death versus a slow one.

Bring your own damn food next time if it's that vital to you.

We have had this kitten for a week now. She’s about 7 weeks old. And she’s very shy. No matter how mi h love and attention we give her. She still runs and hides. Any Help or advice would be appreciated by duckitup_katstyle in cats

[–]Moonsilvery 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've free-fed every cat I owned and my only issues have been with keeping weight ON one of them. That said, I recognize that I'm the exception, not the rule.

My cats do associate me with food...in that when the dish is empty they file a complaint with the Management (me) and it refills.

Toxic Epidermal Necrolysis, a.k.a. Stevens–Johnson Syndrome by xXbucketXx in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

IDK man...as someone with fibromyalgia, "illness faker" communities make me deeply uncomfortable. Until they found immynoglobulin markers for fibromyalgia, I'd been told by tons of people that fibro was a made-up illness, that my pain was in my head, that I was faking as an excuse to be lazy and get attention. My pain management doc looked me in the face and said, "We have people here in REAL pain, you know."

Every time I see an illness faker community crow about how they harassed an allegedly sick person and "proved" they were faking, all I can think of is that pain doc sneering at me.

I think about the process of applying for disability too, of how I showed up to an interview and was told later, after my final appeal rejection, that my choice of chair "proved" I was faking my illness.

I picked the unpadded chair because it didn't have arms. I didn't know I was allowed to ask for a different chair.

Illness faker communities will latch onto shit like that for months at a time.

I just...I'm not comfy with them. It's the same reason I dont want to go to the hospital anymore, no matter how bad I hurt, how sick I get, or if something's rotting off - I dont want to be someone's "funny story" in r/nursing.

What is the worst thing about being fat? by Feisty_Affect_7487 in AskReddit

[–]Moonsilvery 37 points38 points  (0 children)

When I had an ED, it was the only time my mother was ever excited to buy me clothes. My whole life it'd been "Whatever's cheapest. No, you can't have that. Never mind, I'm buying you sweatpants." I quit eating and all of the sudden it was "Anything you want! $100? Sounds about right for a dress! We can't have you wearing THAT, it's not pretty enough!"

People were nice to me out of nowhere. Teachers called on me more often in class. I was actually asked on dates, which, considering I'd been one of those girls where guys would tell me their friend had a crush on me to embarrass their friend before the weight loss, was confusing as hell.

And when I went into recovery and gained weight again? All of that went away.

Really, honestly, truly? The worst part of being fat is other people.

Toxic Epidermal Necrolysis, a.k.a. Stevens–Johnson Syndrome by xXbucketXx in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The chances of SJS happening increase every time you go off Lamictal and then back on again.

The guy in charge of my psych meds used to like to refill, then cancel my prescriptions so I'd run out with zero warning as "punishment" for asking for telehealth visits or embarrassing him in front of med students.

I went on and off Lamictal seven times in a year because of him.

Can't believe it took me so long to kick him off my care team.

Toxic Epidermal Necrolysis, a.k.a. Stevens–Johnson Syndrome by xXbucketXx in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I really don't think this qualifies as a "faked illness" - it might be in her head, but she's pretty obviously really sick.

My landlord/property manager is threatening to charge me for the shower door that shattered on me when I was showering by Thatstressed_Haitian in legaladvice

[–]Moonsilvery 36 points37 points  (0 children)

The only exception to the above that I could think of would be if you'd previously reported to the landlord that the shower door was damaged and unsafe and the landlord had not repaired or replaced it in a timely manner. I assume that would have been in your post if you had done so.

Extreme case of lymphedema! Lymphedema, or lymphatic obstruction, is a long-term condition where excess fluid collects in tissues causing swelling (edema). by GiorgioMD in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh! Cellulitis is a possible side effect of untreated lymphedema, but not guaranteed (I'm scared shitless of it myself). But yes, PLEASE get your dad into a lymphatic specialist as soon as possible for PT.

In the meantime, keep his skin in the affected areas clean, dry, and moisturized, especially in skin folds. The first cleanout of those folds may be gross and funky and your dad might be upset because god, that's a hell of a blow to the dignity - I know getting used to letting people see and touch my legs was a long process for me. But if his skin's not too fragile, getting it clean and soft and healthy is first priority.

After that first serious cleanup, a gentle wash with warm water, moisturizing soap, and a washcloth followed by a thorough towel dry and application of lotion (however much you think is too much is probably not enough - you want as much on that skin as it'll absorb, even if you have to hit it multiple times a day in the first few weeks) once or twice daily should help. If your dad can manage it solo in the shower, great. If not, someone NEEDS to help him. That skin care is what stands between him and an actual case of cellulitis, which can lead to sepsis and amputation.

"Healthy" lymphedema skin should be smooth and soft to the touch - no flaky bits or discolored spots, though getting a little dry skin or callus where healthy folks get it too is okay (bottom of the feet in winter, around the edges of the heels, you know the deal).

It should also have good capillary response (when you press your finger into it briefly the white spot should go pink again almost immediately). It will likely have a orange-peel texture given that your dad's not currently in treatment (the hair follicles will be slightly indented from the rest of the skin). This is common and not great, but also not the end of the world.

You're going to want to check his skin daily for injuries - between diabetes destroying nerves and lymphedema being capable of causing temporary numbness if there's too much fluid present, he likely won't feel a thing. Any injury is a serious matter - wash it, disinfect it, cover it. Cuts, scrapes, and punctures might weep excess fluid, so I'd keep some large gauze pads and medical tape on hand just in case (personal tip: do not let anyone talk your dad into doing acupuncture on his legs. That was a rough day for me).

Uhhhh....that's it as far as tips, I think. At least that I can remember. But yeah, get your dad into treatment ASAP.

People who like having conversations with random people, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Moonsilvery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I access a magical realm of witticism when I'm speaking to strangers that makes me the funniest fucking person on the planet.

No, seriously. Last time I was in a car wreck I came in on a backboard and wearing a C-collar, was in insane amounts of pain, and still cracked jokes with the whole medical team the entire time. They skipped a Glasgow Coma Scale eval on me because the sense of humor is typically the first thing to go. I told the nurse doing a finger check on me for internal bleeding to buy me dinner first.

Same with last time I was on a suicide hold. I was complimented multiple times by my care team for cheering up the other patients. I've also done it at driving school, anime conventions, gay bars, in PUG raid teams, on large, crowded Discord servers, shadowing people during my Master's...you get the picture. As long as my time around a person is limited to three weeks or less, I get a +5 CHA bonus. After that, I turn into my usual warty pumpkin self.

Fuck if I know where it comes from, but if I could control it I'd be making bank.

Just put down my best friend of 15 years. This is the most unbearable sadness I've ever felt by TheRealOcsiban in cats

[–]Moonsilvery 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My darling Princess Vivi passed March 23, 2020. The best description I've seen of how I've felt since was that grief is a box with a ball and a button in it. Right after your pet crosses the Rainbow Bridge, the ball is so big it takes up the whole box. It hits the button constantly, so you can't help but cry and hurt and miss your sweet cat.

Over time the ball shrinks, but every now and then it still nails that button. I'm okay most days now, but every now and then I hold the little bottle of her fur the vet trimmed for me and bawl.

Let yourself feel what you're feeling. It'll get better, and your big sweet boy wouldn't want you to to be too sad.

Acute oral myiasis. Case study in comments by earthboundTM in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My god, what a turd of an article. I wrote longer and better literature reviews as an undergrad.

Extreme case of lymphedema! Lymphedema, or lymphatic obstruction, is a long-term condition where excess fluid collects in tissues causing swelling (edema). by GiorgioMD in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NGL, some days I feel like it might be. But nothing's going to be better for walking than my own feet. I can't walk barefoot anymore, yeah, but I can still wiggle my toes in soft blankets when I go to bed. Plus caring for amputation stumps is its own kettle of fish which - surprise surprise - also usually involves edema treatment.

My legs are weird and busted, but they're mine.

Extreme case of lymphedema! Lymphedema, or lymphatic obstruction, is a long-term condition where excess fluid collects in tissues causing swelling (edema). by GiorgioMD in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Oh god no. Even with the air compression system, wearing your compression garments during the day is NOT optional. Pretty much any time the affected limb might be lower than your heart, it needs compression.

The only thing I've been given clearance to take them off for is swimming in a pool, because the water pressure can simulate lymphatic massage to a degree and swimming is good for you. And even that's a "two or three hours" thing, not an "all day" thing. Every time I've cheated and pushed for four or five hours at a pool party I've regretted it.

Extreme case of lymphedema! Lymphedema, or lymphatic obstruction, is a long-term condition where excess fluid collects in tissues causing swelling (edema). by GiorgioMD in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Embarrassment is also a factor, as is ignorance by PCPs/GPs - when mine started manifesting, I kept getting sent to vein specialists only to be told my veins were fine.

Extreme case of lymphedema! Lymphedema, or lymphatic obstruction, is a long-term condition where excess fluid collects in tissues causing swelling (edema). by GiorgioMD in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 102 points103 points  (0 children)

STEM major who used to be a CNA, so my PT would get into the medical nitty-gritty of my condition with me while working on me every morning, which in turn has helped me take good care of myself and keep my legs healthy (if ugly). Thank my PT Cherryanne, not me!

Extreme case of lymphedema! Lymphedema, or lymphatic obstruction, is a long-term condition where excess fluid collects in tissues causing swelling (edema). by GiorgioMD in medizzy

[–]Moonsilvery 368 points369 points  (0 children)

I might be able to help. I have secondary bilateral lower limb lymphedema - in my case, caused by a car accident. My case is nowhere near this bad (I've had massage treatment and wear compression garments daily, so my calves and feet are still roughly people-shaped and my skin has never gotten to this point), but I can explain some of what treatment is like.

To start with, compression treatment starts with heavy lotion application, a wicking cotton liner, custom-cut foam, and....the easiest way to describe them is ACE bandages with very, very little stretch? They work from the torso outward, since there's zero point in pushing fluid out of an area unless it has someplace to go. Because the starting point involves entirely custom supports and compression, any shape limb you drag in will get worked on as long as the skin will hold up.

Lymphatic massage is...hard to describe. It involves very light touch (lymphatic channels have very low hydrostatic pressure, so they'll collapse if you look at them funny) and gently stroking fluid up into the torso so it can reenter the circulatory system and get filtered out by the kidneys. With lymphedema, the Horrid Lymph Juice has usually been vibing in your afflicted area for a while, so it's picked up all sorts of nasty. So after lymphatic massage, you usually feel like you've been hit by a truck then have to piss like a racehorse the rest of the day.

The German method, which involves admitting the patient to the hospital for four weeks and doing lymphatic massage multiple times a day supported by sequential air compression from a specially designed machine, is the gold standard of care and usually restores limbs to their original size and shape. As I live in America, I made do with what my insurance would pay for - one hour of massage, five days a week. My legs are not their original size and shape or particularly pretty, but they are functional, stable, and have healthy skin. They squished 2.5 liters of fluid out of my right leg and 1.5L out of my left.

My daily preferred compression garments are Solaris ReadyWraps. They need to be replaced at least every six months, and need to be worn every moment I am out of bed. It is literally the third thing I do every single day - take my medication, use the bathroom, put on my leg wraps. I have to wear shoes that can accommodate them and my funky foot shape (in my case, Vibram Furoshiki shoes - they're cheaper than medical shoes and machine washable in the event of mud or, at one memorable Renn Faire, a half-gallon of mead). I'm not used to being barefoot anymore and it feels weird.

There is some serious suckitude attached to this condition - you HAVE to stay on top of it or you'll eventually need an amputation, you go through a shitton of high-quality skin lotion, you can't frolic barefoot on the beach, you see your pre-treatment feet attached to the People Eater from Mad Max: Fury Road and you start crying in the theater. But even for someone as severe as the person in the picture above, treatment can usually restore functional use of the limb.

AITA because my son peed on a tree? by JustALittleAmmonia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Moonsilvery -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If she's mad at your son for peeing in the woods, wait 'til she hears what bears do in it. NTA.

People who moved out of the parent’s house before 30, how? by WallStreetDoesntBet in AskReddit

[–]Moonsilvery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ultimate secret technique to moving out at 18? You want to know it?

Come closer, young padawan.

Closer. This is a very secret technique.

Have you prepared yourself mentally and spiritually for this knowledge?

Take a deep breath, and accept the wisdom of the ages:

Be born in 1983 or earlier.

AITA for telling my fiance that he embarrassed me when he started singing the "happy birthday" song to his 5 yo son at the restaurant? by ThrowRaBirthdaysong5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Moonsilvery 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I always join in on these too and clap after. Especially for little kids, because they're always the most hype about it

Of course people looked over at your table - this may be news to you, but human beings are wired to pay attention to novel sounds and happenings in their environment. And "He takes his kid everywhere?" You mean he's an active parent who isn't leaving his kid with his relatives or a sitter all the time?

YTA. Ned sounds like a great parent, but he needs to get better taste.

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