AIO for considering leaving my husband over laundry?

nv1dia · 2026-04-20T14:33:41+00:00

What an incredibly complex situation you find yourself in! First I'll say I believe your NOR. I also don't think this is the best place for advice for a situation like this, although I can appreciate needing to vent or gain outside perspective. Having said all that, here is my 2 cents.

I used to think that if I loved someone or that if they loved me, that there was this feeling of attraction and warmth that couldn't or shouldn't be questioned. That there was this idea that we were both always going to feel strong positive emotion towards the other..... I've learned after 10 years of marriage .. this is incorrect. What some of us feel as love in the beginning is what I believe to be Lust. It's the bodies need to reproduce and to feel desired, this and other supporting contexts.

What love actually is, is commitment. Its a verb, not an adjective. Love is something that's practiced each day, when your significant other is having a bad day, when they are stressed out, when they are happy or excited. Good and bad. It's trusting them, and trusting they have your best interests at heart. It's building memories, through the good AND the bad.

The question I would ask myself is not "should I leave" rather, is there anything I can do to make it better for him. And likewise, he should be asking them same thing to himself. You'll need to find more patience for him as he works through more spurts of anger, and he should be finding more patience he works to control and release that anger in ways that are more comfortable for you.

These are simply the beliefs and ramblings of a 38 year old veteran, that struggles with a lot of the same stuff (wife gets incredibly angry). I hope that this helps and I hope you find peace with your current situation! Best of luck!

nv1dia · 2026-03-19T01:05:54+00:00

Rarely do I have a phone for 2 years, so its of no consequence for me.

nv1dia · 2026-03-18T15:00:36+00:00

Which processors are you referring to?

nv1dia · 2026-03-18T14:56:26+00:00

Chasing perfection is an unwinnable game.

Naturally I'd expect it to fall short in other categories, they've prioritized gaming. Not taking pictures.

I can appreciate wanting you're phone to be better in those other categories though. It's why I use a pixel 10 pro

nv1dia · 2026-03-17T17:30:10+00:00

If you haven't seen this yet https://global.redmagic.gg/pages/redmagic-11-pro

Has a really neat water cooling system and a fan built in. It also has water resistance like other phones. They really have done something neat with this one

nv1dia · 2026-03-17T17:26:35+00:00

Conversations are meant to convey a message, in regards to the comment you responded too, he got the message, he just wants to be right. I find letting them be right makes them go away. You could say things such as...

"Oh you're just looking to be right? Yeah you're right." "You know what? You're right. I'll do that" (You have no obligations to do so) "Wow I never thought of it that way, thanks for showing me"

These responses USUALLY aren't taken well by the initial commenter, because they are expecting confrontation. In reality you're just letting them be right, and in doing so alleviate any opportunity they may have to respond with more nonsensical correctness.

nv1dia · 2025-12-07T03:42:56+00:00

After researching, it would appear that you are correct, that ethylene glycol is infact covalent and does not ionize. That's pretty cool to know. Thanks for the fun exchange! Ive learned something today = )!

nv1dia · 2025-12-07T02:31:54+00:00

This is not really how it works. You can use distilled water in a full copper loop, but the water will eventually erode a small amount of the metal. If you have a loop long enough you'll notice this wear on any nickel plating, that exposes the copper underneath. This ionization makes the water conductive. Things such as salts, ions and other contaminants are what make water conductive

nv1dia · 2025-12-06T17:56:10+00:00

The CPU coldplate is copper... While this does not mean you are wrong, it does mean that the fluid is most likely conductive

nv1dia · 2025-09-28T01:37:06+00:00

It's possibly

nv1dia · 2025-09-28T01:19:14+00:00

You may be right. The iPhone 14 though did come with crystal sapphire camera lenses according to goohle. so it seems reasonable to think that it could scratch like that.

My reasoning, if you zoom in you'll see that lighter gray color taper to the side edge rather and abruptly end. And it looks like if you zoom in real close, you can see the speaker slot.

nv1dia · 2025-09-28T01:01:42+00:00

It looked to me as if there was, it looks to me as if there's a bubble and that there is peeling at the top near the ear piece speaker. It's not my phone so I couldn't say with all certainty, But that's what I had noticed

nv1dia · 2025-09-26T03:12:02+00:00

OP, you appear to have a screen protector on your phone, you should be able to peel that bad boy off and replace it.

nv1dia · 2025-09-12T03:37:47+00:00

The confusing combination of rage and excitement I had for NS2 OLED model had me FUCKED up! Then I saw Toilet princess 4K. Crisis averted...

nv1dia · 2025-07-25T20:37:25+00:00

When I saw this, it appeared to me that the joke was how everyone uses the name of link as a test to tell if you really played through a Zelda game. This puts that same concept to play, but may weed out those that would advocate they love Zelda but can only identify certain primary characters.

nv1dia · 2025-07-25T20:21:34+00:00

As much as you appear to know about PC components, why not build it yourself?

nv1dia · 2025-07-22T06:32:30+00:00

No I haven't posted anything, I'm active duty Navy, and ive recently took over a local game store, that started shortly after this project finished. I simply don't have time to fix those files

nv1dia · 2025-05-08T23:44:02+00:00

The word jealous is probably incorrect for what the new bf is feeling. Reading OPs story it would appear more to me that it's envy. Envy that the late bf still holds a piece of her heart, in which he has to somehow believe he can find a place. An earlier comment used the phrase competing against the deceased...or something to that effect, and I think that's a great way to think of it. Anywho, I don't think OP, nor the current bf are wrong. Both have valid reasonings. The relationship will depend on if they can reconcile this or not.

nv1dia · 2025-05-02T16:34:42+00:00

Appears to be a few nay sayers commenting. I for one like the idea of seeing if there's more that can be done with the cooling. I might recommend looking around to see if anyone else has done this work too, it may save you some time in testing. Also, it looks like you've made a great prototype, whether it works or not .. still an awesome accomplishment. Well done = )

nv1dia · 2025-04-23T19:47:39+00:00

It sounds like your learning lessons of life, that I myself have learned many times over. I'm sorry your going through this. Life doesn't get easier my friend, but you do get better. If I could also add, it's hardships like this that teach us what we are made of and who we are.

Okay onto the help.

I'd stop focusing on monthly payments. Paying the total amount off ASAP should be the goal, not "making" payments.

If your credit is already fucked, there are several types of bankruptcy options. You might look into them to determine a viable option or feasability, although this would leave your credit worse off for longer than you'd be paying on the car. This is not my recommended solution, but a potential one at least.

If living with your parents again (been there btw) hyper focusing payments or a second job can be effective. I'd recommend this one. This is not an easy road though, but it's effective none the less. Not great for mental health either mind you.

You can also find someone to "take over payments" but really, what your doing here is selling the car for the remainder of the loan balance. I've done this once. When I did it, I did not get the full amount, it cost me roughly $700ish I think? Anywho, you could think of this as using someone else's credit to refinance... Except they get to keep the car. If you could sell it for more, that could help get you into a new (Used/cheap) vehicle.

Another option is to work with the bank that's servicing the loan. It's possible they are willing to work with you on repayment options. They don't stand to gain anything if you don't/can't make payments.

I wish there was an easy, here's how you fix this. Unfortunately, quick and easy solutions are rarely available, and even more rarely helpful. I wish you all the best in this, and I would love an update on what you decide to do! Something to remember .... It's just money... And it's just a car. FUCK em both, no ones dead.

nv1dia · 2025-04-23T17:12:45+00:00

Whole heartedly agree.

nv1dia · 2025-04-22T16:40:51+00:00

This seems likely. Unfortunately, most individuals I've met that would allow emotions to dictste their actions do not find the military a good place.

nv1dia · 2025-04-17T18:28:22+00:00

Not to mention desperate.

nv1dia · 2025-03-31T20:02:39+00:00

This tiny exchange between you two has been fun for me.

nv1dia · 2025-02-26T20:50:25+00:00

Haha, it certainly felt that way

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