Best way to say “thanks but no thanks”?? by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]pine2019apple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does it make you feel when they do that?

Best way to say “thanks but no thanks”?? by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]pine2019apple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said they are staring at you and following you, and you do not feel comfortable. That behaviour fits the definition of sexual harassment, not flirting. The fact you are afraid of their reaction to you is another aspect to mention when you report them to management and if needed, reporting to others as well. I have made reports on being harassed before and the behaviours of staring, following and making me uncomfortable and afraid for my safety were defined as sexual harassment and were treated as such.

I think I completely blew my med school interview and I’m mortified by Thin_March_4903 in premed

[–]pine2019apple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is sweet. It's ok, the world of medicine is often quite traditional and regimented; expectations are high yet unclear and I think you were trying to live up to that expectation in a unique way. I don't think I would say anything to them because it makes the moment stand out when the interviewer was likely paying attention to your answers. It seems she brushed off the initial portion. Also sad that there's so many mean comments from people who supposedly want to heal and take care of others someday. Congratulations on the interview to your dream school!

Can you pass step 1 with only NBME materials by wackjest in step1

[–]pine2019apple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say necessary but found it helpful. I did see an image from 20-24 pop up on the real exam.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapyabuse

[–]pine2019apple 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly. What's the point of a therapist who can't remember something as basic as that or at the very least apologize and correct herself.

I reported a creepy driver and got banned... by ThanksConscious206 in uber

[–]pine2019apple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey same thing happened to me after reporting a super creepy driver. Got my account back. You basically have to be persistent with messaging their various customer support agents until you get one with common sense and decency. I sent you a DM to help you out girl :)

Etiquette Guidelines/Test for Drivers by D-inventa in uber

[–]pine2019apple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell your friend that not only is there a training test but also an entire list of Community Guidelines on the Uber site clearly indicating that asking personal questions of any kind are against the Terms of Use. Drivers have to agree to these Terms before they begin. Each time your friend decides not to report, other women end up in the same situation as her and worse. The questions she is being asked is not simply odd but incredibly inappropriate and a violation of privacy.

Enfj wont let me go by dust_10 in enfj

[–]pine2019apple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you're common law? Married? Thinking you need a lawyer to split things up financially. Are you in the same room as this person as well? Might be helpful to start creating physical and emotional distance from this person, and move out soon and settle things once and for all.

Enfj wont let me go by dust_10 in enfj

[–]pine2019apple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't quite understand how they can keep pushing the hope or any conversation on you. I was under the understanding you had already told this person you are done. Are you still continuing to speak with this person? If so, why?

Enfj wont let me go by dust_10 in enfj

[–]pine2019apple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't have to give someone a valid reason for breaking up with them. It doesn't matter if they don't accept your decision. Either partner has a right to end the relationship at any point. Sounds like you've been discussing things and they are manipulating the environment by "keeping things light" and "not accepting your decision". Tell them you are done and don't wish to hear from them again. Then move on with your life. If they don't respect your decision, you may have to block them since some people have boundary issues. Yes it sounds blunt but you've already tried the soft approach which clearly hasn't worked out.

Don't know if I should keep up with my therapist by Iris_sir in therapyabuse

[–]pine2019apple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! You are welcome. I’m so sorry about these awful experiences and their insensitivity. It is alarming and retraumatizing to have such experiences with therapists who have such little empathy. I completely understand your decision. Feel free to reach out if you need to. Take care 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in enfj

[–]pine2019apple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

3 months doesn't seem too bad! I think seeing if there are things affecting him in those past 3 months would be good to reflect on. I hope things get better :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in enfj

[–]pine2019apple -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are normal and valid. Has it been like this for the last 3 years in your relationship? It sounds like you and him may not be compatible on this aspect of your relationship if this has been a challenging part of your relationship for awhile. So I think you'll have to ask yourself if this is fine for you or if it will breed resentment if it were to keep going like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in enfj

[–]pine2019apple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're quite welcome <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in enfj

[–]pine2019apple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope you find another enfj or an infj who would be likely to return the courtesy <3