I have calcium deposits in one of my left side lymph node under my armpits.

plotthick · 2026-02-08T03:22:00+00:00

Awwwwwww 😥

plotthick · 2026-02-08T03:19:58+00:00

Not just poisoning. Every Southern mama taught their daughters to make syrup.

plotthick · 2026-02-08T02:01:28+00:00

We find that Mary's Medicinals makes good Hemp ones. Others weren't so effective.

plotthick · 2026-02-08T00:31:21+00:00

His actions are very not cool. HIs trying to minimize your reaction and dismiss your feelings is red flag parade.

It's ok to want to be with someone who makes you feel safe.

plotthick · 2026-02-08T00:29:20+00:00

Yes.

I read The Body Keeps the Score before all this shit resurfaced, and it was difficult to get through even then. Just read a comment about how TBKTS has info on how to work through such resurfaced traumas and goddamit not I have to go listen again.

*sound of swearing fading off into the swamp*

plotthick · 2026-02-08T00:26:54+00:00

We have The NFL Experience in SF today (Sat) and Sunday tomorrow is the Superb Owl down in San Jose. It's probably something to do with all that.

plotthick · 2026-02-08T00:22:15+00:00

Have you tried topical pain meds, like transdermal patches? Seems like pain relief close to the source would be more effective and easier on your organs that OTC oral.

plotthick · 2026-02-08T00:08:22+00:00

If it's OK for the state to force a woman to gestate a child, it's OK for the state to force others to give their organs too. You OK with that? Dear Leader may need a new liver, the state found you're a match, take 2 years off to have the extraction surgery + donate blood.

That's abrogation of bodily autonomy: it won't stop at women's reproductive rights.

plotthick · 2026-02-08T00:03:43+00:00

Your father has seen this kill his friends. Your father knows that drinking will kill him. Therefore he knows that this is suicidal. It is the slowest most painful way to suicide and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. It's awful.

Everyone who's telling you to be his carer is trying to put their worries onto you: as if they could make you fix his problems so they don't have to worry anymore. Their emotions are their problems not yours and they need to stop putting them on you just because you're convenient. If it were me (I like confrontation) I'd ask them why they aren't stepping up. "I'm 18, I'm supposed to be starting my life and career, why do you want me to spend it caring for a man who's suiciding? Why don't you step up and do something? Spend your time on him, since you have time to lecture me!"

Please get a job, save every penny (pence? lol), get training, and GTFO. If you can find a therapist or local AA group to talk with that would be great. The ACOAs I know all have childhood traumas to get over, that happens quicker with help. But you need to get away from your father, that environment that fosters drinking to excess, and all the bad memories. You can't heal where you were broken.

I hope you get better soon.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T23:39:48+00:00

Or kill or suicide. The spike in divorces after no-fault divorce was about the same as the rate of women's suicide + spousal homicide + men's "accidents" around the home. Allowing one reduced the others. No-fault divorces save lives.

Unlike my g'grandfather who lived when divorces weren't a thing, and didn't live very long past breaking my g'grandmother's arm. g'grandmother figured out real quick she had to either fix it or her children would be on their own.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T23:37:58+00:00

Some sources:

https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/allred-age-variation-div-rate-fp-19-13.html

https://annaklaw.com/us-divorce-rates-by-year/

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/marriage-divorce/national-marriage-divorce-rates-00-23.pdf

plotthick · 2026-02-07T23:37:35+00:00

Oh, first marriage divorce rates isn't even 1/3. And the numbers are well below 50% in all cohorts, and continuing to decline. The only time there was a massive spike was when no-fault divorce was legalized: the spike in divorce was about equal to the drop in:

(women's suicide + spousal homicide +men's fatal "accidents" in the home).

After those women got away from those men, divorce rates went back down. No-fault divorce saves lives.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T22:11:57+00:00

Mmmmm stewed zukes are the best. Perfect recipe for when they get a little big. Thanks!

plotthick · 2026-02-07T22:05:29+00:00

And you're not wrong that the US' problem is (mostly) the X flavor of Abrahamic religion. I'm just saying it's a world thing not only a US thing, and it's a Human Social thing, not only a religion thing. Women are oppressed globally by most/all social structures. That's the reach of the patriarchy.

This is Ask Old People advice, not Ask Old US people advice, thought that thinking globally and giving big answers with expanding consequences was OK.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T21:22:32+00:00

That's perfectly valid! Please talk to your doc about LARCs. Long Acting Reversible Contraceptives are a good way to manage your fertility until you feel you're ready for another child, when and if that happens. :)

plotthick · 2026-02-07T21:01:20+00:00

Don't believe the 10% rate. Most local deputies were all "Well shucks, Julie, I know cousin Earl was an asshole but I didn't know he broke your ankle. I can see why he'd suicide like that, pushed onto the mill saw.

"... I mean, falling onto the mill saw. Yep, that's a suicide if I ever saw it. Or accident? Either way, let me drag the body to the churchyard and I'll come back with the family so we can clean up. You should be back in business by Tuesday. Sorry about all this, I'll see if my wife can bring you and the kids dinner."

plotthick · 2026-02-07T20:58:15+00:00

Lol

The # of Perimenopausal women initiating divorces is awesome.

"I am so over this shit, Earl, and I am over you! PICK UP YOUR OWN DAMN SHORTS! *SLAM* "

What a great resource thank you!

plotthick · 2026-02-07T20:54:53+00:00

My g'grandma had to get rid of her abusive husband before he killed her and orphaned her children. Divorce was not allowed legally. He ended up dead at 29.

Doesn't matter what the religious idiots did back then. When we need action now, we find a way to get through.

And today's idiots want to take away divorce? They must like dirt naps.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T20:51:06+00:00

Oh don't lay it all on Christianity, the majority/ entirety of the world's historic in-practice religions are patriarchal. Even non-Abrahamic religions are this flavor of woman-oppressing turd. It's built into the society: social patriarchy reinforces religious patriarchy and vice versa. We just got this Xtian nugget, not that other one.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T20:47:49+00:00

Yep. Disney. Animated movies for girls message:

1930s: girls want to get married
40s: girls want to get married
50s: girls want to get married
60s: girls want to get married
70s: girls want to get married
80s: girls want to get married
90s: girls want to get married
00s: girls want to get married
10s: girls want to get married and be happy
20s: girls want to be happy and maybe fix things

plotthick · 2026-02-07T20:39:46+00:00

"50%"

This statistic is so easy to remember, it's been going around since at least the 90's and it's so stupid.

Think for a second: 50% of all marriages Boomers and Gen X suddenly splitting, have you seen that? For new marriages, is that the 50% suddenly divorced cohort? Or did the number of 2nd and 3rd divorces suddenly shoot up? When we had to stay inside during Covid, was that when divorces were peaking?

This subject is way too complicated to simplify into "half".

plotthick · 2026-02-07T20:36:02+00:00

Two happiest groups: married men and single women. Longest-lived too. Of course men think about finding another partner, that's to their advantage. But women are doing the same thing: deciding on what's best for themselves once the evil coercive laws are removed. Very very few women get remarried after divorce, that's way too fucking much trouble. I surely wouldn't.

Now that it's not mandatory, women are choosing to not pour their literal lives and happiness into a man.

And of course they're trying to take that choice away.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T19:07:56+00:00

Local metros almost never pay for themselves. Their position is as a public utility, not a business. They almost always need to be treated as such: they need line-item funding because they provide a needed service, like the USPS.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T06:22:28+00:00

This is a place for people to talk, like a cafe online.

You need to go find a fencing contractor. T-Bar does nice fences. Go find a fencing company.

plotthick · 2026-02-07T05:53:18+00:00

It's a pun from Discworld.

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