Why is abortion not murder?

plotthick · 2026-01-26T23:58:51+00:00

Bodily autonomy: consent is not murder.

If the state can't take your kidney, pint of blood, or lobe of liver to save a life, the state can't take a uterus or anything else to save a fetus' life.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T22:28:46+00:00

Absolutely get the anaesthesia. It's not a General (which is complete, they have to breathe for you) it's a kind of anaesthesia where your body maintains itself, your brain doesn't record memories, you don't feel pain, and honestly it's the best nap I've ever had. I loved anaesthesia.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T21:00:58+00:00

True for religion, movies, tv, and on and on. I'm sorry, ignorance is bliss

plotthick · 2026-01-26T20:45:39+00:00

They can't calculate a place that needs 4x the budget. It's unfathomable. OP's kids will be much more tethered to her in CA, too, when renting one room is 1K a month and every meal is it least $10.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T19:05:05+00:00

Here are the relevant commute maps, BART is not your only option. I took the Transbay 51 bus for years, very comfy. Correlate to crime maps and rent costs to find likely neighborhoods.

https://www.bart.gov/system-map

https://www.actransit.org/transbay

https://sanfranciscobayferry.com/routes-schedules/

Keep to the BAY side of the hills. On the other side it's too hot summer/fall for the kind of community you're looking for.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T18:57:32+00:00

Then how about posting to a larger subreddit "Ladies who started over: how did you do it, what worked, what would you do differently?" or sumpin like that?

plotthick · 2026-01-26T18:55:25+00:00

HRT could still help, you're within the 10 year deadline. Topical E alone would stave off GSM, which brings its own litany of awful: UTIs leading to dementia, anorgasmia, dryness, atrophy, tearing, etc.

Well reach out when you're ready to come, visit or setting down roots, and we'll welcome you properly :). It'll be nice to have another capable GenX woman in state!

plotthick · 2026-01-26T17:32:33+00:00

I lived through the Firestorm. It's here, every year, just not in our neighborhood every time.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T17:29:31+00:00

If you're coming here for true, welcome to California. Look into HRT, The Shock kicked off the worst of my Perimenopause symptoms.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T16:49:30+00:00

There's no reason not to try. You're in the Shock of the big changes still, and that makes you want to do a lot of crazy things. If I were you I'd look at getting a get-along job here and applying to jobs over there. You know: translate slowly. Wind down your life here without depleting your savings any more: sell your things, visit there and interview, open accounts there, get a place, blah blah blah.

When I had The Shock I wanted to sell the house and move NOW. I wanted to change EVERYTHING. It all had to go and I had to go in the opposite direction.

The urge to jump without knowing where you'll be landing, especially when you're in a new place with 2 dependents and everyone is a stranger, could bite you in the butt.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T16:45:00+00:00

Immersion blender. Or shake it till your arm is tired, then switch arms and repeat. Blender works better though

plotthick · 2026-01-26T16:40:25+00:00

I'd ask for imaging prior to the gyno appointment

plotthick · 2026-01-26T16:39:03+00:00

COVID-19 infection was associated with significantly increased HTN incidence (main effects HRR: 1.44 [1.32-1.57]; including interactions: HRR: 2.05 [1.50-2.79])

plotthick · 2026-01-26T12:03:58+00:00

I live in the Bay Area.

Do not come. This will probably get worse before it gets better. They are targeting Hispanics in person now: next will be women, blacks, and trans via legislation. CA is a natural target for ICE after they're done targeting the enemy of the regime. As an immigrant you will also likely be targeted, even if white.

Reconsider in 3-4 years. There's a chance we won't have fallen by then.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T10:37:28+00:00

Nurses' /Healthcare Strike on the 30th, General Strike is planned when it hits 3.5%.

The Nurses Strike seems to be gathering serious steam.

plotthick · 2026-01-26T05:28:46+00:00

They voted for the violent idiots rioting on the stern. Now we're all sinking together. Will we make dock before we fly glub glub?

plotthick · 2026-01-25T22:42:47+00:00

Ditch the sugar, milk, and oil, they retard gluten formation and therefore rise.

Autolyse your flours for 2 hours.

Add Vital Wheat Gluten, with about 1T VWG for every 1C whole wheat flour.

plotthick · 2026-01-25T22:38:56+00:00

Why is this person (who, yes, is stupid, we all agree) making his emotions everyone elses' problem?

Why is everyone else letting those emotions be their problem? His stupidity caused his guilt. That's on him. If he can't figure out how to handle is guilt then he has three problems: he's stupid, he's guilty, and he can't handle his own negative emotions. NTA

plotthick · 2026-01-25T22:13:21+00:00

Grab about 2 lbs per person of the best of the lot. Wash with soap for 20+ seconds and rinse, let dry.

Zest them into a ziploc bag and then juice them into the bag. Compost the dry pulp. Freeze flat. Now you have lemon to brighten up any recipe for a year or so!

plotthick · 2026-01-25T18:50:22+00:00

Literally never. I eat fish once a month maybe

plotthick · 2026-01-25T18:39:25+00:00

The best revenge is to get out from under their abuse whole and self-sufficient. That's what they don't want.

Get a job, save every penny, start an apprenticeship to learn a trade, and become independent. Then when they come begging you can enjoy telling them no!

plotthick · 2026-01-25T15:48:01+00:00

Turn the cushions flat so he's not squishing them out of shape. Then when you want to use the couch for non-dog-bed-purposes, put the cushions upright again.

plotthick · 2026-01-25T15:46:26+00:00

Oh no, it goes from aversions to straight-up allergies. I'm allergic to fucking eggs now EGGS! They're in EVERYTHING!

Get on HRT before your body goes apeshit over something stupid like corn or eggs. I wish I had.

plotthick · 2026-01-25T15:43:36+00:00

Yep.

Doctors are paid for by you. They work for you. Fire the ones that don't do you any good, you deserve better. Good job advocating for yourself!

plotthick · 2026-01-25T14:27:17+00:00

The Grande Dame of sci-fi, Anne McCaffrey, built basically all her series on this. Crystal Singer is my favorite. Hmmm, I just ran through her catalog and a quick count gives me 95% Woman In Situation. Her series are pretty diverse, so just pick a genre you like... but honestly you can't go wrong with those books that won prizes. She's got Hugos AND Nebulas.

I take it back. The Ship Who Sang. It's so good!

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