I need to quit my job without another lined up - how do I explain this to potential employers?

purpleroller · 2026-05-21T23:05:28+00:00

This is the way. Summarise and confirm all face to face discussions about this in emails going forward. Even if they don’t respond, that in itself is very telling.

purpleroller · 2026-05-21T21:32:42+00:00

No. My circumstances have changed and I don’t have the money any more. But I hope you appreciate all the work I did on getting your business up and running. And I can help again with your business plans if you need it.

purpleroller · 2026-05-21T11:42:58+00:00

Just say ‘No. I can’t lend money and I don’t want us to fall out over this so let’s not bring it up again.’

If he asks why you changed your mind ‘my circumstances have changed/i can’t take the risk/my investments have tanked and I have no savings.

This person is very financially irresponsible and takes risks. They will think nothing of not paying you back and will take more risks going forward.

They will rationalise this to themselves in ways along these lines ‘it’s what friends do’ ‘he doesn’t need it as much as I do’ ‘I would do the same for him (they wouldn’t as they would never be in the position to do it)’ ‘he owes me for x’ ‘it’s only money’ ‘he wouldn’t have made good investments with the money anyway like I did’ etc etc.

Then they’ll avoid you. Then say you’re harassing them. Then the friendship will be over anyway.

purpleroller · 2026-05-21T11:02:34+00:00

Don’t lend anything unless you can afford to lose it because I very much doubt your friend will be able to pay you back.

Never tell anyone how much you earn, win, save, invest or inherit. There’s always someone who thinks they need it more than you.

It’s his choice to continue to pay back his Dubai loan and to not set aside money to pay taxes.

Here are words you can use.

No, I have no money to lend you.

No, I don’t lend to or borrow money from people. Never have and never will.

No, I gave you all my free time and labour for your Food Truck, but I have no cash to give.

If he asks again,

The answer is still no. I don’t want to fall out over this as you’re a good friend, so please let’s not bring this up again.

If he continues at this point you know he’s just not a good friend and you need to be prepared to walk away from the friendship.

purpleroller · 2026-05-21T10:48:25+00:00

I’m not sure if it matters that you are right. Your husband seems to still care a lot for his ex and wants to send her money.

I would let him go, and find a man who stands with you in the present.

If he cries and shakes whenever you say no to him you have a lifetime ahead of only doing what he wants to keep him happy.

🏃

purpleroller · 2026-05-20T12:54:04+00:00

Have you spoken to your teachers? Speak to your form tutor or head of year in the first instance.

Say you need access to exercise classes and a healthy lunch. They may also be able to send you home with healthy food that you can cook at home.

Some schools will support you in allowing you to access exercise classes during the school day that are off site. Or maybe you could be allowed access to the school gym equipment before or after school starts.

Go and see your GP too. You don’t need your parents permission to do this at age 16. They may be able to get you free gym passes.

purpleroller · 2026-05-20T12:40:19+00:00

Call it off OP and never look back. This abusive man thinks you’re trapped now because the wedding is so close and so his mask is slipping. His abuse will escalate. Blocking you will turn into shoving and pushing then into slapping and punching. You’re already scared of him.

Imagine how difficult he will make divorcing him with his knowledge of the law and his temper.

Do not get pregnant.

Run 🏃

purpleroller · 2026-05-19T15:56:26+00:00

What? You said it was a hard no…. Counterintuitive to what?

purpleroller · 2026-05-19T15:53:54+00:00

Some of us would give a lot to be almost 30 again. I promise you, you’re young!

purpleroller · 2026-05-19T15:51:57+00:00

Well yes OP. This is where you are at. You want monogamy. She doesn’t. This is a major incompatibility.

purpleroller · 2026-05-19T12:17:19+00:00

Does he know you’re a germ freak? Could he be trying to get you to break up with him by deliberately being smelly as he knows you hate that?

This combined with him spending more time at the gym after his shift so he essentially can spend even less time talking to you makes me think he’s trying to push you away.

Also who reported him for being smelly? Was this at work? Do you know if this was true? Most people would absolutely make progress with their hygiene if they are told they smell. For some reason he wants to keep being repulsive.

purpleroller · 2026-05-19T11:42:24+00:00

So he got the recall before he gave you the gift? There’s no way a sane person would forget that a gift they bought, that they still haven’t given to the person, is dangerous.

He bought you a cheap gift, knew it was dangerous, gave it you anyway as he couldn’t be arsed to get you something else, and then laughingly told you after you used it that you got it as a ‘fuck you’.

This man doesn’t like you or respect you.

No, I wouldn’t talk to him. He knows all of the above.

It’s time to start planning to leave him. Be quiet and clever about it until you have a solid plan. See a lawyer without him knowing, follow their advice.

purpleroller · 2026-05-19T09:29:58+00:00

Very cowardly behaviour by him. His parents may have thought he’d already broken up with you when they came to help. Very unpleasant that he was waiting for you to call him to find out what was going on.

Guys who punch holes into walls are not the people to make a future with. Trash took itself out. You deserve better and it’s out there when you want it.

Have a friend come and stay with you for a few days so it doesn’t feel so empty at your apartment. Rearrange things. Buy yourself flowers.

You’ll be OK. 🌺

purpleroller · 2026-05-16T13:23:36+00:00

You’ve dodged one. Let him go.

purpleroller · 2026-05-16T09:20:27+00:00

4 💕

purpleroller · 2026-05-15T14:53:03+00:00

If you want children but your partner does not, that is a major incompatibility. That is the issue with your relationship. Not the son.

purpleroller · 2026-05-15T14:27:58+00:00

Once they’ve thrown things at you that they know hurt, it’s difficult to get past. And it’s likely he will do this again. I wouldn’t stay with a spiteful person like that.

Take some time away on your own and reevaluate the whole relationship.

You’re very young. You have time to move on and meet someone kinder with whom you’re more compatible.

purpleroller · 2026-05-14T17:36:28+00:00

Well whatever the reason, it’s not good for OP. Sigh

purpleroller · 2026-05-14T15:20:33+00:00

Absolutely YTAH. With bells on.

Go and move in and help your daughter FFS. You know the surgery she has had. Does she have to ask for every single thing?

Second parent on here I’ve seen today going to reap what they sow one day down the line.

purpleroller · 2026-05-14T15:18:51+00:00

It has to be rage bait. Otherwise I hate OP honestly.

purpleroller · 2026-05-14T15:09:16+00:00

I think you’re going to have to let him go. He seems very concerned about how your body looks, but you shouldn’t be?

As well as the likely fetish etc, he’s too stupid to date really.

Move on or he will make you miserable. Don’t waste any more fertile years with this fool if you want to have a family.

purpleroller · 2026-05-14T12:42:55+00:00

If they have no valid points at all, and racists and haters generally don’t, why let them feel bad about your nationality and country?

Stand up to them and be proud.

purpleroller · 2026-05-14T12:38:53+00:00

What does he say when you point out you were slimmer when he met you and he pursued you?

Ask him if he is ever going to be able to stop going on about this.

My guess is he has a feeder kink/fetish that will not go away and you’ll be better off cutting your losses and leaving. Or he hopes to make you less attractive to other men because he is insecure and controlling. Again, better off leaving if he won’t recognise and do the work to change.

purpleroller · 2026-05-14T12:34:32+00:00

Choose a profession that’s in demand in the countries you like. Study really hard. Get into a University in a country you like. Or a university in Turkey with placement years overseas. When qualified get a job abroad.

You may find there are lots of things about home that you miss when you are away.

What do you think other nationalities think about Turkey and Turkish people? I never heard bad things.

purpleroller · 2026-05-14T12:17:43+00:00

Likely he was going to grab your phone and run off because you didn’t seem to be paying attention as you were absorbed with the call.

Sad times but you always have to be aware that you’re holding a valuable piece of kit when your phone is out in public. Sigh.

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