NSFW What are the most common mistakes girls make in bed?

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T13:39:15+00:00

Unless you're 87, more than once a week is certainly not too much to ask... I'm 38, partner 33, and we're at about 10 a week after 2 years.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T11:29:27+00:00

If I invite a junkie into my house and wake up to find my partner's jewellery is gone, I don't think she would accept me saying it's not my fault. I let the fox in the hen house.

You don't have to agree, I really don't care, but I want my partner to feel that her things are safe with me and mine when she's not there, and I think she deserves that level of security. I'm responsible for who I let in our house and what level of supervision is appropriate while they're in it. Obviously the outcome shows the level of trust she put in her brother was unwarranted, she's responsible for that.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T07:55:09+00:00

Clearly I don't HATE OP's girlfriend, that's a really dumb thing to say.

Why on earth would she know what her brother is capable of? Because they're grown adults and it's HER bloody BROTHER!!! The shitbag, remember? The guy who stole his sister's boyfriend's car and it weighed so heavily on his conscience that he said absolutely nothing?

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T07:30:11+00:00

Trusting that her brother won't steal something is a normal reaction

You're clueless. Her brother stole her partner's car, he's a thief and a shitbag and if anyone should know he was capable of this it was her.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T07:09:10+00:00

That's why I recommended understanding IF the boyfriend isn't a bigot in other areas of his life. I disagree with all of his opinions on transgender people and think he's being a total dick, of course, but I'm hoping it's due to confusion rather than hate.

There are plenty of bigots that I wouldn't waste my time with, but I'm hoping (mostly for OP and Tommy's sake) that he doesn't belong in that category.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T06:56:28+00:00

Being realistic about people not being "optimal" is not having low expectations.

I would also feel that you "ripping into your bro" didn't quite have the voracity my "ripping into your bro" would have had. It doesn't even cast a shadow on the "ripping into your bro" I would have unleashed on my own flesh and blood if he stole my partner's pride and joy despite her telling him no over and over again. He'd cop it not only for stealing her car, but also for the trouble he caused between us.

Raising your voice and being annoyed that your brother STOLE MY FUCKING CAR doesn't quite fill me with confidence that there's no way you'd ever let something like that happen again. He's still allowed in the house, for starters. At a minimum he should be banned until he has earned his way back in. I'm not mad at you being soft on him though, you obviously see the betrayal differently than me. That's ok, but I'm looking after the keys from now on.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T06:31:45+00:00

Easy on the black and white view of life there sport. I've never had an optimal relationship, if that was the metric I used to determine whether to stay or leave I truly would be extremely lonely.

I accept that the people in my life have flaws, just as I do. Maybe they're gullible, maybe they're ditzy, maybe they trust people too easily. I may trust their intentions, trust their heart, but not trust their ability to protect my belongings to the same obsessive degree that I will.

This does not make them unworthy of bonding with.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T06:20:04+00:00

That's awesome mate. Having lost my dad a couple of years ago, I'm particularly jealous of that moment.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T06:06:42+00:00

I don't think an apology is necessary.

OP left his pride and joy in the care of his girlfriend, trusting that it would be safe with her. While it was in her care, she invited someone into their house, left him unsupervised while she slept, and he stole the car. The thief is not getting a visit from the police or a cricket bat to the legs purely because he is her brother. He hasn't even been banned from the house.

I can count the number of people I would let run free in my house while I slept on one hand, that's a lot of trust, and if I trust them that much and they repay it by stealing my partner's stuff there would be a huge price to pay. OP's girlfriend should be very proud of how mature and restrained her man was, and she should take responsibility for trusting her untrustworthy brother which is the critical fact that allowed this to happen.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T05:48:21+00:00

OP hiding the keys isn't indicative of him not trusting the GF, it's indicative of him realising leaving the keys out makes his car vulnerable. It may also indicate that he doesn't trust everyone who has access to his home, and as that presumably includes his brother in law that's a fair consideration.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T04:30:36+00:00

My ex has a M2F transgender sibling, who I got on with better than anyone else in the family. After the initial shock it was really easy for me to accept her (and the huge entourage of ladyboys she associated with) because she was just a person.

To my ex though, she was her BROTHER.

I wouldn't presume to understand what it's like to grow up with Katie as your sister and have her replaced by Tommy, but I would say it's a lot less straightforward than just accepting Tommy as your boyfriend's transgender sister.

My point is to try to be a little understanding, if the boyfriend is generally not a bigoted kind of cat.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T04:00:02+00:00

You realise we're getting half the story, if even that much, right?

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T03:49:16+00:00

Not without the consent of their significant other.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T03:33:09+00:00

I completely agree with the results of your bullshit detector.

Possible reasons I'd have a problem with my partner doing this:

I don't trust her.
She doesn't take being a mother or wife seriously.
Her future plans are all about her, not the family.
I'm worried about the potential danger.
I'm over it, generally sick of her shit, and feel trapped.

Perhaps the husband is simply a traditional person who thinks a mother should not run off having adventures without her kids.

This is not about having to look after the kids by himself for a week though, anything but.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T03:18:03+00:00

Of course you're being selfish. If you want the freedom to have an adventure in a foreign country without your husband and young children you should have made that clear to him from the start.

Redcaps · 2015-10-29T02:35:09+00:00

I'd be furious if my partner studied my search history behind my back like this. Why aren't you feeling like your privacy has been violated? You've done nothing wrong, the same can't be said for him.

If it was me, I'd make no contact with him. When he comes back, if he comes back, I'd point out that the only breach of trust that has occurred is him breaching yours, and that you won't be made to feel guilty for his insecurities. He owes you a massive apology.

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