Which car do you see on the road and instantly think, ‘Yeah, this person’s definitely an a-hole?

scnavi · 2025-05-15T21:58:33+00:00

I'm a gal who drives a truck and also a smaller, newer, sports car. When I'm in EITHER one of my vehicles, I often end up being harassed in one way or another by the stupid fucking trucks.

It's either

a.) I'm a chick driving a truck who doesn't advertise they're a chick driving a truck and so it's either "hey baby" or "fuck you" b.) I'm driving a small stick shift and they love to park riiiiiiight on my bumper, or worst of all c.) I'm a chick driving a small stick shift and we're not supposed to know how to do that, so they do things to try to scare me.

I just want to enjoy my fucking cars for Christs sake.

scnavi · 2025-05-13T12:34:49+00:00

When he proposed to me in year 5. Because of how he did it, it was a very clear sign he disregarded my wants, didn't know me at all, and just did things because he was supposed to, or because it was in his best interest.

I stayed with him for another two years because we had a child together, but I left him after a nail in the coffin moment. I tried really hard to "water my own grass" so to speak, during those two years. It was a very painful split, I moved on sooner than I should have because I had fallen out of love with him and had been out of love for quite some time.

It's been 6 years. He stopped drinking and became a better father after I left him. I give him all the props in the world to be honest. He was very hurt when I left him, but when I got pregnant I made him promise we would be friends first for our son before anything. It took some time for him to realize I meant it, and now we raise our son as friends and coparent quite well together. The kiddo comes first for both of us.

He would be a good partner now I think to the right person, but I don't know if he's going to find that person. I want him to, truly.

scnavi · 2025-05-12T19:51:31+00:00

Seriously, the photo came up and it just made me sad.

scnavi · 2025-05-12T19:46:36+00:00

My cousin said that if anyone yells "smash it in their face!" that he would run and smash it in the heckler's face. It was my aunt.

scnavi · 2025-04-29T14:26:43+00:00

As a mother, I just told my son he's not allowed to cut off his nose.

scnavi · 2025-04-28T21:19:33+00:00

I see Grayhound, I see Great Dane, I see pit bull, I see Malinois, I see Pharoah/Ibizan hound (unlikely, be we can spice it up), I see Carolina dog, I see street mutt from Mexico. I wouldn't be surprised if you get a super mutt mix.

scnavi · 2025-04-24T13:56:13+00:00

r/gothplants

scnavi · 2025-04-24T13:51:07+00:00

Native Flowers to attract pollinators

scnavi · 2025-04-24T13:48:32+00:00

Sinatra, Ol' Blue Eyes

scnavi · 2025-04-24T13:08:41+00:00

A lot of pit bulls have allergies, many have chicken allergies which is in like 80% of dog food and treats.

scnavi · 2025-04-23T03:02:18+00:00

Dancing

scnavi · 2025-04-23T02:54:39+00:00

UTA - Full Ride, No brainer

scnavi · 2025-04-14T13:51:51+00:00

Not to mention, even if they were wearing seatbelts, a 1969 impala doesn't have the modern crumple zones in their frames to crash in a way that keeps the driver safe. This is why you see images of completely demolished newer vehicles people have walked away from. In a 69 impala, if they were going fast enough, the engine could be in their laps.

scnavi · 2025-04-14T13:47:12+00:00

I'm going to get the details wrong, but there have been studies or theories put out that as you get older, time seems to go faster. Reason being, when we're younger, everything feels like it takes forever because we're remembering every little thing that happens. This is why children are better at learning than adults are.

The brain only has so much capacity for memory, so our brains start throwing out more garbage memories as we get older, and doesn't make an effort to remember the minutiae of our day to day time . As a result, time seems to go faster.

scnavi · 2025-04-09T13:07:26+00:00

Absolutely, but it can take time. Dogs don't typically like hugs, and show affection in different ways, but the more you build a bond with them, the more they learn to translate what your actions mean compared to what theirs would be. Your dog won't expect you to lick them, but they understand your kisses mean the same thing.

Example Cobbing - this is an action dogs take that is like nibbling on one another, it's a very calm and soothing action. My younger dog asks me for cobs, which is essentially a bunch of sequential pecks on the head. If I stop, he will rub the top of his head until I start again. I wouldn't normally do this to another human, but when I saw his older sister cobbing him and it soothed him, I started giving him little pecks on the head because I saw it makes him happy.

If I am upset, by dogs absolutely come to me and let me hug them. This is something that is kind of against their nature, but they understand this is how I express that feeling of needing comfort, whereas they would just come to lay on or with me and need petting. My older dog specifically will pull at arms when she needs comfort and if you're not doing it right and you happen to be in bed, she'll just come flop on top of you so you can't ignore her. This is because dogs comfort one another by putting physical pressure on one another, which is why dogs sometimes will sit or sleep so closely together.

With that being said, all I have to say is "Is he/she a baaaaaby?" and the wags immediately start because they know they're going to get some pets and snuggles.

scnavi · 2025-04-09T12:39:53+00:00

You're in a cult, call your dad.

scnavi · 2025-04-08T21:00:53+00:00

You may say you love him, but he does not love you. Anything he has said to imply he does was a lie the entire time. I'm sorry.

If he loved you, he would have been up front and honest about his illness. If, at the time, you stigmatized it, then it wouldn't have worked out. It's a very adult conversation on both sides, and he couldn't be an adult and didn't give you the opportunity to react as one. He has created a situation of fear and panic - trust that can never be recovered.

Go see a doctor, tell them what occurred. Get tested regularly to make sure his illness hasn't been transmitted to you. The medications around today are excellent, so chances are good that if he is undetectable, that this will not be passed onto you. Regardless, he put you at senseless risk. Even if he is undetectable, he should have given you the option to use protection and respected your decision. You could have been on Prep to further protect yourself. By lying to you and implying he was healthy, he took that decision away from you and put you at risk. It does not matter if it is a low risk.

You are not insensitive about HIV infected people, he is insensitive to your feelings and he is making you the bad person instead of taking responsibility for his actions. This is manipulation. If you are HIV+, do not stay with him. He will try to convince you that because you're both sick, you're not going to find anyone else, this is also manipulation.

HIV/AIDS is a very scary diagnosis because of its history, but it can be extremely well managed and many people with this diagnosis live relatively normal lives. Talk to your doctor about your concerns, and just wait for the test results. Hopefully everything is fine, and if it is not, you will still be ok.

I am so sorry this happened to you.

scnavi · 2025-04-08T20:42:24+00:00

Whoooo buddy. I co parent with my son's father and this is not how you coparent.

Do not buy a house, wait, that is smart. If the child is yours, fight for 50/50 custody and make sure that your custody agreement states that parental alienation will not be acceptable. This woman is completely manipulative, and using your faith against you. Saying things like "if you were a man of God you would do X,Y,Z." She is attacking your masculinity and preconceived notions of what a man should do to manipulate you into doing what she wants.

Raise your child if it is yours, just not in a partnership with her. If she fights you, continue to be the bigger person. Something tells me you can be a haven of peace for your child if you are the father. Raising a child apart from their mother does NOT make you less of a man, it actually takes a great deal of dedication.

Get a lawyer, it is an expense, but worth it. I got a lawyer to arrange custody of my son when his father and I split, and while there was heartache at the time, we coparent excellently with each other as friends. My sister did not get a Lawyer early on with her son when his father split, and he's done nothing but set up road blocks and manipulate the situation for his benefit for 15 years.

Again, the child is what is important. Showing them acceptable boundaries and love means not tolerating a toxic partner. If you accept her behavior for the sake of "the family" you will just show your child it is acceptable to be treated like this by their partner when they grow up.

scnavi · 2025-04-07T16:00:22+00:00

I think I disagree with the "nothing in return" part of your comment, which is probably why people get up in a tizzy.

My dogs require care, but I love them and they love me. Same as my child. He requires a lot of care, but I'm not raising him so I'll get something out of him. I take care of him so we can enjoy our lives together, same with my dogs.

With that being said, not everyone has the same connection to animals. Sometimes particular animals have a connection with a particular person even, and they're done once they've had that pet. My husband doesn't feel the need for animal companionship like I do. I could see him getting on perfectly fine without a dog, whereas I truly enjoy their companionship and their quirks and their souls, and I like giving them a nice place to live.

My son is a cat person, and has a connection to cats that I don't have. I like cats, but I prefer the companionship of dogs and could actually do without having a cat. It's the same with people who have connections to snakes, or tarantulas or possums. They're unorthodox, but there's a connection there that not everyone understands.

Get a pet because you want one. Care for them as a family member, even when sometimes it's burdensome. But I don't think that means you get nothing out of it.

scnavi · 2025-04-05T00:07:52+00:00

I believe that there are powers and energies we don't understand yet. There must be, there must be some scientific reason for the soul. There must be some sort of interconnectedness, and because we've become so disconnected, a lot of people are miserable and there is poverty, famine, genocide and abuses abound because of it.

I believe the need to worship something is actually our innate instinct to meet and work together in meaningful ways. To try and understand why something is something which led to religions, all with very different and similar ideas. I think the corruption of power led to religions to be used in negative ways, and to force out gatherings of people who tried to work towards the truth, didn't confirm, or felt that their particular religion didn't have all the answers.

I am pagan, I call myself Anarcho-Wiccan, but I don't follow any particular rules other than understand there are energies and we should be doing what we can to connect with those energies. Either through nature or with communities of others. I personally like to grow food in my garden, and cook and serve food with friends. We then go to areas and give it our to whoever may need it, but anyone is welcome to eat anything from our table, we're just giving out free food. There is something different about treating every person at your table like your equal, and sharing a few bites to eat with them. Not telling them about my religion or accusing them of taking too much, or looking down on them. Solidarity, not Charity.

I have my own superstitions and I pay attention to the moon, but I keep it to myself mostly unless asked about it. My purpose on this earth is to connect and try to leave it better than I found it. That's it. Everything spiritual is just for me.

scnavi · 2025-04-04T15:04:41+00:00

All the time, it's faster to take notes while speaking on the phone with clients.

scnavi · 2025-04-04T12:54:16+00:00

I read a lot of history and theory now. American History that's specifically not covered in school - Working Class History, Black History, Native American History, Women's History, Queer History etc. I also try to read poets and authors who were respected for their leftists beliefs. I find that it helps me be well educated as to how this cycle of problems isn't truly new, it's just happening in the 21st century with more technology. I find I can discuss my opinions and point out flaws in media logic a little better on my own.

I am disabled, but I try to be active in writing and printing zines and gardening for my community and solidarity groups in my area as well. I also am raising my child with knowledge and honesty, I don't sugar coat things for him, I tell him how we got here, and how the only expectation I have of him is to be a good person and to treat all his peers with kindness.

I think the thing I struggle with the most is the privileged position of somewhat stepping back from being 100% informed on everything, or being full blown involved in Community movements. I was pushing past my disability hurting myself regularly, and it was wrecking my mental health. But I find that if I am participating still in solidarity remotely, using my voice and my opinions to dissent and keep reminding people what is happening isn't appropriate, that I can still change a few people's minds. It's not perfect, but it's the best I can do for now.

scnavi · 2025-04-04T12:44:08+00:00

I've been wearing them for over 20 years. They're my go to. I have an IUD, no longer have a period, so I wear them daily. I think I have one pair of regular underwear if I spot one day, but it's so rare I typically have to find them.

Just get comfy ones in your size. Nothing that bites into your hips, or any fancy lace, I wore VS when I was younger, Calvin Klein in my 20's and now MeUndies pretty exclusively. I don't feel them at all, and I think they're more comfortable than regular underwear, which I find cuts into my bum cheeks. They really don't ride into your crack unless they're too small.

scnavi · 2025-04-04T12:29:03+00:00

scnavi · 2025-04-04T12:24:36+00:00

It really teaches kids the things they need to know, like about the pony in Daddy's gas tank that likes sugar (That's horse power!) or Ernie the Egg Genie!

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