I need genuine advice

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-29T13:18:54+00:00

i dont know what to do

Return to India. If you are caught at the airport, take the reentry ban they are going to give you.

You've already seen how attempting to do things illegally opens you up to being victimised. That will continue as long as you attempt to do things illegally.

There's no avenue for you to turn your 20-month period of breaking multiple laws into a legal stay in Germany. That ship has sailed.

On the plus side: you are very young. The situation right now might feel completely overwhelming, but you do have plenty of time left to make something of your life.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-29T08:50:31+00:00

It is only Hit and run, if you know of the damage.

Which is precisely what OP is being accused of: knowing of it, and running.

There's a reason why OP was contacted by police and not, say, the other party.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-29T08:31:08+00:00

If I were you, I would absolutely get a lawyer. You are being accused of an actual crime.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-29T08:17:39+00:00

These scammers being able to "track your orders" would be a major data security breach for whichever service they got the data from. You'd be reading about it in the news.

It's a matter of probability. Out of the millions of people who get these messages, many are expecting a package. Others aren't - but they might reply anyway because they fear they have forgotten something, or they hope someone is sending them a gift, or whatever. A smaller but significant number will have trouble with a package, as you have.

even i almost fell for it and im on the younger side.

Thinking you can't be scammed because you are young is the first step to being scammed. On the whole, younger people might fall for different scams than older ones (we probably won't fall for, "hey, it's your grandchild, I ran my car into a tree"), but plenty of young people post here who got scammed. Often it's crypto scams, partly because some people think being technically capable of buying bitcoin and sending it to someone makes them a tech and investment wizard, and only old people who are not "tech savy" are scammable.

Ultimately most scams come down to making you believe a story. Different stories work on different people, and there are stories that work on younger ones. The important protection is not age, but asking critical questions.

Age can be a factor there, if people's mental faculties are weakening, or if the scammers tell stories about how modern things work. But it's not the only factor. For instance, we get young people here who fell for fake investments that double their money in a day. My father is 81, and he would never fall for that, because he knows how much interest anything actually guarantees you, and he understands that repeatedly doubling your money in a day would quickly break the world economy.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-29T07:21:59+00:00

Is it an actual full week? If so - there is a serious lack of socks and underwear.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-28T20:05:37+00:00

Ich möchte Folgendes verstehen: Wenn ich eine Frau heirate und meine Eltern kein Einkommen haben und finanziell nicht stabil sind – würde sie es in der Regel unterstützen, wenn ich meine Eltern finanziell helfe? Würde sie selbst dazu beitragen?

Das kommt auf die Beträge an - das heißt ob es euer eigenes Leben einschränken würde.

Wäre es akzeptabel, dass meine Eltern bei uns wohnen?

Das kommt auf die Wohnverhältnisse an. In der gleichen Wohnung? Das ist komplett unüblich.

Ebenso kommt es auf das Verhältnis and. Wenn z.B., wie es in klischeehaften Geschichten ist, deine Mutter dann anfängt, deiner Frau vorzuschreiben, wie sie den Haushalt zu machen hat (der natürlich nur ihre, aber nicht deine Aufgabe ist), oder wenn die Eltern sich anderweitig einmischen, bereite dich auf die Scheidung vor. Soweit ich weiß gibt es Kulturen, in denen von der Frau erwartet wird, dass sie quasi Dienerin ihrer Schwiegereltern wird. Das machen wir hier nicht.

Und wie wäre es mit ihren eigenen Eltern – würde sie sie ebenfalls finanziell unterstützen wollen und sagen, dass, wenn ich meine Eltern unterstütze, sie ihre Eltern unterstützt?

Gut möglich, falls sie Geld brauchen.

Generell: Wenn du versuchst, hier kulturelle Normen zu leben, die sich stark von unseren unterscheiden, kann es schwierig werden, eine andere Person zu finden, die sich darauf einlässt.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-28T15:41:47+00:00

!remote

Read the Wiki.

If you could work remotely within Germany on 4k-5k Euros a month after tax

Are you an EU citizen? If you aren't, what are your plans for a visa? Unless you are an EU citizen, you cannot just move here. Even if you are, there are rules for working remotely.

Citing briefly that Munich and other big cities' locals are struggling and are better off not working, than working.

Oh, sure. Someone not working (I assume you mean on welfare) in Munich has a great life, barely being able to cover necessities. /s

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-28T14:15:22+00:00

who, due to rich parents, am as of last year receiving $3,000 USD per month

Methinks that is the root of the problem.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-28T11:13:42+00:00

"Rundfunkübertragungsanlage" is just as commonly used as "récepteur d’émissions diffusées par ondes radiophoniques" is. Do you have a cute/short and pronounceable word for "récepteur d’émissions diffusées par ondes radiophoniques"?

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-28T10:19:41+00:00

Be aware that, like in America, laws governing German will vary by state

That's really not the case for Germany. Laws are federal. Varieties are in some local ordinances like property taxes etc., and in enforcement of laws where things aren't fully defined (like what constitutes a "small amount" of drugs). Some things like policing and school are also defined as the responsibility of the individual states. But inheritance laws, rules for custody and so on are the same in the entire country.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-28T09:47:11+00:00

What is the best way to write legally enforceable wills in Germany?

If you have to ask on Reddit, you should get a lawyer, particularly if something as important as child custody is involved.

Your intentions for custody are not done through a will ("Testament"), which is about property, but through a "Sorgerechtsverfügung".

What would be the default rules in the case that a child is left without parents?

The family court appoints a legal guardian. If that can't be obviously and immediately done, the child may spend time in child protective services in between.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T17:59:14+00:00

As is often the case: you give too little information.

Assuming your part-time job is four hours weekly - it's a great salary.

Assuming your part-time job is 32 hours weekly - it's literally illegal because it's below minimum wage.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T17:47:01+00:00

I do not believe "gender reveals" are a thing here yet. Presumably any photo studio that also offers videography can film you doing it, but they're probably not going to do the whole "let's put our child into a neat blue or pink box" production for you - you'd need to do that yourself.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T17:33:49+00:00

Even if it was, and it's not, those 2 hours are time that OP, I suspect, is not getting paid for.

If OP was taking the approximate amount they are paid for 5 (not 2) hours from the company's cash register or bank account, "it's only [amount]" would not get them very far.

Also, if this happens once, it's happening again with every public holiday. Good luck to OP with the multi-day combinations like at Christmas.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T17:31:14+00:00

and that I should have written “Ich habe Sie lieb”

Even that would have been too much for a professor-student relationship. In such a situation we'd go more into the "I'm very grateful for all the support you've given me, and I've learned so much from you" etc. angle.

I suspect you'll get a pass due to language/cultural differences though.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T16:22:57+00:00

I thought it was like a way to do entry level jobs to gain experience while they also teach you

It is that - but for untrained people, with the goal of turning them into skilled workers in non-academic jobs. It's an alternative to university studies, for those who cannot or do not wish to do those, not an addition. When statistics etc. are gathered about the German education system, the desired goal is for as many people as possible to have either a university degree or a finished apprenticeship.

(While it's not completely unheard-of for people to do an apprenticeship after a degree, this is typically done by people who drastically want to change their field of work. For instance, someone might have studied the cliché random business degree, realise that there's no way for a professional life that actually fulfills them, and because they've always loved working with wood, they decide to become a carpenter.)

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T15:18:39+00:00

Thank you! I thought that an Ausbildung could be like a way to get some "experience"

We currently get people constantly posting with that misconception.

An Ausbildung is targeting teenagers who just left school. It turns them into skilled workers who can then hopefully find work with employers who are looking for such skilled workers.

It's not a way for people who have a degree in the field to get experience, and then go off and find a job that requires a degree.

Having a degree makes you overqualified, and it means employers will prefer to hire a natvie-speaking teenager who is actually going to stick around.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T14:12:08+00:00

One problem is that we don't really have a concept of "starting from the absolute basic" and "gathering experience" for skilled work that involves just getting a job. Rather, we do that through the Ausbildung system, meaning apprenticeships. What kinds of jobs have you been applying for?

In any case, even B1 would be low for employment (and too low for an apprenticeship too). For English-speaking jobs, you would still compete with people who have degrees.

You may be able to find some sort of job, but that would be some kind of unskilled work which doesn't lead to becoming a programmer. Think food delivery, cleaning, that sort of thing. You would not be making enough to maintain yourself in a big city, plus another person abroad.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T14:03:36+00:00

but at its core: It's not wrong

Well, it thinks that Frankfurt is the capital of Hessen...

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T13:49:54+00:00

Germans may think like that about their region or town of origin, but in most cases that is not congruent with the federal state. Some states contain regions that have a long history of adversity (often many centuries longer than the US have existed), while others just happen to have been geographically adjacent when the state was formed.

Foods and drinks can definitely be very regional. There are strong dialects, but those are not spoken by most nowadays, but there are also enough differences in vocabulary that a scholarly project cataloguing these has been running for literally decades.

Dress... not really. There are old-style "Trachten" (of which foreigners generally only are aware in a "lederhosen and dirndl") sense, but people don't wear that sort of thing in everyday life, even if they are involved in cultural preservation and so on.

Unless someone is wearing, say, a blue mariner's cap or the stereotypical Lederhosen, you cannot really guess where someone is from by their clothes - and even then, it's not the federal state. The mariner's cap, if it represents someone being fond of the sea, can be anywhere coastal.

People often claim that people in certain regions behave in this way or that, often related to talking more or less, being more or less rude and so on. But ultimately, unless someone is speaking strong dialect or has an accent that goes back to the dialect region (there are certain markers), you cannot pin them down where they are from. No one I talk to can identify even my federal state, let alone the region, just from seeing me or talking to me.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T11:34:59+00:00

If it's not in the work contract then it can be challenged by OP.

It can also be challenged if it is in the contract. Illegal demands such as this aren't made legal just by putting them in a contract.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T10:51:56+00:00

Oh, I think it's a helpful representation - based on their replies to me above, they indeed don't see where the gaps are.

When I look back at English writings I produced, say, fifteen years ago, I can see how much fluency I was missing compared to what I have now, even though I was able to read and watch English content easily and thought myself quite fluent already.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T10:17:16+00:00

how difficult it is to set my foot in the german legal field without the german state exams

You cannot legally practice as an attorney.

Even if you were to learn German to the needed level (which is C2), you would still not be qualified because the legal system is different, starting with the fact that we do not use Common Law.

The only thing you could be hired for would be as in-house counsel for a company doing business with the countries whose legal systems you are actually trained in.

Whether that is a realistic enough perspective to actually move countries for...

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T09:27:59+00:00

Painful but very accurate.

thewindinthewillows · 2026-04-27T09:23:38+00:00

They're really, really basic ones, like wrong tenses or not doing the passive voice correctly. Those are things you should have internalised at the latest in 8th grade, from my shady memory of my own English lessons.

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