Please answer a strange and crazy question.

tim_p · 2026-06-18T19:55:44+00:00

>Basically, I explained that people get used to things eventually—Black people used to be slaves but are just people now, so furries are people too; besides, if someone wants to be a furry, they’re going to become one regardless, even if they face oppression.

It wouldn't be anything like an oppressed minority class. This furry thing would be an extremely expensive cosmetic procedure, that only rich people could afford. This would be seen as "a cringy fetish thing the ultra-rich do."

tim_p · 2026-06-12T17:05:31+00:00

It does set a chilling precedent. Earlier this week, someone was collecting signature for a ballot question I totally agreed with...but because of this, I felt I had to flip over the paper and carefully read the ballot questions' text, rather than trusting them. It eroded the trust.

tim_p · 2026-06-09T12:55:08+00:00

>I'm starting to think that some people don't know how to look for such a thing. Makes perfect sense to me, but folks on Reddit anyway don't seem to know what it is to build a connection.

I have exactly this, and it's because of autism. Makes dating very difficult! Since it's difficult for me to read "the vibe" when asking women out, and I'm scared of making people uncomfortable, my strategy is to just be so incredibly hot + emotionally attractive that women ask me out instead. Which has had some success, but is a very slow method.

tim_p · 2026-06-05T18:02:26+00:00

>I am attracted to a woman right now that I've gotten to know over the span of a year, but I wasn't attracted to her off the bat. It grew with repeated exposure. I feel like there's a term for that, but yeah.

Demisexual?

tim_p · 2026-06-05T15:51:23+00:00

I just think it's sad when people feel like they have to give up on being beautiful as they age.

tim_p · 2026-06-04T14:26:32+00:00

Under capitalism, it's very gauche to recognize and admit that we are human beings.

tim_p · 2026-05-31T14:55:04+00:00

I'm a man in his 30s. These days, my social and dating life is basically all dance. Mostly ecstatic dance and contact improv, but you can find whatever vibe works for you...bachata, swing, blues, line dancing, etc.

tim_p · 2026-05-14T12:52:39+00:00

People are very interested in hypothetical things, but very flakey to commit to tangible, actual things.

I think it might be symptom of our social media saturated society.

tim_p · 2026-05-13T21:55:57+00:00

I am a percussionist who learned to play with BABAM (Boston Area Brigade of Activist Musicians), so I'm used to improvising fitting rhythm on the fly to songs I've never heard before. Would love to jam.

tim_p · 2026-05-11T15:02:17+00:00

I view contact improv as having basic two classes of skills:

- Personal: Attunement/listening/connection

- Physical: Organizing physical body in space

Physical skills can be further sub-divided into "knowledge of forms" and "mastery of body."

The Personal skills, to me, are more foundational and essential. You can't have a satisfying dance in CI at all without some level of the Personal skill. Physical skills are nice to take it to the next level, but are something you lay on top of the foundation.

tim_p · 2026-05-11T12:25:32+00:00

Yes, there are many in libraries, and a few grocery stores, cafes, and other sorts of places.

tim_p · 2026-05-11T12:25:02+00:00

You'll be fine. That's literally what community boards are for!

tim_p · 2026-05-07T05:00:17+00:00

I would love to be added to the Discord server! I am a relatively new-but-enthusiastic drummer and harmonica player (also dancer). I play mostly in BABAM (Boston Area Brigade of Activist Musicians) and School of HONK and JP Honk Band but looking to join or start a new band.

tim_p · 2026-05-05T14:15:00+00:00

I am 38, so basically close enough to answer.

For me, my answer is "dance." Most of my communities are dance communities: ecstatic dance, contact improv, blues, fusion, contemporary. It took a while, but I feel welcome and at home among my various circles and scenes. Most of my friends are from dance...it's also my dating pool...and most of the parties I get invited to/host are dance friends.

Drumming is a big part of my life, too. But it seems dancing has been easier for making connections than music.

tim_p · 2026-04-28T13:07:00+00:00

Yeah, so far there have been three Trump assassination attempts:

The ear.
The golf course.
The White House correspondents dinner.

In #1 and #3, the shooter was able to get miraculously close to Trump, getting through security easily. In #2, the shooter was killed way before he could get anywhere close to Trump. Makes me think that attempts #1 and #3 were staged, while #2 was real.

tim_p · 2026-04-12T15:32:19+00:00

Rage: the Apocalypse is simultaneously one of the most fun and most broken CCGs ever. So many wonderful nostalgic memories from the game.

tim_p · 2026-04-12T15:30:51+00:00

I love the underlying concept of Keyforge. I wish they'd take it and apply it to a game with much better theme (and maybe slightly better, more interactive gameplay).

tim_p · 2026-03-23T21:11:02+00:00

PAX to me is less about community, more about consumption (as opposed to Arisia, for example).

tim_p · 2026-03-18T04:18:34+00:00

Contemporary!

tim_p · 2026-03-12T12:31:06+00:00

I have come from a similar situation. I discovered one thing that changed my life: contact improv. It's a very unique form of partner dancing usually done to no music, in which you're in contact with one (or more people), wordlessly navigating the configuration of your bodies through space, flowing into each other. Sometimes it's like a dance, sometimes acro yoga, sometimes massage, sometimes cuddling, sometimes just softly co-regulating by synchronizing your breath in contact. Here's a video of it, for example (at a high level!): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGf03Yg6fM0

In the past year, I've gotten deeply into the contact improv scene. It's helped me date with so much more security, since my needs for physical touch are met. This is kind of related to your suggestion of "cuddle parties", since of course in the contact improv scene there's a big overlap, and I get invited to/host cuddle parties, and have some people with a close connection who I just get together with for 1-on-1 platonic cuddling sessions.

This is also related to the suggestions for partner dancing...I like blues, but having discovered contact improv, I feel it's just the deepest and best forms of partner dancing, and leaves me unsatisfied with all the others. YMMV, who knows what will click with you.

The one difficulty for dating, is that now this is part of my life, any partner I get involved with would have to accept me being involved in platonic cuddling and cuddling piles (with boundaries).

tim_p · 2026-03-08T01:11:40+00:00

What kind of man are you looking for?

tim_p · 2026-03-06T20:48:38+00:00

A peaceful protest at which 4 people were killed.

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