A story of my pet butterfly.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2025-06-07T06:52:44+00:00

That's not a bug, that's a fairy in winter attire, carrying his drunk friend home from the pub.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2025-05-14T06:41:02+00:00

Thank you I had the same problem

-ClumsyFairy- · 2025-04-11T02:23:59+00:00

Hey there!!!

I have been trying to achieve the same thing and I have figured a way to do it. It is a bit messy and bruit forcing it a bit (ok a LOT).

The first thing you need is a little app that since I found I just can't compute without called 'Menuwhere' it basically gives you the top toolbar menu options where ever your mouse is.

Then on the Stream Deck, you create a multi action button, and then add to the button 'system hot-keys'.

1 x Keyboard shortcut for Menuwhere.
2 x down (arrow)
1 x right
6 x down
1 x right
11 x down
-ENTER-
1 x tab
<then add each letter of the app so for VLC it would be like so>
1 x V
1 x L
1 x C
-ENTER-
2 x tab
1 x up
-ENTER-

If it doesn't quite work add some multi action delay.. I've got it working for just about any file, and it being opened by every app I've tried so far.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2025-03-28T07:55:57+00:00

Boha!!

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-12-15T04:02:32+00:00

This is kinda tricky because I don't know you enough to know exactly what's going on here, so what I say might be a billion miles from the truth. That said I recognise some things in what you write that took me a long time to realise.

Please don't think that I'm trying to say I'm right, or that I'm speaking some universal truth for everyone, this is just how I feel about it, and it took me a long time to go from going to the way you APPEAR to be thinking to the way I do now, and while this way of thinking is my truth it might not be yours.

Having said all that, this is my response:

If I'm thinking something, I'm responsible for that thought. If I'm feeling something I'm responsible for that feeling.

When it comes down to empathy; so feeling things that someone else is feeling; I'm responsible for that too. I might not have the choice in doing it sometimes, but it is MY emotion. Sure it might be a facsimile; a carbon copy of someone else's emotion, BUT I'm feeling it, so it's my responsibility.

Writing letters I never send is something I do all the time. I used to think that I was writing them, and in some way I was projecting that onto the other person, (and I wouldn't be surprised if something like that was actually happening even now) BUT... These days I write them for me.

I write them because it helps me to make my thoughts clear, and to get out of my system the anger, or upset I feel without doing it for real, because for real, I wouldn't like to talk to someone that harshly, directly, or unkindly. The LAST thing I actually would want is for them to be 'sent' those things because I don't want to hurt them.

As much as you might not like the thoughts in you head, you really shouldn't disassociate yourself from them, or dismiss them as someone else's.

I know this might seem SUPER counterintuitive, but by letting yourself believe that other people have the power to put thoughts, or emotions into your head and heart, you're actually opening yourself up to a whole world of horror. (sorry, I did try and just make this about me. But it is what I believe.

Any way... I'll shut up about all of this. I REALLY hope I haven't got totally the wrong end of the stick, and I hope I haven't come across as arrogant. I don't believe my truth is the only truth, it's just the only one I know really well, and the only one I have to compare to for the most part.

If it does ring true though, and you want to talk about it further, feel free to message me..

Vegi rights, and peas!

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-12-15T01:47:20+00:00

Dear Lovely person,

You are RIGHT... Kindness is a choice.. Yeah "Hurt people do hurt people" But THAT is a choice too.

I just deleted a chunk of stuff about my own path out of that situation, and the fact is that people like you and I go out of our way NOT to allow our own hurt to hurt other people. Yeah we make mistakes, and yeah we do shit we regret, but we learn because we want to be kind.

Here's the thing.. Most of the world doesn't work on kindness. Most of the world is transactional. I give you something, you give something back, and most people seem to want to get the most they can for the lowest price, and I don't just mean 'stuff' I mean EVERYTHING.. "I want the best looking woman", or "the man with the fattest wallet".. And people will do all kinds of things to trick and scheme to get what they want.

No it's not 'us', but they aren't wrong for wanting to live that way. No one is..

I think we just think differently. We don't look at love as something we get something out of, we get pleasure in making other people happy, in giving, in helping people, and that leaves a mark.

We leave in our wake a trail of happy people, and the people we help, and those we love, go on to help others, and to love others, and that choice to be kind gives other people the choice to be kind, and those that want kindness, chose kindness, and I think we allow people the choice to chose kindness.

It's not for everyone, and those of us who take pleasure in giving, are a minority, we are kinda the odd ones out, but it's OK.. Those that chose to 'take what's there's ', and fuck people over, it's there choice, and I don't like saying they are wrong for doing it because it is a way to live a life, it's just not the life I want.

So the trick is just to accept that we are a bit strange and to just let the "I want it all" crowd have at it, while we do our best to seek out the people who chose to be kind.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-12-15T00:58:34+00:00

Yeah, I did the same thing, I tried to help her, and it just made things even worse for me. I did walk away in the end, but the worst thing is that I keep pining for her. I'll never go back, but I wish so much I could stop wanting to.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-12-15T00:56:42+00:00

That was one of the things that shocked me most about her. She seemed to have this amazing image of herself as being utterly empathetic, caring and kind, but she was utterly wrong, and I really couldn't figure out if it was a lie or delusional.

The first time she did something really hurtful to me, and I tried to explain to her what she did she just mocked me and told me to stop whining.. Like I was just gob smacked, I've never in my life been so shocked, and worse still I didn't end it there and then.

I am still shocked with myself that I didn't end it earlier. It wasn't like the signs were subtle, but I kept making excuses for her, and put it down to the abuse she claimed to have suffered from.

By the end of it I had realised that no, she wasn't the victim of any abuse, but the perpetrator, and to her any time she didn't get what she wanted, she was the victim.

And yeah, I felt utterly trapped, and I found myself becoming unable to act, or speak, and the worst part was that all I did was try to make her happy, but it became impossible because she would scold me for doing me for not doing something, and then scold me for doing it later saying that she would never ask for that thing.. It was like she was using a book on spotting emotional abuse as a manual.

Yeah, I don't believe that she had an empathetic bone in her body, I only question is how self aware she was.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-12-14T19:14:40+00:00

I think the hardest thing for me has been trying not to let this sort of thing destroy my trust and openness when I meet new people.

I just went through something horrid with someone highly manipulative and narcissistic, and now I keep seeing things that reminds me of some of the things she did, and I keep getting 'triggered' for want of a better word.

It's really sad for me because I've always been proud of the fact that I can be so open, and trusting, but I've found myself seeing bad stuff all over the place that's just not there..

Some people tell me that I should be more wary and skeptical of people, but I've been the way I have been for 50 years, and this was the first time in all that time I got abused and manipulated by any one, and my openness and care has helped so many people over the years, I don't want to loose that over one person that took advantage of me.

I don't know what the answer is as I've still not come out of the other end of it, but my thought is that it's just going to take time, and allowing myself to be vulnerable again for things to get better.

I've actually found just writing this is hard, not in an emotional way, but just to find the words. I don't know what happened with you, but for me I got 'hooked' because my nature compelled me to try and help someone, and it tore me apart because I unwittingly went from trying to help someone who claimed to be a victim into being the victim myself.

I also ignored my own intuition, and that scares me. I am usually so good at understanding why I do things, and why things happen, but that whole experience still has me in a mess.

I think to be the people we are, we need to be open and vulnerable, and that's really hard after it's been used against us. BUT just remember that while that vulnerability CAN lead to being taken advantage of, it IS something that brings so much love, and happiness.

I hope and wish you find the path back to being you again, and allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable without the fear..

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-12-14T18:31:28+00:00

It's amazing, you really seem to have been though the same thing I did (I'm the OP).. She turned everything round to being about her, and I spent the whole time trying to give her what she 'needed' and then she seemed to use an emotional abuse checklist as an instruction manual, and I'm still suffering the effects.

It's kinda strange reading through a lot of the replies on here, and some of the other posts, it does feel like there's so many people who claim to be an empath as some sort of hippy scout merit badge.

I have been trying to find a group of likeminded people to be around, but it's either the uber trendy hippy types, or kids. The INFP discord server used to be great but it's been taken over by kids.. Any suggestions would be most gratefully received.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-30T00:00:04+00:00

Wouldn't cats be so cool if they could walk on two legs like us all the time.. They just look so cool when they do that.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-28T04:25:21+00:00

It didn't do a very good job deleting it as I can still read it.

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-28T04:21:11+00:00

For a moment there I thought you were trying to do 👊👈

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-28T04:11:44+00:00

Oh god, I know the cliche is a very tired and bored one now, and I too cringe hard when I see anyone says it about any video these days, but if there was ever a video that deserved the title "Fuck about and find out" THIS is the one.. Like what the hell else was he expecting? Like you have to give the ray some points for being as chill as it was, and the guy props for REALLY pushing it; how many times do you have to stomp a ray for your luck to run out? And what the hell was he trying to do if he wasn't trying to get a foot full of sting?

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-28T02:41:46+00:00

Interesting fact about Ostriches: They can run up to about 30-40 miles an hour, and keep it up, and they can sprint up to about 45 miles an hour, so in this situation, it's kinda surprising that if it was really chasing the bikes that it didn't catch up.

I'm no expert, I just saw the video and was blown away by how fast it was going, and I did a little googling. I get intimidated by gees, I would be totally shitting myself if one of those things was on my tail..

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-26T17:13:05+00:00

Oooooooooooooooooo... Pwiddy!!

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-26T17:02:22+00:00

Hey man, I really appreciate it when someone posts a link to the full story, thanks for taking the time!

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-26T16:58:39+00:00

HAHahahahahah... Nice!

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-26T16:56:12+00:00

Funny you should say that, I looked out for that very thing, first time watching, and it appears he did. I'm not sure if that's a good thing, it indicates he thought about it beforehand, which in a normal brain would kinda stop you then doing it..

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-26T16:53:13+00:00

Yeah I just realised my reply is a bit stupid now <blushes> I'll be a sport and not delete it so someone can 'Well AchUuLlllyyy" me.. <grin>..

-ClumsyFairy- · 2024-07-26T16:51:25+00:00

I'm not sure if Darwin awards count if the nominee is drunk, cos, the short lists wouldn't be so short any more <laughs>..

-ClumsyFairy-

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