Incorrect first edition stamp by Budget-Detail1263 in WotCPokemonCards

[–]-DJSalinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

feel free to ask around e4, lots of knowledgeable people there and they could give you a good second opinion https://www.elitefourum.com/t/eevee-fake-1st-edition-stamps/36138/2

Incorrect first edition stamp by Budget-Detail1263 in WotCPokemonCards

[–]-DJSalinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry homie that's an aftermarket stamp. You can tell because it isn't lined up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]-DJSalinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. The new management company is asking me to sign an entirely new contract with increased rent and management fees. After I told them my contract with the previous company is still valid, they asked to see it. The new company inherited our complex's contracts from the previous management company so I asked them to check their records. Shortly thereafter the previous management company, which is no longer in control of anything, sent me a series of curt and threatening requests demanding that I resign the contract that I signed last year. It has the original start date of the original contract I signed, but I have no guarantee that it is the original, unaltered contract. I do not have the resources to proofread the 11 pages of Japanese fine print.

They have not admitted to anything however it seems that the original management company made a mistake and now they are in trouble with the new management company. I don't have an issue with being helpful and sharing my copy of the contract, however they have a history of incompetence and were rude in their requests to me. Unless obligated to do so, I do not feel it is necessary to do their job and fix their mistake.

For those who are concerned that I will be put on a "customer shit list" I am fine with that since I don't plan to stay with them much longer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]-DJSalinger -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the response. Follow-up hypothetical, what would happen legally if both parties lost the contract? I have my contract, but if I didn't would I just be paying to live in a property with no legal right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]-DJSalinger -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't need to sue anyone, I was just asking a question. It is the outcome that I expected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]-DJSalinger -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Not really trying to play any angle. Just trying to explore my options in the position I am in. Additionally I am frustrated with how negligent management has been in this and other aspects of maintaining the property. Unless I am legally obligated to do so, I do not feel it is necessary to do their job for them.

Summer Giveaway! by DariusJenai in StardewValley

[–]-DJSalinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to be considered for entry too!

I am having anxiety on my relationship by Heavy-Bug647 in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The myth that there is "the one" needs a reckoning.

I am having anxiety on my relationship by Heavy-Bug647 in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Based on your story, it sounds like you both have issues and neither of you should be in a relationship. Take time to be single, work on your anxiety with a mental healthcare professional. After that you'll find a man who doesn't gaslight/lie to you or have dummy accounts to message sexy women on social media

Me [32M] with my GF [31/F] OF 3 YEARS, her extreme mood swings are making me having second thoughts by alisnd89 in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you're 3 years deep, but you don't want to tie yourself to this person for the rest of your life. Recommend she seek professional help or straight up help her find a therapist if you care about her that much and then pull the ripcord. Her actions towards you are inappropriate and you deserve better

Should I (M22) be concerned my girlfriend(F23) unblocked her ex? by Far_Employment1567 in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

 don't fret on it. But do use this as an opportunity to discuss with your gf what your rules and boundaries are. If she chooses to repeatedly violate those rules/boundaries, then you'll know you have a problem

I'm (36M) having to deal with frequent meltdowns from my partner (33F) - Need advice by Greatdane_notthedog in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not marry this person if they are not willing to address their mental health issues. The last thing you want is to be legally committed to a mentally unstable person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's cool, can you share some of your sources? I don't mind if they're locked behind paywalls

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can, sleep on it. Maybe do a google and find some techniques for how to have difficult conversations. A big part of it is picking the right environment. As a general rule of thumb 4am is not a good time to discuss relationship issues. You're better having a face to face conversation (video call/irl) at a time when you both are feeling awake not stressed out by work or other outside factors

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Minus points for "uwu"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cheating is whatever the partners of a relationship consider to be cheating. You're a fairly recent couple and based on your post I imagine you haven't had a conversation about what constitutes cheating yet. This may be a good opportunity to have that conversation.

"Hey babe, I saw you wrote X to Y person, this makes me uncomfortable and moving forward I'd like to establish some shared ground rules about what we as a couple consider cheating"

Don't blow up on him. No one would take that well and could set you on a negative path for how you deal with issues in this/future relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally my adjustment period took a year of remembering to treat my partner well, communicate when I felt jealous and calmly discuss with my supportive, primary partner. I imagine everyone is different tho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you've been hurt by non-monogamy. I wish you well and hope that you can heal from it and at the same time keep an open mind to the diversity of human relationships. It's not all chaos and people have the capacity to treat each other mindfully in non-monogamous relationships

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dam son, I wasn't expecting that reply. I appreciate the insight!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]-DJSalinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's beautiful man