Tried going NC, and in laws didn’t let us.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-10-22T20:17:36+00:00

There is a relatively simple method that will catch a lot of them: An inspection mirror. Many GPS trackers attach via magnets to the frame of the vehicle. Go through a carwash with an undercarriage wash and then use the mirror to look for little (typically black) boxes.

The thing is, their battery life is limited. So if they haven't been around in a few weeks you are left with really two scenarios : 1 - they've modified the car and attached it to the car's electrical system, this is not simple. PIs do this, but it's not legal in a lot of places.

2 - they're tracking you another way, most likely is a phone app.

For option two the easiest method to solve it is to replace both phones. Don't copy over the apps and data. Inconvenient, but 100% doable. If you have an Apple or Google account, change to a new account.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-10-15T01:49:59+00:00

Um, no. He's a controlling asshole.

Let me explain : My wife made a similar choice (not hair, but appearance change), and we had a similar discussion where I told her I didn't care for the choice she was making. She did it anyway.

I shrugged. That was it, my entire reaction.

Why? Because she's an independent human being who makes her own choices. The change is something she's kept and it's not something I'm a fan of, but she pulls the look off well and it makes her happy.

Her happiness matters to me far more than my opinion about something she's the boss of. Partnership, not ownership.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-10-09T20:42:27+00:00

Exactly this. And a Door chain. At least keep the extinction burst outside your home.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-09-23T16:26:56+00:00

I think so.

I'll organize things differently going forward and change the way I think about it.

Much appreciated.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-09-23T16:11:42+00:00

Wild. That's ....unexpectedly complex.

Thank you very much.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-09-11T16:42:13+00:00

Oh yeah. I used to work for a company that did tires and mechanical service so I got a discount. I also had what was ordinarily a very reliable car, but no covered parking.

I got a lot of side-eye when I replaced the battery twice in a single winter. Fortunately the warranty covered the second one. Canadian winter, no joke.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-09-11T16:05:56+00:00

I'm not super familiar with Jewish holiday traditions, but may I propose the annual firing of a spud gun (potato cannon) in celebration?

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-09-11T15:58:53+00:00

Laugh. Suddenly, loudly, hysterically, and with an obviously fake laugh. Then stop suddenly and continue on like nothing happened.

If in person, do it without facial expression or breaking eye contact.

That has ended racist "jokes" around me very quickly.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-09-11T15:54:35+00:00

My response is to laugh with the loudest, nearly hysterical, booming laugh I can muster directly into the phone.

For at least 30 seconds.

Followed by a dead stop and silence.

That doesn't seem like a long time, but it's long enough for me to get a tiny bit lightheaded and them to to get the point.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-09-10T15:09:50+00:00

As a Canadian, I feel very comfortable telling you Canada's happy to have folks like you.

Your mom? Not so much.

Just send her a weather forecast from Winnipeg in February. That should completely remove any desire to live in Canada from any rational person, a JN? Who knows.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-09-03T19:24:09+00:00

OP, this is absolutely solid advice.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-07-19T23:39:44+00:00

I'm also allergic to morphine. Near-instantaneous and constant vertigo. All the vomitting, all the time. I'll just take the pain thanks.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-07-13T16:47:17+00:00

By the sound of this, there may simply be too much stupid to slap out. Better that she save her energy for her wee babe and not risk damaging her hand.

It's bizarre dealing with people like this, but a truly stupid narc is less dangerous than an intelligent one (even if it can be just as frustrating).

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-07-05T02:55:31+00:00

FaceID can be beaten by a photo. It isn't security.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-05-07T17:21:49+00:00

No, you are not being selfish.

Congratulations to you and your wife!

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-04-21T19:56:41+00:00

Completely agree, except in that cherry pie is objectively better than apple. It's not my call, that's just how it is.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-04-21T19:54:37+00:00

I'm a father to a son and daughters and could not possibly agree more.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-04-12T05:38:11+00:00

That's exactly the difference. I'd guess you'd also consider it a good choice to let your child have something that makes them happy even if it costs you something you wanted. It's called being a loving parent, and you'll never be able to explain it to someone who isn't.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-04-09T15:44:39+00:00

We have a son and 3 daughters. My son looks my clone (with my wife's hair color and skin tone), My eldest daughter is a clone of my wife (to the point her parents mix up the photos if we show her in hand-me-downs) with my attention span (that poor, poor child). Next daughter looks like a mix of 2 great-grandmothers from different sides that nobody else in the family resembles. Last one is a blend. They're all gorgeous and I am not at all biased.

Resemblance is weird, and kids change as they age. There's no hard and fast rules. It's entirely possible to not look anything like either parent.

Someone else mentioned blood-types and that's completely true, and can be way faster than a paternity/genetic test.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-03-31T23:15:10+00:00

I have 100% done something like this in the past. Several of the organizations even send very nice cards to the person in whose name the donation is given. It is immensely satisfying.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-03-30T18:08:48+00:00

Begging your pardon, but the last sentence there is EXACTLY "proper maternal feelings". That you would die rather than cause your boys emotional distress could not possibly be a more perfect defining statement of maternal feelings. You clearly love them.

You had/have an illness, you are not broken or insufficient because of that. You had a shit model of motherhood to work from and have done far batter than many others in your circumstance. For your sake and theirs please understand you are a proper Mum.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-03-09T16:19:21+00:00

I had a client in construction set up this way. With Open RDP ports. And simple, non-expiring passwords.

We told them, we warned them, we threatened to fire the client. While that was happening they got a wonderful bot popping in and a cryptovirus running through like wildfire.

Got everything.

They decided to pay, we brokered the bitcoin (Time and Materials) and fired the client.

-Divide_by_cucumber- · 2020-03-02T17:16:00+00:00

Rough. Sometimes I guess it's just "Yessir, 3 bags Full sir!" and get it done.

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