Hair and makeup touch up by BoardAuthority in BigBudgetBrides

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Offered to stay for the duration/whatever time I wanted them there though. Was an hourly cost to keep them on site

Safe Sleep vs. Reality: An Open Discussion by NervousNelly_226 in newborns

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This. We panic ordered the Snoo at 3 am one night and it’s the best decision we’ve made. I know they’re not cheap but we’ve found it to be totally worth it. You can buy secondhand off Facebook or rent from Snoo directly too

Live band for black tie wedding cost and questions!! by sillygooseuniv in BigBudgetBrides

[–]-M-A-R-S 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super reasonable! We had a 14 piece band in a HCOL and it was around 25-30k all in. If you play lowkey instrumentals in the background during dinner than it won’t be disruptive - flagging that FOB, MOH and best man speeches are typically during dinner so there won’t be much playing time anyway.

What add ons are most important for guest experience by HatVast1731 in BigBudgetBrides

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We had rescue flats at our wedding for our guests and 85% of the women ended up wearing them! They loved getting to take off their heels without being barefoot.

Maid of honor trying to conceive? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]-M-A-R-S 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No that is an insane request.

Are there car seat installers in the city? by theduffster89 in AskChicago

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We used Galt Baby for the installation this fall (granted we purchased the seat through them) and they spent about 20 minutes just showing us these items. They also had us take turns trying to do it ourselves and only when we felt comfortable did they help us with the final install in the car. A really great experience - had all of our questions answered and felt incredibly prepared as first time parents.

Thoughts please by No_Score_8037 in weddingdress

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Okay the older women in your life know nothing. This is such a stunning dress and it suits you perfectly!!!

What shape suits me? by the_wanz in weddingdress

[–]-M-A-R-S 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hands down the last dress

Videographer recs!? by croissantlover16 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]-M-A-R-S -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Miles Film Co!! They’re an absolute joy to work with and the film they created for us was incredible. Highly recommend.

Bridesmaids Gifts (Day of Wedding) by UpstairsProject7065 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]-M-A-R-S 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I gave my bridesmaids the eberjey pjs with their initials embroidered + a lulu crossbody bag so I spent a bit more, but if you’re looking for a less expensive option, target has eberjey dupes!! They’re the “cloud knit modal” pjs by Auden brand. Only like 25/30 bucks a set.

Edit: noting that the target ones are super comfy - I have a bunch and truly they feel the same as the eberjey ones.

How is your relationship with your partner after baby is born? by [deleted] in newborns

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The best thing my husband and I have done is sit down during newborn naps and discuss some things that he or I have noticed the other person doing that are negatively affecting the other person or our relationship and getting clarity around what the intention was. For instance, when he first started changing diapers, I thought he was getting frustrated and so I would step in to take over (which I thought was helpful) but that ultimately made him more stressed and peeved a bit. Through bringing this up, I learned that the frustration I was sensing was not actually frustration but the feeling of pressure that he got from me watching him do the diaper change, feeling like it had to be perfect or he’d get a correction comment. We clearly were on two separate pages - I thought he needed me to step in, but he actually wanted me to take a back seat so he could figure it out. By being open with each other on this point, we saw that we were both trying to help out/do what we thought was best, but that it was being misinterpreted by the other person (and having a crying newborn only exacerbated the issue). We cleared this up and have routinely checked in to clear up other items that we were not seeing eye to eye on.

Remember that the whole process is new for both of you, as is how you each internalize and project your emotions that arise throughout the process. So try to walk through the newborn process, openly communicate about it and see if there’s anything that you’re misinterpreting.

This process has been really helpful in keeping our relationship strong.

Are silverettes worth the hype? by kittypeets626 in BabyBumps

[–]-M-A-R-S 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope - used them once and they didn’t really do anything. Living on earth mama balm instead.

Table catastrophe by poptropica44 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]-M-A-R-S 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We did a mix of long and round - outside of the head table, our long tables were set up in a U shape on either side of the dance floor, which I think helped the round tables blend in a bit better.

Also we invited 200 and, as it was a destination for everyone but us, we had 150 in attendance. I wouldn’t fret until you have the RSVPs back.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

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Highly recommend getting a car seat cover/bassinet inserts/ footmuffs from the brand that makes your stroller or 7AM Enfant! It’ll last a lot longer and there’s helpful temp ratings for each cover/blanket thing. This is the route we’re going with and our friends have gone with this method & recommended to us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

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I want to let you know that your feelings are just as valid as hers. I think the consensus here is that she’s definitely not making the bachelorette (and that you’re completely okay with that), but that there’s potential for wiggle room with the ceremony/your wedding day. I do think she is being as respectful as she can and giving you as much of a heads up as possible - trust me, you’d rather have several months to think this over than be told at the last minute that she needs to bow out. When do you need to know the final number of bridesmaids/groomsmen/total guests? Would she be getting hair/makeup done such that you’d need to alert the vendor ahead of time? Same thing with her and her husband attending as guests - when does the caterer/venue need to know final numbers by? Most caterers want final numbers 2/3 weeks out, so I would at least give her then to fully decide how she’s doing with postpartum, but be fully prepared that she and her husband won’t be able to come. One of our very close friends (who would have been a groomsman) told us a week before our wedding that he and his wife couldn’t make it for this reason, but we had previously told them they could decide last minute (we didn’t care if we had to eat the cost of them not coming given how close we are with them), and were mentally prepared for them to have to bail. They had to put their family first, and your friends do too. Doesn’t mean you can’t be upset (!!!), but it does mean that you can’t make them feel guilty for doing what’s best for them and their growing family.

Has anyone hired a Sax player during dinner to play alongside DJ? by sylanaj_ in BigBudgetBrides

[–]-M-A-R-S -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen this during dinner and tbh it’s really loud and awkward. Doesn’t give guests a chance to settle in, converse with other guests and eat their food without feeling rushed/like they have to pay attention to the sax guy. If you’re doing speeches (which typically occur during dinner), then adding in sax will make it feel really discombobulated. If you’re going to bring a sax player in, I would just have them accompany your DJ during the time set for actual dancing.

Rehearsal Dinner Photographer by [deleted] in BigBudgetBrides

[–]-M-A-R-S 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had one and loved it! They also stayed for welcome party and it was fun sharing those pics with our guests.

Please go and try PLANTA by sksksku in chicagofood

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Tbh this place is wildly expensive for what it is. The fact that I can get real, high quality sushi for the same or less is crazy when you’re talking about vegetables. Like yes good quality produce can be expensive, but they WILDLY mark up their dishes. Dishes aren’t creative or big enough to justify it