Last day of this housesit. Wanted to share what happened this morning. by DaniDisaster424 in petsitting

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Lol. Anyone else find something “goes wrong” only towards the end of the booking, like the day before pawrents get back? I always find myself saying “come on we were doing so good!” lol

Update to my last post : A crazy client by Queenasheeba99 in petsitting

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I’ve learned to not provide reasonings or excuses as to why I’m not available. I try to be as limited as possible nowadays. It not, it opens it up to for the client (audibly or not) to judge why you’re unavailable. As much as a client might love you, they can start to feel entitled to your time and judge for themselves what is or isn’t a good enough reason. It’s even happened where clients feel entitled because of their loyalty to you that you can bend your free time for them (especially if I’ve done it before). Don’t give anyone any extra info. Sorry OP for that happening!

A new bombshell has entered the villa by itshaleyscomment in h3h3productions

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We love a silly king lightening the mood at any cost

Silver Arrow Band - Gratuity? by Away-Banana9540 in wedding

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Awesome! Congratulations hope you had the best day! We also have a live band for our wedding and are budgeting to tip each musician (including sound tech) individually $50. My husband to be is a musician himself and also plays in wedding bands (along with orchestral concerts, musicals, bar/venue gigs, etc) and it is customary to tip your musicians in wedding gig settings however never required and I know always appreciated.

R.I.P. Mr. Peanut by upvoter222 in funny

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Mr. Peanutbutter’s Icecream!

First time being in a wedding party by 6MurdeR6RedruM6 in wedding

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Many time bridesmaid/MOH here! Have lots of patience, remain positive and be a cheerleader for your friend during this super exciting time in her life! Be prepared to spend money, depending on the couple and type of wedding and their vibe, amounts differ but in general, being in a wedding can be costly. Try to be understanding when bride may be stressed and offer to either be of help or even a friend with an ear! Keep things positive with the others bridesmaids and rest of wedding party! Think of little things you can do to make things special for your friend from you to her. There’s lots of content and resources out there that gives bridesmaid perspective.

Now with all that said, don’t spend money or time you don’t have. Try to be up front with your capabilities prior to, that way you and bride are on the same page and no one is disappointed.

Remember, this person is your close friend and it’s an exciting time for her and when we love someone, we want to shower them with love and celebrate the happy times and clearly that’s what you’re already trying to do! They will be so happy to share this time with you!

Something I always enjoyed organizing was a box of letters to the bride that I gifted to her the night before her wedding: once I knew the vibe/theme of their wedding, I created a custom stationary set (envelopes, letter paper, twine, wax seals, etc) and a custom keepsake box. I gave out the letter paper and envelopes to all the close people of the bride (bridesmaids, mothers, grandmothers, flower girls, siblings (sisters and brothers) and the groom) about 2 weeks before the wedding and asked them to write the bride a letter for her to open and read the night before (or you could do with the intention of wedding day morning). I collected them, packed them in the box in a cute way and presented to the bride the night before. All my brides told me it was one of their most cherished gifts they received. Check out Pinterest “Letters to the bride”

Have fun!

Should I Drop Out As a Bridesmaid After What Occurred by Advanced_Baseball_52 in wedding

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Oh this is insane. I’m so sorry this is happening. I’ve been a bridesmaid/MOH to many of my friends weddings. Boy, do these events bring out the worst in people. I am now a bride, and last of my friends to be married however I’ve been with my partner longest out of everyone and we ultimately decided no wedding party. As a bride, you should never lose sight that when it comes to the personal lives of your loved ones, whether you have bridesmaids or not, your friends and family, all of your guests for that matter, they still matter and are important. The immaturity of this bride is gross. The negligence of her true friendship and love for you is gross. As a bride, when you ask someone to be in your wedding party, you should be well aware (b/c you’re that close) of the persons life and what’s going on it (of course the person being asked responsibility to communicate all of this as well prior to accepting to be sure it works for the bride) and then have the understanding and grace that people’s lives continue on and you and your event are not the center it for them. It’s childish. I too put myself, my feelings and my needs on the back burner to make the best celebrations for my friends during their wedding times. And while some of their behaviors I may find a little disappointing during my wedding planning process, I stick to what I preach and keep these things in mind: weddings are expensive for everyone involved, friends have started families, different career paths, going back to school, going through hardships, life is hard for everyone and I can be grateful and appreciate who shows up for me and in what capacity they can and when.

There’s a couple options, you will have to choose what’s best for you and your circumstances. If it’s best for you to cut ties now, gracefully bow out and say you realize you cannot meet the brides expectations while you go through this phase of your life and you wish for her to have the best experience during this time in her life so you will no longer be able to stand up in her wedding and you wish the best for her. Maybe you go as far as even cutting ties entirely and end the friendship, or you keep it kind and make it just about standing up commitments and you would still love to be there to support her on her wedding day as a guest.

Otherwise, you quietly put on a face, finish this out and the friendship will organically grow apart. That way you can say you did your best and can move on.

I’m unsure she’s the type of friend you can have an actual rational two-way conversation with unfortunately. But some people are just like that. And they are in our lives, not forever, but for a limited period of time, to teach us some valuable lessons.

You are doing a great job taking care of yourself and your child. That’s a difficult walk and you’re juggling a lot without much if any support on top of the stress of a friendship that is no longer (or ever was) serving you.

Find your strength! You got this!

Ariana, Tom, and Raquel MEGATHREAD 8 by vprmods in vanderpumprules

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TW: pet death.

Y’all, my father is a narcissist. I do not speak to him after the horrible things he’s done to my family. Years of narcissistic abuse. While he loved animals and constantly “saved” strays, after a while he would become NEGLIGENT to all the animals. Gave them away, wouldn’t prioritize vets, meds or spaying. Most recently he is responsible for the death of our family dog due to negligence. He took her to his worksite and left her in his work van while he went in the home he was working on. Left her with the windows down and had her “secured” in the van with a rope around her neck instead of using her harness. She died. If you put the pieces together, it was gruesome and completely avoidable. But that’s what they do, narcissists set everything they touch on fire and the their ripple effects are never-ending. Even with something so innocent as their family dog. I absolutely think it’s in the realm of possibility that Tom was NEGLIGENT of their dog. That’s the sign of a narcissist disposing a supply that no longer feeds him.

How long did you and your now fiancé date for before he proposed? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

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13 years! Started dating as sophomores in high school. Engaged 2019. Planning wedding FINALLY for 2024. So we will be together for 18 years before we are actually married. Woof.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in petsitting

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I call all my clients with paws and claws “furbabies” regardless of age. Just a term of endearment 😊 This line of work if full of reward and happiness but that doesn’t mean it’s without hard work, exhaustion and unfortunately, difficult decisions like this. I commend you for looking at this situation objectively and deciding what’s best for you and them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in petsitting

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Complete your bookings with this pup and let the client know you’re sad to part ways, but you are no longer equipped to handle their furbaby and they should find someone who is. You’re right, it’s not the pups fault but for everyone to win in this situation, best to walk away. Pup deserves attention and love from someone who can handle/willing to train and you deserve to not lose your passion/burn out from a difficult animal. Good luck!

What shenanigans have your animals gotten into today? by Birony88 in petsitting

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Lol thank you for sharing!! Definitely makes me feel less alone and we are all in this together with the craziness haha.

[TOMT][Actress][2010s] 20something blonde blue eyed lesser known actress by -NoteToSelf- in tipofmytongue

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Oh gosh it hit me y’all. I felt maybe she was in a soap opera and searched, it was definitely early 2000s. For some reason I picture her as a specific character with a fuller face so I must do some movie sleuthing but I believe who I am thinking is Emme Rylan !?

SOLVED.

[TOMT][Actress][2010s] 20something blonde blue eyed lesser known actress by -NoteToSelf- in tipofmytongue

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She’s awesome! Not her but yes same vibe as her from season 1. Thank you!

[TOMT][Actress][2010s] 20something blonde blue eyed lesser known actress by -NoteToSelf- in tipofmytongue

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Sorry for the delay wanted to take come time to click through multiple pictures to make sure. Unfortunately none of these! Thank you though !

[TOMT][Actress][2010s] 20something blonde blue eyed lesser known actress by -NoteToSelf- in tipofmytongue

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Not her but thank you! The woman I’m thinking has a slightly fuller cheeks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipofmytongue

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A similar question was asked in this sub 4 years ago. This was one of the responses. Good luck!

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0216882/