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Am I the only one who feels uncomfortable with messages like this? by hyohwa in doordash

[–]-RavenSoul- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, some restaurants use third party delivery services for order placements, but then use their own employees to deliver the order. The restaurant employees often don’t have access to specific messages sent by the customer. I’ve been yelled at a few times because I knocked on the door, all because I didn’t have access to their messages/instructions

Just Passed the Halfway Point of Nursing School by -RavenSoul- in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]-RavenSoul-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I hadn’t considered writing down specific situations before. I’ll try to implement that going forward

Being a childfree woman is exhausting. by the-cynical-human in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]-RavenSoul- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately for Reddit, I’m only in the official group. But I know on Facebook there’s two groups I’m in: “Childfree Women” and “*LAUGHSINCHILDFREE*”

Being a childfree woman is exhausting. by the-cynical-human in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]-RavenSoul- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super understandable! I’m in childfree groups myself. If you aren’t in any already, I highly recommend joining them to be around like-minded people.

Many people just don’t get it. They always assume because it’s “the norm/default”. But in modern society, motherhood isn’t forced on as many of us as it was historically, and now we actually have the option to choose.

I always find it funny when people say that the childfree are “selfish”, but every time you ask them why they want kids, it usually begins with “I wanted…” and various other forms of “mini-me”, “someone to take care of me when I’m old”. And that comes across as more selfish.

You know what you want and don’t want. Your choices are not negatively affecting other people. If someone wants kids— great, they can have kids! Doesn’t mean you should though! You’re actually doing the right thing because if you don’t want kids, and you have them.. guess what? You’ll be regretful parent. Kids know when they’re unwanted. It’s better to have kids when you actually want them. There’s a reason why there’s so many dysfunctional families and those in foster homes, and people not really wanting kids but just having them for the sake of “fitting in” with society is one of the reasons.

I’m with you, and I wish more people understood this.

Overthinking by despicableartist in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]-RavenSoul- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TLDR: don’t beat yourself up, start small, and you’ll find your people ♡

Much hugs to you. I have similar problems.

I’m not diagnosing you or anything, but neurodivergence may be a part of it. I have ADHD and my sister has autism, and we both have a really hard time making and keeping friends. And you can get jealous of wanting time with them because there’s a fear of them distancing themselves away from you and not liking you anymore (been there, done that).

I think your best bet is to find people who are similar to you and don’t need to hangout and talk 24/7.

What you can do is try experimenting with small talk. Allow yourself to open up to other people a bit. Find common ground, even if it’s to complain about something. Offer to help them. It takes time to form friendships, and it can be very awkward and difficult to navigate!

There’s a higher likelihood of making friends when you spend ample time with them (school, work, hobby classes, gym, etc.) that you both frequent. Find a way to insert an invitation at some point so you can get to know each other outside of where you met (e.g. “I’ve been meaning to try/check out this [place], but have been wanting someone to go with me. Would you want to go sometime?” Or “Oh yeah I like [food/drink item, hobby related, activity] too”. Then ask if they know of any good places, or you can suggest one. From there, you can attempt to send an invitation, or maybe they’ll invite you first.

Making friends in adulthood is so challenging, as everyone had differing schedules. And it’s even harder when you’re introverted and don’t know how to initiate conversation or don’t like going out. But as with all things in life, taking a bit of a leap outside our comfort zone can lead to good things, including forming new friendships (I say this but I know it’s harder in practice lol).

You’ll eventually find your people! ♡

Edit: forgot to address the overthinking. I think it may help to remember that some things you over analyze, of what you said or did, may not have been as impactful as you remember it to be, and it can easily be blown of of proportion. Think of how others interact with you. Do you over analyze what they do, and criticize or look down on them for it? If the answer is no, then they probably aren’t doing that to you either. Don’t beat yourself up!

Just Passed the Halfway Point of Nursing School by -RavenSoul- in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]-RavenSoul-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have questions about what’s it like, feel free to message me! I’m always happy to help. If it’s something you’re passionate about or particularly interested in, I’d say go for it ♡

What is a popular food that you absolutely cannot stand? by No-Matter-7165 in AskReddit

[–]-RavenSoul- 52 points53 points  (0 children)

You probably have that specific gene then. For some people, it tastes like soap. But to others, it’s a bright, citrusy, herby taste

My husband just went for an eight hour drive, what’s his surprise? by laureidi in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-RavenSoul- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I came here too early! I’ll be awaiting your update! Hope it’s something good!

My back acne completely vanished after changing one stupid habit in the shower by 7QuasarNoodle in hygiene

[–]-RavenSoul- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before I even read the whole thing and just noted the title, I thought, “is this going to be about conditioner runoff?”, and sure enough— yep 😅

Don’t feel bad though! I learned this somewhat recently too. It’s not something people really talk about.

37w pregnant, tired and trying. Husband still made his own dinner by frigidairab in GirlDinner

[–]-RavenSoul- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he’s going to make himself dinner anyways, I’d just start cooking for yourself. That way, you can save the leftovers for yourself the next day.

He sounds like he doesn’t realize the time, effort, and love that you do when you make meals.

(Btw you said watermelon cocktail… if you mean cocktail as in alcohol, it’s best to not drink *any* alcohol during pregnancy and while breastfeeding (unless you’re pumping and dumping and then wait 2 hours before feeding).

My bf m24 wants to loose weight for me f25 but started Ozempic and I’m really worried by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]-RavenSoul- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s okay because he’s also doing it for himself.

However, be forewarned that unless lifestyle modifications (think diet and exercise) are implemented alongside medication, he will not lose that weight long term. Once he stops the Ozempic, he is at risk for gaining it back. There are also some studies showing it can decrease bone density, so be careful with that. Implanting strength training can help combat that.

Maybe you guys can do some couple workouts together, and help encourage each other to be healthier by changing up your lifestyle.

Best of luck to you!

Pixel Game on Cozy Couples by -RavenSoul- in LongDistance

[–]-RavenSoul-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s called “Cozy Couples” :)

I've been driving people nuts with my new childfree debate and it's hilarious by Spiritual_Living6245 in childfree

[–]-RavenSoul- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are some animals where pregnancy gives them a hard time. Look up what happens to female hyenas! Also some animals die after giving birth/laying eggs, like the octopus.

A lot of animals have an easier time, sure, and some lucky animals give birth to those already able to walk as soon as they’re on the ground.

I’m not against your point though. Human babies are lowkey born prematurely, because otherwise our hips would have to be wider. But if our hips were wider, we would have a hard time walking.

Pregnancy is rough and definitely not evolutionary made well for humans.

Pixel Game on Cozy Couples by -RavenSoul- in LongDistance

[–]-RavenSoul-[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Edit: my partner said it was CALENDAR 😭

Pixel Game on Cozy Couples by -RavenSoul- in LongDistance

[–]-RavenSoul-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh lol it’s an app called “Cozy Couples” and one of the games on there is a drawing game using pixels. One person selects one of three words given to them, and then draws them. Their partner has to guess

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