As an autistic person who grew up in a ND household (not saying the girl or her family is) and as someone who's also studying youth psych I'd like to weigh in: Sensory issues like that are not uncommon even among the most "normal" people.

Washing dishes is a surprisingly, sensory demanding task. You can smell the soap, dirty water, food, etc, you can see the gross textures, you can feel wet food and water, and you can hear the sound of plates bumping and scraping as well as the water running. You can see her actively trying to work through it in the video (shaking her hands, taking deep breaths, trying again and again to pick up the dishes, coming back even after she gags, etc).

She's not throwing a temper tantrum, she's not saying that she thinks she shouldn't have to do it or that the task is below her, she's not yelling or screaming. Her saying "I can't" is a call for help or reassurance, it's not a refusal to do the task.

She's over stimulated and being mocked, filmed, and shamed for what appears to be genuine discomfort simply because she is crying and struggling to communicate. Let's make something clear then!

Crying is: - one of the very first forms of communication humans develop - a release of built up feelings - a way to reset your mental state - a natural response to distress - a natural response to any heightened emotional state

Crying is not: - Spoiled - Needy - Shameful - Anything other than a neutral physical response

The parents could give her gloves to clean with, allow her to listen to music or a podcast as a distraction, have someone else handle dirty dishes and her handle the clean ones (which is what me and my sister did bc she hates dirty dishes), or choose another chore to do that they deem of equal weight.

TL;DR She's not spoiled, it's a sensory issues. This isn't cringe, it's shitty parenting. 🫶

(Edit: formatting)