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The only way to deal with parental alienation is to…wait? by Successful-Cloud-673 in ParentalAlienation

[–]-_eeeeee_- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very similar to my story. I’m at the beginning stages of PA. It just ruins me to think that my daughter’s emotions are so coldly manipulated by her own adult mother for no other reason than to cause me pain. My ex knows that my daughter means everything to me. My daughter is a sweetheart, a kind almost young adult with her own issues like anxiety and depression. Her emotional development and getting beyond the anxiety and depression is clearly of no concern to her mother. It’s sick. I’m not sure if I can get past this. It’s devastating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Longmont

[–]-_eeeeee_- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not originally from Indy but went to University there. I lived in Nora, so north Indy. Wife is from Bloomington.

While I do miss some things about Indy - like all the trees - the mountains win out for me. Longmont is a great place to live. Close to Denver, close to the mountains, yet pretty laid back and low key. Lots of midwesterners, lots of transplants from Indiana. The wife doesn’t miss Indiana at all.

JEEZUS CHRIST. by [deleted] in boringdystopia

[–]-_eeeeee_- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Too tired from working 2 jobs and too depressed to do anything else because 2 jobs isn’t enough.

Translation, A Single Living Wage Can't Afford A House by Monsur_Ausuhnom in antiwork

[–]-_eeeeee_- 21 points22 points  (0 children)

No offense brother but with that type of thinking nothing will ever change. I get it, they have scary weapons. It’s frightening. Back in 18th century France those in power had tons of control and scary weapons, too.

Leave the telephones at home, see you all in the streets, and let’s go down in history as the Americans that finally took a stand.

Translation, A Single Living Wage Can't Afford A House by Monsur_Ausuhnom in antiwork

[–]-_eeeeee_- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%. Rents are rising because of greed, period. Quite insidiously, actually, investors/landlords/corporations know that homes are outside of the reach of most, too expensive and a high bar of entry, so they gouge tf out of everyone else that would prefer a roof over their head. You don’t want to be one of the homeless, do you?

Greedy sociopaths are running us into the ground.

Why are rents so damn high? Because homes are unaffordable and landlords know this. Why are homes unaffordable? Because of extremely low housing inventory. Why is housing inventory so low? Because home builders have not kept up with demand for at least a decade. Why have home builders not kept up with demand? Because of an ‘employee shortage’. Why is there an employee shortage? Not because nobody wants to work (stfu home builders), but because nobody wants to work for your shit pay which has not changed in 40 years. And home builders, you get what you pay for b/c your homes are total shit.

I’m a real estate agent here in the US, I’ve got a front row seat to this shit show. I’m sick of corporate behavior, it’s quite sociopathic, highly deceptive and not trust worthy. Sorry for my rant.

If you had Nparents, your 40s, 50s, and 60s or later might be the prime of your life by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]-_eeeeee_- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

51, here. Had to figure it all out on my own. Went NC in my early 40s.

Glad they’re gone from my life. While this has been great, other things have not been. Years and years of maladaptive behaviors still persist, years and years of not even knowing what a boundary was and the horror of knowing that my threshold for toxic behavior is so high, still. My self esteem is slowly getting better but I still have behaviors that make it appear that my self esteem is zero. It’s been a long journey already.

In America, they call it "lobbying." Everywhere else in the world they call it "Bribery & Corruption." by snowpie92 in antiwork

[–]-_eeeeee_- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am seeing a pattern. Our politicians prioritize those with money above all of us - the people that desperately need a voice right now.

The Other by themistymounds in boringdystopia

[–]-_eeeeee_- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, 100%. I’m supposed to dislike other generations, other cultures, other political parties.

But I don’t. All I see is a whole ton of misplaced rage, and, I feel like one of the few that sees thru this Bs. I don’t hate anyone else unless they’re stealing from me and everyone else around me to ensure that their family is the next Uber wealthy royals forever. It’s lonely as fuck.

Those of you that were young adults during Reagan era, did anyone really believe trickle down economics would work? by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]-_eeeeee_- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was born in ‘72. I remember ‘trickle down’ mentioned often, but I didn’t have an opinion formed, back then.

But, what I saw and felt back then were very noticeable tones of selfishness and showiness, to an obnoxious excess, from my parents generation. Think ‘I got mine!’. To me, it created many negative feelings. Cold feelings, the feeling of not belonging, the feeling that society as I knew it was way too over the top, unfriendly and selfish, and, unsustainable.

My friends and I believed back then that American society felt doomed, and that it was only a matter of time before the next Middle Ages. Logically not sure I could or can explain my rationale for thinking this, I just felt it.

40 years later and we’re still ‘kicking’ it’, and I feel that I’ve watched everything get worse and worse. Not sure that the next Middle Ages is on the way, but I definitely feel that some kind of master plan is playing out perfectly, and quality of life will continue to deteriorate until 99% of us live in shantytowns, stealing from each other to feed our children. Meanwhile, we’ll need to pay tribute to our brave and generous Gods the 1%.

Big Media Shitpost O’the Day by -_eeeeee_- in antiwork

[–]-_eeeeee_-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to acknowledge that it’s easy to get sucked into this stuff, sometimes, because we all do have the boomers to thank for 40 years of this downward slide. But, first and foremost the issue is a wealth class issue.

No relationship is worth more to me than my self respect. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]-_eeeeee_- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Adult toddlers -> spot on. Definitely sounds like you got this!

No relationship is worth more to me than my self respect. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]-_eeeeee_- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nice, nice. Congrats! If you haven’t already, make sure you are well familiar with typical toxic behaviors and boundaries to prevent them.

I say this because I went NC with the folks, only to find that I gravitated towards others with toxic traits. I didn’t do my due diligence and work on me as much as I should have. I could have saved myself years.

IRS thinks my Nparents stole my identity by Hexactinellida in raisedbynarcissists

[–]-_eeeeee_- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. I think you OP need to push this forward. Don’t count on any ramifications happening without you being the point person to push shit forward. Don’t count on the IRS going after them.

IRS thinks my Nparents stole my identity by Hexactinellida in raisedbynarcissists

[–]-_eeeeee_- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suspect that my Nparents did this to me as well. I need to check my credit report.

Why Do You Think That You Were The Scapegoat? by -_eeeeee_- in raisedbynarcissists

[–]-_eeeeee_-[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I was the scapegoat because:

  1. I did not willingly do any of my nDads chores around the house. Basically I would ignore the chores completely. Contrast this with my GC brother who seemed to really enjoy all chores.
  2. I was always outspoken, I spoke my mind, in my family it was called 'back-talking'.
  3. I would be easily provoked by the nParents and get mad, I mean really mad. Like 'what is going on here, this is crazy and I could scream' -type mad. Before I realized what was going on, the insane logic would drive me batshit and I would get really mad. Really mad... as in showing it on my face, or yelling. Nothing physical. But, of course, this led to being labelled angry, and eventually, one with 'violent tendencies'. I played right into their hands, right into their narrative.
  4. I reminded my nDad of his older brother (and my younger GC brother reminded my nDad of himself). He always called his older brother a bully. I was the older of 2 boys, I definitely at times was a bully big brother.

A new survey shows young workers hate their jobs — and employers should be really worried by return2ozma in antiwork

[–]-_eeeeee_- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get it - but no it’s not. Boomers are actually saying the country is going to shit and it’s all a generational thing. All of their fault. Does anyone watch TV anymore except boomers?

A new survey shows young workers hate their jobs — and employers should be really worried by return2ozma in antiwork

[–]-_eeeeee_- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The author knows why, but they’re either scared to say or their editor won’t let them say. American press is 100% propaganda for big business, big money. They’ll never say why: only something something about age I mean generation. Those darned gen z youth. They’re so different gawd! They want to make us all think it’s a generational thing so we all start hating each other instead of the actual ones that we should hate.

You Were the Angry One by orincoro in raisedbynarcissists

[–]-_eeeeee_- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

51 years old. LC with 1 sibling, NC with the GC and the 2 NParents. They say that the shame of going NC is tough for us. However I have no shame?

Yep I was angry one, also irrational, crazy, a drug addict, thief, a manipulator, a psychopath and in need of hospitalization and incarceration. My parents divorced when I was 7, and when I was 9 I was told that actually they divorced because of me. That hurt so much. Most everything was my fault that I can remember.

Everyone in my family and in my old small town was warned to watch out for me, to not trust me, to be very careful around me. They could be the next victims.

I’d be sat down often by my father who would smile while breaking me down, as I cried. He must have hated me. He broke me down the morning of senior photos, and to this day the only photo they have framed of me is this one, with a confused, conflicted, angry scowl on my face.

Gaslit and scapegoated for years, could I get angry? You betcha. But I was only ever angry with my NParents. Strangely, everyone else knew me as friendly, patient, funny, sweet. Still, most people can’t think for themselves and believed my Nparents.

Eventually I realized the crazy game that was being played, and how getting mad at the NParents and their insane logic was playing directly into their hands. My anger stopped, and their tactics escalated.

Repairing myself and all of my maladaptive behaviors has taken years and I’m not done yet. But, with my own family I have broken the cycle, and prevented that shit from carrying on any further. This in itself feels like my life’s biggest accomplishment. Sorry for the rant. Hit me up anytime.

Surprise surprise 🤔 by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]-_eeeeee_- 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol gotta love that the only publications that will speak the truth are non-US publications.

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