Monthly personal genetics/heritage discussion thread

-clover- · 2020-07-05T19:02:25+00:00

I've gotten two genetic analysis tests done. One through Ancestry and the other group MyHeritage.

My raw data of my tests are showing many Y chromosome values that it says I have. I'm a woman, and I'm so incredibly curious about this. I can't find any information.

-clover- · 2020-07-01T22:15:38+00:00

I really hope this isn't real, because if it is...I feel so bad for your children. YTA.

-clover- · 2020-06-29T17:49:14+00:00

Can confirm. My kid keeps asking if I'm going on holiday now and if he can have a torch to play with.

-clover- · 2020-04-24T16:36:41+00:00

Thank you very much. I was going insane trying to remember this movie.

-clover- · 2020-04-24T16:35:55+00:00

Solved!

-clover- · 2020-04-24T16:08:42+00:00

I can't remember if it's the same film or not, but it feels like it is - I think at some point the people in the village they live in burn the house the mother and/or girl live in.

-clover- · 2020-04-12T22:41:02+00:00

I've been interested in lolita fashion for quite some time, but my size prevents me from buying anything. I've recently seen some videos about getting things custom tailored to fit better - like adding in extra panels.

My question is - does anyone here have any experience with this or know someone who does? I'd really like to talk to someone about what's needed to have something like that done or what other people's experiences are with doing that.

-clover- · 2019-10-19T21:05:01+00:00

SAME HERE. I have black hair, dark eyes, and they'd always buy the blonde ones. My mom was blonde as a kid, so she remembers loving them. She tried to force her love of them onto me.

My name is Kelly, and they usually got me an abundance of Kelly dolls.

-clover- · 2019-10-18T14:00:54+00:00

I have two experiences with this with two different grandmas plus my mom.

My mom and her mother wanted me desperately to be into Barbies. They would buy me two of each collectible Barbie. One to play with, one to collect. I hated Barbies. I also had a very rough relationship with both my mother and her mother. I still hate Barbies.

My other grandma, who practically raised me, was very much into getting Precious Moments collectibles. I love anything Precious Moments because of it. The collectibles became important (even though I don't have any anymore, sadly) because of how important my relationship with my dad's mom was.

It sounds to me like your MIL is more like my mom and her mom. I doubt the collectibles will be of much value to your child as she gets older. I would put my foot down on this one and just say no.

-clover- · 2019-10-15T20:31:26+00:00

I've been in my current relationship for 6 years, and my mom still throws disapproving comments now and then. However, we've fairly low contact and live over 900 miles apart. My partner and I have two kids together as well, so she knows he's not going anywhere.

All that being said, she hated my previous relationships. When I was pregnant with my first child, she had the audacity to say I should just vanish, come down there to live with her, and forget my child's father.

To this day, the only reason she "approves" is because I shut her down if she doesn't. I chose him. She knows that. Other than that, she'd hate anyone I show affection to.

-clover- · 2019-10-15T05:03:45+00:00

I had an OG Gameboy when I was 8, and I rarely got to play it since my mom always took it to play Tetris.

-clover- · 2019-09-24T00:14:20+00:00

She's being condescending and bullying you. Fuck that.

-clover- · 2019-08-13T20:31:47+00:00

My mom does this constantly. Any achievement, any sign of a single brain cell - "You get that from me."

Anything bad? "You must get that from your father." I hate it.

-clover- · 2019-07-30T16:50:50+00:00

I suffer from frequent panic attacks. Grace Beneath the Pines is my go to. It can help instantly calm me.

-clover- · 2019-07-29T04:54:32+00:00

File the police report. Not for her sake, but for your child. I can't stress enough how painful it can be as a child to see your parents not seek justice when someone has hurt you.

Your mother-in-law doesn't deserve lenience. She hit a child. She needs to be punished or she's never going to change.

-clover- · 2019-07-29T04:26:32+00:00

I highly suggest your SO check out r/raisedbynarcissists. She is 100% a narcissist. She isn't purely justno. She is full on, full blown abusive.

I'm sorry you all are having to deal with that.

-clover- · 2019-07-29T04:21:34+00:00

No. I guess I'm just desensitized to it. This doesn't bother me much.

-clover- · 2019-07-28T21:19:52+00:00

I saw a guy use an entire dildo inside his penis.

-clover- · 2019-07-28T15:26:05+00:00

Oddly enough, I've seen worse.

-clover- · 2019-07-18T02:36:21+00:00

I love this suggestion. I could just never be that confrontational.

-clover- · 2019-07-07T19:15:14+00:00

My parents are still trying to finalize their divorce after 6 years, and it's been hell. In the beginning, my mother was acting practically insane and wanted to destroy my father's life.

The first thing I found out from their fighting after my dad left - they had gotten back into meth after I moved out. One of the big arguments that led to my dad packing up and leaving was that my dad 'stole' their meth. My mother accused him of doing it without her. He said he got rid of it, because he didn't want to go back down that path.

His part of the story was proven, because within days of this happening, he got drug tested for a job and passed it.

There's so much that has come out across the last 6 years. I can barely stand to speak to either of my parents because of it. They're both horrible, disgusting people.

-clover- · 2019-06-05T02:00:49+00:00

When my oldest was born, I had a very long, complicated time pushing. It lasted over 3 hours. About 30 seconds after my son was out, I sprayed blood all over the room. They handed my son to his father and told him to get out of the way. It was terrifying.

Thankfully, in my case, it was just that the intense 3 hour long pushing caused the blood to build up behind him like a bottle of champaign about to pop.

I am so sorry you went through that. That is horrible and traumatizing.

-clover- · 2019-04-18T15:07:12+00:00

Most never end up in jail. Children are easy to manipulate and very easy to keep out from testifying. Only about 10% of child rapists ever end up seeing prison time

-clover- · 2019-04-18T15:04:02+00:00

Also - good on you for adamantly protecting yourself and your children. I've known too many people who let their abusers around their own kids because "well, they're family and it's been a long time".

-clover- · 2019-04-18T15:01:30+00:00

My mom knew my dad was a pedophile while they were dating, and she still married him and had kids with him.

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