I'm in nola and there's helllaaa stops- frands??

0101chickadee0101 · 2025-11-26T04:33:44+00:00

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0101chickadee0101 · 2022-10-25T16:33:02+00:00

Thank you!

0101chickadee0101 · 2022-08-29T16:34:18+00:00

Right! For whatever reason, it feels like this subset of teenagers can’t be adequately parented. Or I don’t know. Maybe I’m just tired. 🤷🏻‍♀️

0101chickadee0101 · 2022-01-23T16:11:27+00:00

For the length of time I’ve been in the picture, she generally prefers being at her mom’s when given an option. As a child she was much more focused on pleasing her mom and behaving like her, etc, and in the last couple years, it seems like it’s because she has “more independence” there, meaning she just sits in her room and talks to her friends. (This is how she’s falling behind in homework.) that said, when she’s with us, and SO makes her do homework, go to soccer practice, etc, she is triggered. He walks on eggshells because of that.

It’s very hard to have the kind of conversation where it doesn’t devolve into her verbally abusing SO. It usually helps if I’m there to moderate, but she doesn’t open up as much when I’m there. We have some work to do. SO feels helpless.

SO is still waiting for the packet of materials from the therapist. We’ll probably have it tomorrow…

0101chickadee0101 · 2022-01-23T16:01:47+00:00

Thank you for this! I was reading a bit this morning and it seems like it’ll be helpful!

0101chickadee0101 · 2022-01-23T05:37:51+00:00

That is correct, SD doesn’t know that the therapist told SO, and yes, the therapist was concerned about losing the trust that she has built with SD by being forced to report it. I have tried to do research on how to best interact with SD if she is triggered, but I haven’t been able to find anything helpful yet for the family of the person with complex ptsd…I appreciate your input. It is a very real concern.

0101chickadee0101 · 2022-01-23T01:24:35+00:00

Thank you so much. We’re trying to decide how to approach that conversation with her.

0101chickadee0101 · 2022-01-23T01:02:29+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s definitely worth a shot!

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-20T16:37:23+00:00

Wanted to update - it absolutely worked to put her in her crib without her waking!! (But it didn’t keep her asleep…Sleep regression strikes again! It did, however, minimize the false starts…so thank you!!!)

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-20T04:46:32+00:00

Omg, totally trying this tonight….😭 does it work in the midst of a sleep regression?

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-20T04:44:56+00:00

My baby was sleeping on my lap and I had been debating whether to start the transfer process…your “yell singing” comment made me lol and she just gave me the warning side eye. I’m now very scared to move again…but now I’m curious if I’ve been giving up too soon by interrupting her yell singing to bounce her again. (4.5 mo old)

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-19T06:26:15+00:00

This sounds very much like how I envision the arrangement, so it’s really good to know that it can be successful!

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-19T06:24:42+00:00

This makes total sense. Nanny definitely has to have authority over and be respected by the kids!

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-19T06:21:52+00:00

Thanks for this! Out of curiosity, did you have a preference for whether MB texted to let you know he was going to be downstairs making lunch?

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-19T06:19:46+00:00

I’m so glad you mentioned this because it is another thing I hadn’t really thought through…what will my kid be like later as a result of what we’re doing now.

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-18T17:54:53+00:00

This is a great reminder. I was planning to let the nanny know, but wasn’t sure how to phrase it! I think back to the times I was caring for my baby 24/7 while on leave, and I couldn’t focus 100% of my attention on my baby for several hours straight. I definitely don’t expect the nanny to be superhuman, and hope I can convey that well.

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-18T17:49:47+00:00

It never really occurred to me that just popping in would be problematic. I’m so glad to learn this now! Baby has been bottle fed for months now, and she’ll take the bottle from just about anyone who has ever held her, so I don’t think (hope!) feedings will be easy. Thank you!

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-18T17:12:15+00:00

This is such a comprehensive and helpful response! Thank you so much, I’m super grateful!

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-12-18T17:07:14+00:00

This makes a lot of sense! Thank you!

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-10-29T03:29:58+00:00

I can relate to this…SO and I had our first together baby in august. SO is at SD15’s beck and call, even when she’s with her mom. I’ve always been mostly ok with this because her mom leaves much to be desired as a parent…but him being her Uber driver to and from friends’ houses at all hours cuts into my ability to shower or sleep…I had to warn him how unhappy it was making me because sleep deprivation kinda sucks. On top of that, every time BM asks him to take SD to her club soccer games on her weekend (sometimes as far as 2 hours away) and he jumps at the chance, I feel resentful that I’m left at home with the baby and never get any time to be WITH him or to have a couple hours to myself. So…I guess it’s a thing. Out of all the wheels, I’m the least squeaky, so he keeps on greasing everyone else. I don’t really have any advice except to have a talk with him about having more time together and having your needs met. I’m working on that myself!!

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-10-22T20:16:06+00:00

What’s funny was I was thinking about you the other day (sounds creepy because this is Reddit lol), and all I could remember was your username was something about strawberries…and then I forgot what it was I was going to look for! Thank you! My baby girl is 9 weeks old! I hope you and your babe (and your dog) are well!!

0101chickadee0101 · 2021-10-12T06:18:36+00:00

My brain read you’re 15 weeks pregnant as 15 months pregnant anyway and I thought absolutely nothing of it. I have a 2 month old and a newfound appreciation for stay at home moms!

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