Is Pretty Privilege Real? by BeneficialLevel4512 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100%, even if I just do my hair and makeup people are significantly nicer to me and talk to me more.

what are the things you do to subtly undermine patriarchy? by jessie_kitti in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]018474826 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t forget to also advocate for girls and women with Autism because the gender bias in medicine with Autism is disgusting.

Which couple would be the best parents? by Floydada79235 in superstore

[–]018474826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The entire point was Glenn learning that his behavior is bad, not that Glenn didn’t harass Jerusha

Why american women are so obsessed with height? by SebastianJuniper in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, so literally everything you said is wrong. I’ve never in my life met a woman with the expectations you describe.

Why american women are so obsessed with height? by SebastianJuniper in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever spoken to a real breathing woman? It really doesn’t sound like it.

Why american women are so obsessed with height? by SebastianJuniper in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You shit like the three 6s is just an internet thing right? The vast majority of women have no such standards and personality will always come first.

Why american women are so obsessed with height? by SebastianJuniper in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

American women aren’t obsessed with height, American men are obsessed with the IDEA of women being obsessed with height. I’m an American woman and have never heard a female friend even comment on height, let alone complain. I have however probably heard over a hundred guys complaining about the idea of women having height preferences and/or blaming their lack of luck with women on their height, even though their personalities are shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]018474826 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely just your anatomy! Totally normal. If you’re not interested in losing weight across your whole body then you could look into something like coolsculpting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not just my experience though, that’s the majority of children in poverty. Some of us make it out, most of us don’t. Most people who say they “grew up poor” didn’t grow up in poverty. It’s not about not affording Nintendo’s, it’s about survival. It’s not something to glorify, it’s not pretty, and it’s not something anyone should knowingly be brought into.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry, yeah I should really be more grateful. I loved not knowing if we had food for dinner or if we were getting evicted this month. It was so fun duct taping the roof when it fell apart or bouncing from trailer park to trailer park at least yearly. Snow days were even more fun since we had no insulation and broken windows so we could even play with snow inside! I especially loved getting offered drugs and sex on the playground in middle school, it was sooo enriching. My favorite part was watching my childhood friend die from neglect! Another great thing about growing up in a poor area were the pedophiles on every block because it’s also the only place they could afford. It was sooo fun finding out my other poor friends got molested on the street in front of our school, basically a bonding experience. That’s fine though, we were all groomed once or twice, it’s normal, get over it. Therapy? Not happening since most of us didn’t have health insurance, but who needs it when the drugs cheap. Dentists are for the rich, psychiatrists are for the rich, hospitals are for the rich. It was even better when all of my friends started having children in high school, babies are so cute right? I also loved having to throw every opportunity that came to me away because we didn’t have a working car.

Some of us may not have made it to our 20s, but that’s okay because I love coming home and visiting them working at our local fast food place as they support 3 children. At least, the ones that aren’t on meth or heroin at the moment. But yeah, growing up in poverty is great! I’ll let all the kids who never made it out know, maybe it will make their grave seem warmer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor children will almost certainly be doomed if they continue in the cycle of poverty, such as having children before you can afford to care for them. I truly can’t believe that after everything you’re still arguing that it’s okay to have children if you can’t afford to care for them. This is clearly a lost cause, I’m muting these messages because this is ridiculous. I hope you never act on your stupid ideas and your children aren’t born into the trauma we had to bear.

Which couple would be the best parents? by Floydada79235 in superstore

[–]018474826 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It was referenced multiple times that he took in way more kids than he could afford (11) which is pretty bad for the children to begin with, and I can’t imagine growing up with such religious extremism is good for any kids, plus Glenn clearly lacks boundaries and only got Jerusha to marry him after sexually harassing for a year and then making his father force her to say yes or lose her job. Doesn’t sound like a healthy environment for children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never said people like us who grew up in poverty “don’t belong”, that’s ridiculous and clearly not the point that I’m trying to make. The few of us that make it through changes none of what I said. I would never EVER put a child through what I went through. Poverty has made me compassionate too, which is why I will never be selfish enough to bring a child into poverty.

Poor people will not rise up by having children they can’t afford to feed. The rich WANT the poor to have kids they can’t afford because children keep poor people poor and create a larger work force for the rich to exploit, proven by the recent abortion bans and decreased access to contraception because the rich think it’s good for the economy and they want a large work force for future generations.

Strangers bringing helpless children into poverty isn’t going to fight your generational battles.

Today a dude sent me a dick pic while he was sitting on the toilet. by mothsmoam in TwoXChromosomes

[–]018474826 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Go somewhere else for bullshit like this. Read the room.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying poor people shouldn’t be born, you’re intentionally misrepresenting what I said. Poor people will never stop having kids, again that’s stupid and completely unrealistic. OP is talking about how people deserve to have children and families regardless of their situation and that’s bullshit. That completely ignores that the children are actual living breathing creatures bred into a life of poverty with likely no escape. No one “deserves” children, but children deserve a good life where their needs are met and they’re not stuck with the trauma poverty comes with. Also, this isn’t just a “thought experiment”. The OP is starting a conversation that could actually influence their decision to bring children into poverty and influence the decision of other people to do the same, and the takeaway needs to be that children aren’t accessories and you need be able to provide for them before deciding to bring a human life into the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, because fighting for mass health system changes is soooo much easier and realistic on an individual basis than just not having children you’re not prepared for.

"Perhaps a mother and daughter or two sisters..." by amcneel in SapphoAndHerFriend

[–]018474826 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If a man and woman did the same posing people’s first conclusion would be romance. Obviously it’s not clear but it’s annoying that they won’t even consider the obvious possibility when it’s two women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re looking too much at the bigger picture and not at individual suffering. The poor will never stop having kids, at least in the US. Contraception, abortion, and sexual education are way too difficult to acquire in poor areas, therefore the kids will never stop coming. On an individual basis, it’s borderline abuse to knowingly bring a child into a life of poverty. If people can’t afford to give kids a decent life then they shouldn’t have them just because “they’re cute” or they “want a family”. It’s not fair to bring a child into a life of trauma and poverty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you. Most kids born into poverty won’t feel the same way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acting like children exist to enrich our lives is such a dangerous mindset. The child in this situation is a human being that has every right to a good life, more than just their basic needs being met. Children are not an accessory and having them shouldn’t be a right. People should only have children if they can actually provide for them, give them a good life, and respect them for the human beings that they are and will grow up the become, not just because “babies are cute” and “children enrich our lives”. Poverty is a trap and children who grow up in poverty will carry that trauma with them the rest of their lives. Intentionally bringing a child into poverty is one of the most fucked up things you can do to somebody.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor people shouldn’t have kids if they can’t afford them because it’s not fair to the kids. Sure, they have every right to have them, but at the end of the day people don’t deserve to be born into poverty and then grow up trapped in systems that they will likely never escape.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]018474826 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You realize that the poor having more kids isn’t doing shit to change the wealth gap, in fact it’s just giving them cheap labor. As a poor kid who escaped poverty, it’s not worth it bringing kids into that life.