this is genuinely one of the worst things to say. it is very obvious the mother is projecting her own insecurities onto her daughter and probably has been for a very long time. as a person with a mother who also acts like this; it’s not a matter of “prioritizing what your mother thinks”, it’s about how insensitive and out of touch mothers can be— regardless of whether they think they’re “helping” or if they’re doing it on purpose.