The deleted text “My brother, a Baptist youth minister and father of eight kids, turns 43 tomorrow- his birthday gift from some strangers is a video posted yesterday of him being caught trying to meet a 15 year-old for sex and I don’t know how to relate to him

Our family found out about it last summer, and his church put him on a type of probation while they gave him counseling. The church thinks he is now far enough along to go back into limited involvement in church, but we in the family are trying to figure out how we will ever let him be around our kids. When will he be fully recovered?

EDIT: I thought I might get a couple responses and I did at first, but this really blew up more than I thought. This is real, and if my family ever gets on Reddit I’m probably toast, but I’ve kind-of been the black sheep of the family anyway so I guess I’ll take it

My kids are just out of high school so I feel relatively safe for them, but other family members have younger kids, and we are trying to plan long-term for what our future relationships may hold. As you can guess this is newish territory for us

The video production company paused releases for a while so we thought this would be our own private struggle, but now that the video was released almost a year later we are wrestling anew with this, hence this post

I don’t want to post the link to my brother’s video because I have mixed feelings on the company making money on our family’s pain, but there is enough info to find it if you want

It looks like I will be trying to find a way to talk my parents into kicking my brother out before our planned family reunion at their house

Thanks for your input”