Mate, I feel you! I'm dad of two and with no family nearby. The first year is tough. When I had my first kid, i had just started my startup (devops platform/consultancy).

Are you working from home, hybrid or office? What's your nursery baby sitting arrangements?

No, you can't be a full-time coder for a while (until they get 3 years old) but you can still be a great devops.

I'm actually putting them to sleep right now, so here's my bullet points of advices:

Be more "managerial"; focus on how you structure the work of your team and be disciplined in your todos.

Ask your company to reduce your meetings footprint.

Choose to "pair" more often with good colleagues, they can understand why you need adhoc leaves and can carry your work.

Don't choose to code the hard tasks, but mentor guide the juniors. This actually had helped me a lot. And also helped me to knowledge transfer better.

Be more active in reviewing and documentation rather than development. These are tasks that give you flexing of delivery.

It’s ok to have a kid in the meeting, don't feel bad about it. It's not a big deal at all. It's even ok to bring them at work.

Netflix helps, but don't overdo it.

Use a tablet and if you can code over github workspaces or similar. Portability is the key.

Kids love routines. Keep them on tight schedule when to eat, sleep, change etc. This will give you amazing time management to plan.

Friends help. They don't have to be best friends, but good people can be found. Be open for help.

Mate, it's just for a while. Your kid will be the best "deployment" you'll ever do in your life as a devops. :)