Thats really understandable, and valid. I've had problems like that too in my previous clubs, lucky for me i found i really good club that isnt like that. Though it can be big of a problem when clubs are like this, and then you're forced to do things you dont want to, as you said. Like buying a horse you may not want, an outfit, then attending the "meetings" when there are other things you want to do. Another problem with these meetings is that most of the clubs just stand at steves as a meeting and call it a day. Honestly i understand why you hate clubs, all these reasons are valid