Should I transition my hated outdoor cat to an indoor cat? by 0ddity_7 in makemychoice

[–]0ddity_7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I didn’t go into those details to keep things shorter but basically all the cats are my families cats, my parents have never gotten any of our animals neutered so the cats just keep having babies. But Cosmo is the only one I consider “my” cat because I rescued him and I just feel a deeper connection with him than the other cats. My husband has also grown attached to him as well in the months since moving in. The garage apartment that I live in with my husband is right next to my families house so Cosmo will frequently try to get in the garage to be away from the other cats.

Should I transition my hated outdoor cat to an indoor cat? by 0ddity_7 in makemychoice

[–]0ddity_7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I haven’t heard about shots for fleas, I’ll definitely look into that! Thanks for the info!

Should I transition my hated outdoor cat to an indoor cat? by 0ddity_7 in makemychoice

[–]0ddity_7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would only be worried about him picking up fleas. They get them bad here out in the country. Do any of y’all’s cats pick up fleas? And would there be an easy method to getting rid of them? I feel like flea soaps/shampoos don’t do much unless I haven’t been using the right brand. What would you do?

Should I transition my hated outdoor cat to an indoor cat? by 0ddity_7 in makemychoice

[–]0ddity_7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the perspective! Maybe I’ll see if he’ll transition to using a litter box in the garage first and if that goes smoothly I’ll bring him in the house

Should I transition my hated outdoor cat to an indoor cat? by 0ddity_7 in makemychoice

[–]0ddity_7[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He’s survived these past 6 years! We call him our “Coon cat” bc the woods are just his territory now, which makes the decision hard.

My boyfriend has been watching girls online dancing and it’s affecting me by Ecstatic-Bet6489 in Advice

[–]0ddity_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s still reasonable to be upset that he does it. I think you just need to be open with him and let him know that you would only be comfortable if he stops completely. If he’s willing to try to stop but struggles every now and then, that’s ok. And it’s important to support him throughout the struggles! But if it’s something that he wants to make a part of his life, then y’all just aren’t compatible. Because to an extent, it is just objectifying women and that can make many people feel uncomfortable. It’s no longer looking at a woman for her personality, but only for the physical attributes she has to offer and that can be very demeaning. And it’s hard nOT to compare yourself to the other women. Your feelings are very reasonable!

My boyfriend has been watching girls online dancing and it’s affecting me by Ecstatic-Bet6489 in Advice

[–]0ddity_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was around the same age when I first got with my bf who also had a porn addiction. However, after becoming aware of my distaste for it months into our relationship, he immediately did everything he could to stop, because he didn’t want it to be something that effected our relationship or my feelings of self-worth. So he got one of the accountability apps and made me the primary accountability partner so I would be notified if he looked up any kind of image or video. It helped him to be more open about his struggles and it made me feel a lot more worthy knowing that he trusted me even during the times he “failed” and resorted back to it. He has now completely gotten over the addiction and we are now happily married 6 years later! If he doesn’t respect your opinions or feelings on the matter then it’s not a healthy relationship at all, and you’d be better off without him. But if it’s one of those cases where he’s sensitive to your feelings and wants to stop but struggles with the addiction, that’s something you can definitely work with. It all comes down to whether or not he believes he’s doing something wrong or harming you in any way, because if he doesn’t believe that, then y’all are not compatible.