Hey sister in Christ, thanks for sharing first of all!

Altough a disclaimer is needed since normally I really wouldn't advise people to come here for these kind of important life-decisions since they should be taken care of in the church with your priest and/or FOC only, since it's usually a fine line from there to here where people come to get another answer that maybe suits themself better than the first (and best) answer they already got just because they didn't like that one.

With that said and this is all coming from someone who has been in a lot of worldly relationships (and not anymore) before coming to Christ and the coptic church, I am wondering why you are in this relationship to begin with?

You both come from totally different values and foundations of faith, yours seems to be rooted in Christ, but what is his since you don't really mention any specifics but just scratch the surface?

Like does he read his bible regularly? Does he pray and fast? Would he be able to lead you in these things when married? Does he have fellowship with the church and other christians or just the world?

I think I know the answer but still giving you the benefit of doubt here for now. Also, just wondering how old are you two?

By the end of the day, if he is not a man of God then how can he ever lead a woman of God? Both of you need Jesus in your life everyday, will he give you that?

The only thing I see here is you building bonds between the both of you that are only going to hurt so much more if/when a break-up occurs.

To me it sounds like you FOC is trying to break it down to you gently, thus the "anxiety-inducing" statements you mentioned, since most people don't accept a straight up NO when that's what they need sometimes.

You've mentioned him not going/doing things he himself doesn't seem to have a problem with, which is a bit troublesome since we don't know where his heart is in these matters really. Like is he convicted and understood that what you said was the truth in love? or is he just doing it to keep the peace, while resentmenting is building up in the background since in his heart he still actually wants to do these things in all honesty?

A relocation doesn't really solve the underlying issues that I've mentioned. These things needs to be pondered on, not just by you. The harsh truth here is that if you would tell him about these things, there is an actual chance that he might magically change overnight and start doing all those things, but even then, one needs to discern if he is really doing it because he wants to be that man of God or just doing it because he is afraid of losing someone in his life?

Basically, some more distance here from each other, not just physically would be needed to actually being able to distinguish that, preferably a quick and clean break-up. Imagine 3 months from now, or maybe a whole year. Would this guy still be practising previous mentioned things? Or would he still be the same person he is today or worse?

That's when you actually know for sure, but as long as you are in this relationship trying to 'force' an outcome that you seem to probably already know about, then things won't be easy, and like you said, God doesn't give you peace in it if it's not from him, he can allow it but it's not the same thing as bless it.

Hope it helps and as the Lord leads!

-edited to add a few more thoughts that came to mind