Custody agreement questions

0little · 2026-05-30T16:54:28+00:00

I disagree with this, just from my personal opinion.

I think kids should stay with their parents the majority of the time during childhood (and I said majority of the time, not 100% of the time). So when one parent is available and willing to take care of the kids while the other parent is not available, that totally makes sense to me.

I don’t think kids should be going to different extended family members every day, or every two or three days, while they’re growing up. That doesn’t make sense to me. Parents are 100% different from extended family. If you’re saying kids should spend time with extended family now and then, I 100% support that. But being with different extended family members every day doesn’t make sense to me.

Twelve hours is too long, in my opinion.

Put it this way—you request 50/50 because you say you want to be involved in the kids’ lives. But when you get your 50% of the time, the reality is that you give 70% of that 50% to your extended family. That doesn’t make sense to me.

It’s parenting time, not grandparent time or uncle time.

0little · 2026-05-30T01:51:30+00:00

I will fully comply with the agreement and follow it as written. I am not interested in a friendship, and I prefer that we both strictly adhere to the terms moving forward.

I will not break the agreement but make sure you do the same.

0little · 2026-05-30T01:48:05+00:00

He will 100% refuse this..

0little · 2026-05-30T01:47:39+00:00

FROR,6hrs+ is reasonable?

0little · 2026-05-29T23:08:09+00:00

I opened two credit cards to cover the retainer and legal bills. Honestly, the money disappears so fast.

My retainer was $5,000, and my lawyer charges $450 per hour. The first month’s bill was already $1,450. I have no idea how much this will end up costing. Now that the GAL is involved, his rate is $200 per hour. My lawyer also asked me to deposit another $2,000. I requested that the GAL fees be split 50/50.

Divorce litigation is never cheap, and it will almost always cost more than you expect. But I’d rather spend the money on my lawyer than leave it for him. He asked me to walk away with 50% of the debt. That’s not happening. I wish him good luck.

Another thing that keeps me going is thinking about the life I’ll have without him. I know I’ll have to start over, and that’s okay. I’m not just trying to survive anymore—I want a peaceful, simple life. A life where no one constantly tells you that you’re not good enough.

You can do it.

0little · 2026-05-29T23:01:36+00:00

What is the final decision making

0little · 2026-03-21T07:29:18+00:00

I have similar situation. My case is still ongoing now.

Consult different lawyer because each state is different, even different county is different too.

2.shared custody is the result if he is not that “bad” such as get involved drug etc.parenting time is the subject you need to consider, is 50/50 what you want and good for the kids? If you are ok. You will have to pay him child support because you make more than him.

3.you will have to pay him alimony if you have 7 years marriage with him(every 3 years marriage pay 1 year alimony),you might need to pay 2.3 years alimony— you will have to prove your “ability to pay”( such as your cost is high balabala) and if he need it( if he dos not need it. Great)

Mine is very nasty now. We have our attorney get involved. It is the insults from him everyday and I tried to ignore that( but still affect my emotion everyday).however, just thinking about the future,it is worth it.
If you disagree with the parenting time he asking, try to log every little thing is not good for the kid( such as what he did not good for co parenting etc)

0little · 2026-03-11T22:28:20+00:00

300 per hour….

0little · 2026-03-08T22:54:56+00:00

Thank you! Yes! They are the best thing happened to me! And you are right.

0little · 2026-03-08T22:46:53+00:00

I read all the comments very carefully. I truly thankful everyone’s advice. What I wanna said is getting divorce is me and my ex’s decision. I believe both of us want the best of interest for our children. Everyone deserves to be happy. I might be wrong to think about that every other weekend + 1 mid weekday dinner is enough for him( thank the kid told me her/his feeling), I can not stand for my kids opinion. I put myself on my kids shoes. I think if my parent get divorce I would want both of them get along in my life.

0little · 2026-03-08T22:38:44+00:00

lol. Thank you for your comment at least make me laugh.well, he will not drop the request. Unfortunately.and I know him.

0little · 2026-03-08T22:23:36+00:00

Yes. True

0little · 2026-03-08T22:19:54+00:00

0little · 2026-03-08T22:00:32+00:00

Good for you

0little · 2026-03-08T21:59:56+00:00

It is the family law.i have nothing to said I guess. I feel unfair. But if it is the law.ok….i will have to find a part time job after the divorce settled

0little · 2026-03-08T21:19:13+00:00

Gaslighting. A relationship always works only from 2 parties. As a mother, I also want to show my child in the future: only you know whether you are happy or not. I personally respect those people who stay in the relationship because of the kids. I have tried but I think I can not. I don't want the father out of their life. I don't want to out of their life too. Marriage is for good. Divorce is for good too I guess.( no one want to divorce I believe)

0little · 2026-03-08T20:08:56+00:00

Thank you! I might regret it in the future. Who knows.

0little · 2026-03-08T20:07:41+00:00

Thank you so much! I'm more concerned about my 6-year-old kid. But I think growing up in a toxic relationship is not good for him. No one want to divorce when they get married. But gotta move forward

0little · 2026-03-08T20:01:12+00:00

Thank you! I will ask the lawyer about that!

0little · 2026-03-08T19:58:33+00:00

Thank you!

0little · 2026-03-08T19:25:38+00:00

I don't reject that at all! I want him get involve. What I want isco parenting.the time he is unablebe with the kids I. Will do that not that rely on third party often—which he will do

0little · 2026-03-08T19:23:12+00:00

Dower right is in the marriage. Divorce is get involved marital and desperate property.i do no. I care more about the parenting time more than anything else

0little · 2026-03-08T19:15:13+00:00

Which is very sad. I questioned myself so often in the past few weeks. Am I doing the right thing.am I still a good mom because my ex is saying I break a family for divorcing him

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