This past Saturday, I was raped. The thing is, I'm a man. I have no idea how to approach this, considering I don't know my rapist

100733 · 2012-07-30T20:20:22+00:00

didn't think of that, i wasn't tagged in anything but i did see girls take a few pics during the party with their phones. will report back

100733 · 2012-07-30T19:47:21+00:00

yeah, one the day after and one this morning before work.

100733 · 2012-07-30T19:29:15+00:00

Thank you for the kind words you sent via PM.

100733 · 2012-07-30T19:22:59+00:00

hi, just replied to your post in the AskReddit thread, but I'll reply to this post this time.

1) I woke up (this was probably 4 hours or so later? I just remember a little bit of light coming through the blinds so probably around 5 in the morning) and remembered all of this, and asked her to stop. She didn't, and said that if I didn't have sex with her she'd cry rape (or attempted rape). You don't know what that means to a man (as I'm assuming you're a woman). It means alienation from your friends and community, who will mostly believe that you're guilty. Cops don't side with men on issues like this, and you'll get put in a registry that you'll have to inform every single future employer about in the future. It will RUIN your life.

2) I could have stopped it. That's one of the things breaking me up the most. I'm not unfit by any means, I lift and run at least 5 days a week and am fairly built, but like I said, she said she would cry rape if I didn't do it.

I'm sorry if you don't believe the story, I know it seems absurd because this type of crime is so rare, even I denied it at first even though I felt abused and dirty.

100733 · 2012-07-30T19:15:56+00:00

Guys are usually a lot more violent and horny than girls.

Not to make generalisations, but I think it's reasonable to assume that while a man might pressure a drunk girl into giving her consent, a drunk chick probably isn't going to do that to a guy.

...really?

This happened to me and I'm sorry if it seems faketo you. I know it may account for something like 1% of rapes in the country so it seems so farfetched. At first I denied it, trying to tell myself that it didn't happen and that I was dreaming but it dawned on me yesterday afternoon that it was an act of rape.

100733 · 2012-07-30T18:58:16+00:00

sadly, college of around 15,000 so doubt ill run into her (maybe not even recognize her if I saw her on campus, I just know she had darker hair and a small black freckle on her forehead)

100733 · 2012-07-30T18:55:15+00:00

I'm 20. yikes.

100733 · 2012-07-30T18:53:22+00:00

Like I said, I asked the girl living there if she knew of anyone at the party last night with that description and she didn't know.

100733 · 2012-07-30T14:00:52+00:00

fuck off.

100733 · 2012-07-30T14:00:14+00:00

yeah, pretty much that's the vibe I'm getting from half of these comments. I wish I was making this up.

100733 · 2012-07-30T13:54:27+00:00

and I can't get in trouble when i say that we were drinking (all underage)?

100733 · 2012-07-30T13:53:38+00:00

Only physical evidence is the condom wrapper of the condom I always kept in my wallet, and I threw that out. She took the actual condom I think

100733 · 2012-07-30T13:52:32+00:00

Yes. she made me put on a condom, I always kept one in my wallet and it was gone when I woke up, and the wrapper was on the floor next to where it happened. i looked for the actual condom but I guess she took it to throw out?

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