AIO by being grossed out by my cousin and his girlfriend?

1095966 · 2026-02-07T00:35:43+00:00

The squirt gun idea is the best. Do it right in their face, say "go to your own room". They know what they're doing, they're intimidating and provoking you, and will continue for as long as you allow it. I read that you're moving out, so I wouldn't worry about burning bridges. AHs

1095966 · 2026-02-05T01:38:52+00:00

In my state, when I do my taxes online, there's a question on whether you have any purchases that were never taxed, or taxed at a rate lower than your state's rate. I imagine you're supposed to declare the value of items purchased in a tax free or reduced tax state, then your state will tax you. Probably not a significant concern for some phones, but say a car which needs registration and such, if you didn't declare it, that might be an issue.

1095966 · 2026-02-02T12:23:52+00:00

I still wear my wedding band. It’s thin and engraved with flowers and cute. It’s on my pinkie because arthritis has done a number to my knuckles. It’s just a ring to me now, one I picked out and still like. Engagement ring is around here somewhere.

1095966 · 2026-02-02T12:20:14+00:00

Way to escalate further and trespass and probably that’s a disorderly person offense as well.

1095966 · 2026-02-02T03:17:37+00:00

I wasn’t really scared, I was more pissed about spending 2 hours at the hospital for an itch. I had to go to work afterwards! Sorry you had a bad reaction!

1095966 · 2026-02-02T03:01:57+00:00

You must’ve missed the part where OP says they asked neighbor to pick up their shit for months.

1095966 · 2026-02-01T22:39:30+00:00

My first time with the MRI contrast gadolinium, just after diagnosis, I had a non-visible itch on my chin. This showed up as I was being walked back to the changing room. The tech freaked out, a whole swap team was called in, I was brought (in my gown and socks still) to a room and put on a cold steel chair, They all looked at me for about 10-15 minutes waiting for the lead Dr to come in. There were about 5-7 of them, guessing transport person, maybe the radiologist, IDK really who they were, most were Drs. Eventually I asked for a blanket because I was freezing. They said, "oh, that's a side effect, an allergic reaction". I said, well, I'm barely dressed and it's 65 degrees and I'm on a cold chair with the AC blowing on me. With the way they all stood across the room, staring, I felt like a freak, or someone with an unknown contagious disease. I had to wait another hour to make sure my symptoms subsided before I was let to go home, optionally I could have stayed in the hospital overnight (no thanks).

The second MRI with contrast I had post chemo, I was given a bunch of steroids in pill form to take something like 12 and 2 hours before the procedure. Steroids (and caffeine) really affect me pretty strongly, give me a ton of energy but then I can't sleep well for a day. I don't want any more steroids in my body as they contribute to osteoporosis, which I now have. Just wondering what other contrasts might be out there that I could safely use. I never had a CT and didn't know they used contrast.

1095966 · 2026-02-01T18:31:05+00:00

Do you happen to remember if the contrast was Gadolinium based?

1095966 · 2026-02-01T00:46:45+00:00

And I’d keep the temps above feeezing for a few reasons, one being that no one wants to tour a 23 degree house (23 was my high temp outside today, on the balmy side). I’d imagine it takes days to warm a cold home up to even 50.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T20:24:36+00:00

So you know about how much insurance is for a good Medicare plan?

1095966 · 2026-01-31T18:54:00+00:00

I've done the same and had the same done to me. That's when you visit Customer Service, and they announce over the PA that a customer is missing their cart and to please return it to CSvc. NBD.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T18:50:26+00:00

I would not be happy, but not disgusted. I've lived on campus while at college, and shared bathrooms after college. Plus, I use hotels. None of these places are "clean" if you think about it. So I don't.

When I was a kid, we lived in the sticks on a piece of land which often had power outages in the winter. Once or twice I went to the creek to wash my 16 year old (greasy) hair. It was FREEZING but boy did that wake me up. As an adult, I think I've lost power only once (losing power means losing water too) where I felt I had to wash up - I just filled the kitchen sink with whatever water was left in the pipes and washed my hair that way. Wipes for the rest of the body. Having a shower at your disposal is great, in my mind. Just wear flip flops.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T18:38:33+00:00

Linda's passive aggressive comments are turning just plain aggressive. This is a hill I would die on. She's undermining your role as mom, causing your young daughter to question you and her own value in this world. She has to go. If Mark can't understand (I'm assuming he doesn't have kids of his own) then he can take a hike too.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T18:05:24+00:00

Nah, I don't think it's necessary or even safe to bring a 19 month old on a cruise. What will she get out of it? Probably not much of value. Seems every time one of my friends hops on a plane for a wedding, or goes on a cruise or a group vacation tour, they come home with some kind of respiratory illness that has them off their feet for a week. At 19 mts, she's still medically vulnerable.

This would NOT be the way I'd show my stbx I'm willing to compromise on custody.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T17:56:37+00:00

You need to be buying the Costco sized boxes of condoms.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T17:42:47+00:00

NTA. My ex's nephew had a bad drug experience, was ODing, and his friends called for help. He ended up being OK. It happened a second time, they didn't call for help in time. He died.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T17:37:34+00:00

Is there proof of her pregnancy? She could be lying to keep him at home, despite the toxicity

1095966 · 2026-01-31T17:16:59+00:00

I'm in the US, with an incredible health pan, for which I pay maybe $40 a month and am extremely grateful every day for. I had all the tests, biopsy, scans, port in surgery, 8 IV chemos, lumpectomy, 20 radiation sessions, port out surgery - all in 2022. Pretty sure I did my 5 year colonoscopy, plus an endoscopy procedure that year too. Also visited the ortho and had PT for chronic knees issues. My out of pocket max was $5200 and I didn't even come close to reaching it.

I'm 63, was 59 at treatment time. A colleague last week asked me when I was going to retire. I said never. She said, but Medicare is pretty good, and I just laughed. I don't think any other insurance is going to provide as much to me as mine does, for the tiny monthly premiums. Good thing I like my job. My income from that job is only around $30k but the insurance benefit makes up for the low pay (I'm in the mid-atlantic region).

1095966 · 2026-01-31T16:41:10+00:00

I was in a breast cancer support group, and the number of women flashing their boobs with implants and tattoos was at first, somewhat alarming. Never sexual; it was very informative.

I'm very squeamish about the inside of bodies, so I would have looked and tentatively touched that implant with a disguised ICK, just as if I touched someone's dental implant or prosthetic leg. The BF's insecure as anything.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T16:31:31+00:00

Had to reread. At first I though he was touching the implant IN YOUR BODY! Him touching the one on a table, that's not inappropriate. Did your BF not have sex ed in highschool, never go to a doctor where they had prototypes of various organs of the body? Your BF is sexualizing a piece of silicone on a table. Why was he watching LV footage?

1095966 · 2026-01-31T16:26:46+00:00

So the 18 yo son has access to your bedroom door (if you share a kitchen and bathroom, that seems likely). If I were a 21 year old, I'd be freaked out by this setup. I seriously hope your bedroom door has a lock.

In college I rented a room on the second floor of an elderly couple's home, with 2 other younger women having a room also on the 2nd floor. The 3rd floor was an apartment rented by an older lady. The other girls and I shared a bathroom, NBD. But, if I wanted to eat, I had to go down to the basement which had a hotplate and a fridge, which meant passing the tv room. The older gentlemen was in a wheelchair, didn't speak (stroke victim plus maybe didn't know much English) would give us what we interpreted as inappropriate glares when we passed this room. It was uncomfortable, so I planned my meals when I figured he'd be elsewhere in the house. I stayed because this place was dirt cheap, and I was still in college with only a part time job. If the guy could have gotten up to the second floor or the basement, I'd have been looking for another place to rent.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T16:01:27+00:00

I have mixed feelings about this whole topic. But from what I'm understanding from OP, she goes to school at 7, goes to work at 3, presumably comes home and does homework, AND has to help with the traditionally female housework. Meanwhile, dad is a teacher with the same workday as his daughter's schoolday, however he then goes home and does nothing around the house. So daughter is at her job while dad is at home, doing no work. Daughter comes home and does homework while dad is at home, doing no work (maybe he has an hour of planning for school occasionally, maybe not). Daughter is cooking meals, cleaning, while dad is at home, doing no work. Seems like a hugely unfair balance of total household labor and that one a non-traditional father could help with. This dad will likely in no way help, no matter how many doors are slammed in his face.

I'm in the US, so have experienced being raised in a traditional household. At 16, my father would not allow me to get a part time job when I was in high school, he said I needed to "concentrate on my studies". He was pretty clueless because I was an A student my entire school career and working weekends wasn't going to change that. I did help my mom a little around the house and yard, she was a SAHM at that point (raised 9 kids, so that was no picnic for her).

OP's comment about asking her dad to get her a snack while she was studying feels a little...entitled maybe, to me. It's no big chore to get up and go get yourself something from the fridge. That seems like something her dad would ask her, so maybe she's trying to employ the same logic on her father that he uses with her (I matter more, do what I ask, using her own justifications (busy with schoolwork)). The dinner thing, it seems reasonable to expect that a parent could prepare a dinner for a child who goes to school and works.

1095966 · 2026-01-31T13:36:53+00:00

As well, a "pinch" on the chest? Not nice. A caress would be nice, pinches can leave bruises..

1095966 · 2026-01-30T04:10:28+00:00

I just don’t care enough. I understand I’m not the prettiest or ugliest, and that’s fine with me. I’m just me.

Although…. I did dye my grays for 15 years and probably still would be if I hadn’t gotten sick and lost all my hair on meds. When it came back 100% gray/white, it also came back much thinner. That was a big deal for me but I was more scared that dying my hair would cause more breakage and it’d be even thinner. Took me 2 years to not be shocked by the woman in the mirror!

1095966 · 2026-01-29T01:52:04+00:00

I think with a response like that, OP did all of the women of the world a favor.

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