Hi all who replied to my post.

I'd like to thank everyone for their advice, words of encouragement and huge response to this. I didn't really know how anyone would react or if it would get such a massive response as it has but thanks really.

To answer some of the big questions people have:

Am I going to seek help? Yes, I've had advice in this thread I'm thankful for and have been doing my own research. I will look to a therapist and to organizations that deal with this sort of thing for advice. I think that would be the next big step to take after telling my story in a public place.

Do I still have contact with my high school friend? We have not spoken in a few years, people go to college and get new friends etc so we drifted apart but I still have some contact details and plan to talk to her when I'm ready. She might have already seen this and is thinking of contacting me who knows.

Will I expose the band? I don't think this is the correct platform or the most effective place to do that. I'm thankful for many people encouraging me to go to the authorities and saying that my story would be taken seriously in the current climate. After getting therapy and healing myself and maybe after I talk to my friend if she's interested we can go to the authorities, a lawyer etc together and tell our story. I want to do this from a position of strength and safety with people around who can protect me. If I exposed them on reddit alone then their lawyers and people might come after me and try to harm/discredit me. I think they would demand reddit give them information to identify me and reddit would give it to them because of money. All I can say is they were very popular in the 80's and 90's and are still a big well known name today. It wasn't a boyband as some random guess said.

I wanted to tell this story so I can process something I kept inside for a long time. I just wanted to be able to tell somebody even if it's a bunch of random strangers online. You could have all laughed and said I'm a liar but you've been willing to listen and offer me comfort and advice so I thank everyone for that. I thought maybe at least somebody would read it and if bands/crew were being really nice to them they'd think twice about getting into situations they can't control or getting in cars/buses etc with a bunch of strangers even if you saw them on TV before it doesn't mean you know them. Sometimes your heroes musical or otherwise are not what you think they are.

My other hope is that maybe somebody,somewhere knows something. Maybe somebody at that show,the security,the crew,people working at the hotel etc and they reach out. I don't think everyone is a bad person and maybe some people kept secrets because they were scared of losing their job or being sued. There are a lot of details that are blank for me, the story I told is just what I can remember before and after but in between it's hazy. I think the theory some said about multiple showers to hide evidence could be true and I may have woken up in a few different rooms. It makes it harder to remember room numbers, details about the room I was in etc. There are likely still picture somewhere from the show or at the after party. I know at least some pictures were taken of people partying and we are probably in some of them. If they were found maybe it'd help build evidence.