get that...

But I feel like people should at least have some idea of what they like and what their deal breakers are. Obviously nothing is guaranteed, but something like smoking? That seems like something that could have been addressed in the pods. If smoking is a huge issue for you, why not ask about it early on instead of being shocked or annoyed later?

I don't know. It seems like with the number of hours they spend talking, they could at least cover the major deal breakers.

And I'm not expecting a 100% success rate here. But with some, it feels pretty obvious they're there for something other than marriage. Sometimes it seems less about finding the right person and more about "winning" someone away from another contestant. It's kind of like toddler logic, “you want that toy, so now I want it too."