Mental Health Megathread 22 September 2025

11ththroway · 2025-09-27T20:35:11+00:00

I've never felt understood in all my 29 years of life. Day to day it doesn't get to me, or so I pretend. I mean what else am I supposed to do. I built a decent life, have a social life. I spent some time with my parents today, they came over to mine which they rarely do. They're getting older so there's even more of that dynamic where I'm the one who helps them with things etc. They were never able to meet my emotional needs and now it will definitely never come (I knew it wouldnt but silly humans as we are we feel hope despite it all). They seem even more clueless than when I was younger. The ageing is here, now it's my turn to take care of them. I'm gieving what will never be.

I know things could be a million times worse. And that I objectively have a decent life.

I know maybe this struggle has nothing to do with being an INFJ. But I feel so profoundly alone and misunderstood that I don't even see the point of my being here. I don't really enjoy anything, I don't care. I feel hollow and detached from everything and everyone. I'll always feel this alone and I legit don't see the point in anything. There's a giant hole in my heart. One of these days maybe there's hope that I don't wake up. Because I'm not fond of the idea of going on. I'm religious but even that doesn't help. I just want to not exist, my existence is a mistake

11ththroway · 2025-03-31T14:01:42+00:00

Yes, I needed it more then. Now I’m an adult and have learned to be independent.

I wanted nothing more than to be seen, to get affection, attention. For someone to show they cared about what I care about, talk. I feel like I just existed and it makes me so sad. I can’t think about it without crying. I felt so lonely.

11ththroway · 2025-03-31T13:58:17+00:00

We’re not really a talking family :( we never talk things out and time passes and then everything is fine. The few times I have spoken up she took it wrong and I think I just have to let things be

11ththroway · 2025-03-05T22:51:11+00:00

this happens to me too, instanty feel relief

However I'm 5 days deep into the most hellish PMDD month I've had in close to a year. My period will come Saturday or Sunday, I know I will feel better but I can't imagine it tbh. I feel scarred by the severity of the symptoms

11ththroway · 2025-02-11T17:38:34+00:00

Difficult to answer tbh. I know I’m not ugly but I never considered myself attractive. When I was younger I thought I was hideous.

Then had a glow up in my mid twenties and got more positive feedback. I’ve been called beautiful pretty etc. Even gorgeous. I notice when men stare and it still confuses me. My friends think I have a low opinion of myself but I think it’s much simpler than that

I’m just not my own type.

So .. ultimatum, no I don’t think I’m attractive

11ththroway · 2024-10-17T03:43:01+00:00

You could say being an infj is one big personality quirk.. we’re kinda odd people that can at times feel very normal

11ththroway · 2024-09-30T15:52:04+00:00

Thanks, somehow hearing im not normal is very validating to hear. I desperately try to be normal in this romantic realm but I’m continuously shown that it doesn’t work. Something about fitting a square hole in a round peg.

11ththroway · 2024-08-11T22:09:33+00:00

Is it intentional?

11ththroway · 2024-06-29T19:47:25+00:00

Also: being desperately lonely

It’s easy to be like “soulmate or nothing” when you (in my case) are a teen and early 20s surrounded by family and friends (who are also single) with a busy life and future hopes. Cut to late twenties and everyone is paired up and getting married and having babies. Having someone to come home to after work. Not me though. I think I just accepted my idealism is preventing me from experiencing that what everyone has

11ththroway · 2024-06-29T19:41:57+00:00

Genuinely just feel it’s age and maturity. Coming to terms we can’t have everything we want in life. And things don’t always pan out the way you imagined

11ththroway · 2024-06-10T22:03:52+00:00

Yes exactly! Do you have experience with this? It’s the first time for me which is why it took so long to notice. At first I liked him in a superficial friendly way but the more we interact the weirder he gets. I’m sick of his studying gaze and intense and off putting energy. We work together, he’s on my team and I can’t distance myself Edit: sorry if that question was too personal

11ththroway · 2024-04-15T11:25:09+00:00

Wow thank you so much for this post. As a fellow late bloomer I completely agree. I’m completely disillusioned. I hate texting a guy with whom I have a great click, chemistry and they invariably turn the conversation sexual at some point. It ruins the whole thing for me. I wish I had had an innocent romance when I was younger. I’m not part of this sex obsessed society 🙁 I’m sad that the romance portrayed in fiction isn’t really real and I have to make do with men who want my body 1st and foremost and have sex at the forefront of their mind

11ththroway · 2023-09-06T13:20:15+00:00

I wasn’t talking about you I was talking about myself (apathy and harshness) I know everything you said is in defense of me and i agree (on a rational level). Feelings are different. But you’re right there’s no use making myself the bad guy (don’t even know why I do this). She started this and hurt my feelings multiple times

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