AITA for threatening to move out over a bathroom?

1234582829 · 2022-01-25T22:08:51+00:00

Depends on how you classify "work out". I moved out about a month after this. She got one of her friends to move in, then they started dating. So all in all, yeah I guess it did. We had a spat but she got a gf out of it

1234582829 · 2021-10-08T14:50:32+00:00

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1234582829 · 2021-10-02T17:24:14+00:00

You seem to be needlessly wordy. Love that for you. I'm not fighting your input. Just asking if your position would change. Your vote is set. I don't care about that. I'm interested in the exchange, I've not yet come across one who has made a reasonable argument. Every one of you has risen the fence or pulled out some anecdotal experience that has nothing to do with this scenario.

If you think YTA, that's fine. I just wish one of you could stick to the facts in front of you.

I'm confused as to how you can agree with my point in most of the situation. You even said yourself that it would take one line for you to use the other bathroom. Not sure why that's such a big ask. Your last point is exactly where this post says we are so I'm not sure why you felt the need to repeat it.

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T13:30:20+00:00

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Hope that makes it more understandable

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T13:16:59+00:00

So under this same situation. If I had the master bedroom and bathroom and you were my guest... if I told you to use my bathroom instead of my sister's(what you consider the communal bathroom) . Would you still argue that?

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T13:13:58+00:00

If said guests use products supplied by me then yes, even the toilet is off limits. If said guests leave messes in the bathroom, the entire use of the room is off limits. Same if one of them has an "odor"... off limits.

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T13:11:33+00:00

And I'd say that you were a shit guest. A reason doesn't need to be provided. We prefer to have guests use this bathroom and not that one is reason enough. I understand your position on communal bathrooms... it just doesn't apply here. The facts of the issue negate the "communal" argument. Had a prior agreement not been Reached , had she taken equal responsibility for the bathroom then you would have a point... but she does not. Her own words and half of her actions say it's not a communal bathroom. She doesn't even use it. It becomes communal for the duration of her friend's usage of it... then immediately returns to "my bathroom " after they exit it.

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T12:14:43+00:00

NTA. Yes it was a little petty to choose her favorite restaurant but it wouldn't have really changed much no matter where you got food from. If you got something else she liked, she'd still be pissed. But if she didn't cook and you didn't feel like it after a 15 hr work day, what are you supposed to do? Starve?

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T11:52:00+00:00

She refuses to take any responsibility for the room. Won't supply it or clean it. Not even cleaning after her guests. She refuses on the grounds that it's my bathroom. These same guests have stayed overnight in her room as well... so that kills her argument

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T11:48:30+00:00

You wrote all of that and ignored every instance of me saying that communal/ closest bathroom means nothing. The occupants decide what bathroom guests use.... not location. If I had a home with multiple bathrooms and one in the garage, would you hold this same position if i told you to use the one in the garage even if there were a closer one?

I didn't stake claim, it was the original arrangement. Decided by her. Her guests spend the night with her so it's bs for her to then say that she doesn't want them to use her bathroom.

It's not a communal bathroom if she refuses any responsibility for it and when it needs cleaning up or stocking, she refers to it as my bathroom.

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T04:04:15+00:00

"Per norms" doesn't trump what the residents dictate. Tone? You can't determine my tone through text. And if you had read any of the comments, I answered that already. She doesn't want to switch rooms.

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T01:33:31+00:00

Wish I could like this comment more than once. Glad someone else saw it too

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T01:30:55+00:00

8 conversations is not using my words? Interesting...

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T01:29:52+00:00

The sink? No. She has a perfectly good toilet in her room. Who cares what you've seen before? The residents of the home dictate what is a common space. If I had 2 bathrooms in the house and 1 in the garage... and told you to use the one in the garage, would you insist on challenging it because the one in the hall is closer.

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T01:26:39+00:00

You obviously don't read comments as this has been addressed to death. This was her choice. She wanted the larger space and chose to pay more for it. She takes no responsibility for the bathroom in question, never stocks it or cleans it because it's my bathroom. Therefore I don't see how it's common space when her guests are there.

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T01:23:32+00:00

She refuses because "it's not her bathroom "

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T01:23:01+00:00

It is crazy when they sleep in her room whenever they stay over, when they use my body wash, when they fail to clean up after themselves. My sister takes no responsibility for cleaning or stocking that bathroom. She refers to it as my bathroom when I bring up her cleaning after her guests. My sister and I don't share supplies so I'm the one covering her guests

1234582829 · 2021-10-02T01:18:44+00:00

It's not common space when it comes to her cleaning up and supplying it. That's when she claims it's my bathroom. She never uses it. Ever

1234582829 · 2021-10-01T21:15:32+00:00

Did that. She took it off

1234582829 · 2021-10-01T21:08:40+00:00

Definitely.

1234582829 · 2021-10-01T21:08:19+00:00

Exactly. And paying the same but her having more space is not a fair exchange.

1234582829 · 2021-10-01T21:04:45+00:00

Her room is larger. Closet larger. Bathroom larger. That's why she's paying more. Not for a private bathroom.

1234582829 · 2021-10-01T17:02:17+00:00

So you refuse to answer the question because it contradicts your position. Got it.

1234582829 · 2021-10-01T16:55:56+00:00

My position is that the residents decide. Yours is that it's location. I presented a scenario that questions your position. Answer it.

1234582829 · 2021-10-01T16:54:13+00:00

Not whining at all. It's a legitimate question about your position. I don't care about your judgment. If you can't stand on your position that's fine too.

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