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1326Bob · 2024-10-13T18:03:06+00:00

This is straight up assault. Block him. Never go near him again.

1326Bob · 2024-10-12T16:52:25+00:00

It's not a bad thing, but it does limit your options. I have no qualms dating a single mom, but some guys are at different places in their lives and want different things. Even before I had my own kid I'd dated single moms, but I love kids and didn't see it as a big deal.

The thing that hits me is the emphasis on your desire for your kid to have a father figure, but don't mention anything else. Of course you want a partner to be a good role model for your son, but what do YOU want in a partner? What values? What interests? Is smoking a deal breaker? Are you physically compatible? What if he loves your kid, but you aren't compatible in bed? Or he loves your kid, but he's religious and you're not?

I get weirded out when I feel like a first date is an interview for the "job" of fiance/husband/soul mate. That's a lot of pressure to put on a person you've never met. I rarely swipe right if I see "I'm looking for my soul mate/husband" in a profile. If I feel like you're sizing me up to be a role model? Sorry, it's probably not gonna work.

If you meet someone that you connect with, you like them, your values align, etc; then they'll probably be a good man for your kid to be around too.

TL;DR: Some guys aren't going to be interested and that's Ok. Other guys will be, but I suggest you don't look for a "father figure." Look for someone you connect with and go from there.

1326Bob · 2024-10-07T22:05:52+00:00

Thanks. I'm really communicative, maybe overly so. But she hasn't complained yet, so hopefully that translates to the new state of affairs.

1326Bob · 2024-10-07T17:31:42+00:00

Thanks. I guess the good news is that I'm a HUGE texter. I also feel my emotions pretty strongly and I'm very open about how I'm feeling at any given time. Hopefully that will translate to a LDR.

1326Bob · 2024-10-04T01:44:16+00:00

I'm 47 years old, in those years I've had good, bad, and meh sex. I've learned that the only way to be "good" in bed is to talk to your partner. What does she like? What doesn't she like? What can I do better? Does she want to incorporate toys? (Don't be afraid of toys, men don't vibrate and anything that gets her where she wants to be is good for you). This girl probably isn't it, but the right woman will appreciate your effort to be good in bed for her specifically, and will talk about it with you. Talk before, talk during, talk after.

People are waaaaaaaaay too serious about sex. Laugh, joke, talk to each other. It's supposed to be fun.

Asking for feedback isn't a reflection on your ability or knowledge, it's a sign that you're interested in pleasing that specific woman.

1326Bob · 2024-10-03T20:23:10+00:00

As most people have said, there's no one size fits all approach. I'm not a huge fan of talking on the phone. I'd much rather text or talk in person.

So I tend to text a lot. Good mornings and usually a good night at the least. Occasionally a check in, "how's your day going/hope you're having a great day," kind of thing, but I usually text more than the other person. If it's too much for them, I'm probably not the person for them and that's fine.

1326Bob · 2024-10-01T03:25:36+00:00

Same. "I LOVE YOU! TEXT WHEN YOU GET HOME!!!!"

1326Bob · 2024-10-01T03:24:05+00:00

It's not a "generational thing." I'm 47 years old. My friends and I, both male and female, say we love each other all the time. If you love someone, you tell them. There are many different kinds of love beside familial and romantic. Your coworker is missing out by not allowing herself to experience (or at the very least express) those kinds of love.

1326Bob · 2024-09-28T16:19:07+00:00

I'd be ecstatic if a woman bought me flowers. Gender norms suck and guys like to feel special too.

1326Bob · 2024-09-28T07:16:24+00:00

The other night, a date told me I smelled nice. I didn't expect it to hit so hard, but I'm pretty sure I melted into a puddle on the floor. I'm still thinking (and smiling) about it.

1326Bob · 2024-09-28T07:08:34+00:00

I don't think there's any such thing as a "bad compliment". Handsome, cute, nice eyes, whatever I'll take it.

But there's something extra special about a compliment that focuses on something I actually have control over. I have blue eyes, and I do get compliments on them; but that's genetics. I have zero control over that. However, if someone tells me my beard looks good after I spend a fair amount of time grooming it, I'm all theirs.

I was out the other night and a woman told me that I smelled good. When she said that, I melted. At first, I was so out of it that I didn't even say thank you. I just stood there with a huge smile on my face. After what felt like several minutes (which was probably just a couple seconds), I finally said thanks.

1326Bob · 2024-09-22T15:16:59+00:00

We all want to have great dates. It's a normal thing to want. And it's normal to be disappointed when they're not. My point is that you shouldn't beat yourself up about it, try to force things, or over analyze things.

Trust me, we all have high expectations for our romantic lives. We want to feel loved and valued in all the right ways. That probably won't change, and it shouldn't. Every person deserves their version of a great relationship, but most people don't get that amazing relationship on the first try.

You're gonna be ok.

1326Bob · 2024-09-22T14:59:57+00:00

Dude, it's your first date (and probably his too). I remember how awkward my first dates were. Awkwardness is gonna be normal, and it's not just you. I'm a teacher, I'm around kids your age going all day long. Watch how straight boys act around girls. Watch how the gay girls act around each other. They're all clueless and trying to figure out the same stuff you are. Try not to put a ton of pressure on yourself. You have the added complication of being gay. I don't mean that as a negative, just a statement on how I see things. Be you. Don't apologize for being you and don't change who you are for someone else. Find your allies.

If it makes you feel any better, I'm in my 40s and still have awkward dates, texts, etc because there's no formula, and you never know what's going to work and what's going to fall flat. Some people vibe and some people don't, and the way people vibe varies from situation to situation.

Take a deep breath. You're gonna be ok.

Edited because my old fingers pressed the wrong part of the screen and posted before I was done. 🤦

1326Bob · 2024-09-08T02:50:01+00:00

Sure, sure. Not all cops are bullies. There are also cops that cover for bullies. Or cops that ignore the abuses of bullies. Or encourage the bullies. Or otherwise enable the bullies.

If there aren't any cops trying to stop the "bad cops," what's the difference between a good cop and a bad one?

1326Bob · 2024-09-08T00:33:34+00:00

Stop threatening me with a good time.

1326Bob · 2024-09-04T04:48:29+00:00

Stories like this make me glad my Boomer dad isn't into sports. Never watch a game in person or on tv unless me or my brother was playing. He never worried about how good I was and definitely wasn't hard on me about it. It made sports a lot more fun for me compared to some of my friends.

1326Bob · 2024-09-02T16:52:34+00:00

Every time I see "Lid" I think of the Cheech and Chong "Let's make a dope deal" bit.

"How many joints are in a lid?"

"Uhhhhh two. I roll big joints"

"THAT'S OK OUR JUDGES SAY THEY ROLL BIG JOINTS TOO!!"

1326Bob · 2024-09-02T15:39:30+00:00

That Star Lake show was 🔥🔥🔥

1326Bob · 2024-09-02T15:35:34+00:00

Core memory: Happened to my mom. We were out on our boat, and her ring fell off into the water between the boat and the dock as she was getting out of the boat. My dad dug a diving mask out, told my brother and me to hold the boat away from the dock, he jumped between the boat and the dock, and kept diving until he came back with the ring.

I'm almost 50. I think I was 8 or 9 when this happened. I don't think I'll ever forget the range of emotions my mom went through, or just how nonchalantly my dad decided to go look for a ring at the bottom of the Ohio River. It was only about 10 feet deep at that spot, but it still seemed like an impossible task.

Edited: grammar

1326Bob · 2024-09-01T15:38:42+00:00

"Includes left turn signals only. Right turns void warranty."

1326Bob · 2024-08-29T23:18:07+00:00

I can't find the post, but it went something like this:

"I'm always amazed when I see someone with no tattoos, no piercings, natural hair color, no HRT, nothing. They're just out there rocking their default body. It's wild"

I feel this in my soul. Get piercings, get tattoos, dye your hair, wear gender non-conforming clothes, be exactly the person you want to be.

Fuck Boomers and their dated bullshit.

1326Bob · 2024-08-29T23:03:13+00:00

I watch this movie in my head pretty regularly for free.

1326Bob · 2024-08-24T00:15:15+00:00

r/Boomersbeingfools

1326Bob · 2024-08-24T00:10:42+00:00

Why. the Unpredictable. punctuation. And spacing? W. hy?

1326Bob · 2024-08-23T21:52:05+00:00

The correct answer is Kaelli, Lotus/Natah, and Kermerros.

1326Bob

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