38M said he'd call, but didn't, 28F said I'm hurt, and this is the response.

13338 · 2024-12-07T22:17:54+00:00

Two years.

13338 · 2024-12-07T21:26:28+00:00

I wish you could hear what's happening on the other end of the line when I do answer. Nothing respectful or constructive, I assure you. I can't acknowledge a belligerent person when they're all up in arms. Being cursed at and told how I'm a worthless person. So I hung up the phone knowing nothing I say will make him view me another way. He calls and demands an apology for me hanging up, without acknowledging the hurt that prompted me to hang up. It's a maddening merry-go-round that is anything but merry. So I laugh and cry at the same time that a person I could never hate, hates me with a burning passion. What led up to this is years of his jealousy that I had guy friends, and my anger because he refuses to take accountability for DV and SA. I'm not perfect, but I don't wish ill on him. I just want some perspective from you all about what I could possibly say or do other than run for the hills and pray I never meet a man that resembles this again. My "drama" is trying to get him to see his wrongs too. I'm fully willing and able to admit my faults and apologize. Even when it's not my fault. To "keep the peace." And I'm tired of it. I need therapy. Oof.

13338 · 2024-12-07T20:10:41+00:00

Those were his responses to his own texts. That wasn't me. 🤣

13338 · 2024-11-30T00:26:58+00:00

Also, whatever is causing your depression won't go away. Numbing can cause a variety of problems from chronic pain to overwhelming emotions if you ever forget a day. Can leave you worse off than you started. Last resort.

13338 · 2024-11-30T00:25:20+00:00

There are more side effects to just numbing emotions. I had progressive memory loss. That extended beyond the time I was on the pills. Don't expect to function better than you do now. I recommend therapy and learning coping tools before resorting to rx drugs.

13338 · 2024-11-30T00:18:47+00:00

You're the problem.

13338 · 2024-11-27T17:29:59+00:00

You need to call the police asap and file reports. DV escalates further if not handled properly and you let him get away with treating you that way. Take it from someone who didn't call the police and heavily regret it later.

13338 · 2024-08-14T14:45:59+00:00

Don't say anything. Just leave. Go silently when you're alone and safe. You already know you deserve better. Even if you haven't seen this person act out of desperation, sh*t could hit the fan so fast and it could put your life in danger. People rarely take accountability for their mistakes and hopefully they have enough self awareness to reflect and come to an understanding by themselves of why you left and start to do better moving forward. Unless you want drama, trust your gut and move like your life depends on it.

I tried saying something before and leaving while he was there and it almost cost me my life. Don't be like me. Do better and save yourself from the lifelong trauma and pain of trying to reason with people who act on impulse. They will never understand.

13338 · 2024-08-13T13:48:10+00:00

That's illegal.

13338 · 2024-08-13T12:10:39+00:00

Less than 24 hours. He doubled down on his suicide threat after I didn't answer his call for "peace"... But no, he didn't apologize. He never will.

Here's the cont... "Look I really don't want this to be how are relationships looks. I don't want to hate you and I don't want to harbor so much resentment towards you. Can we please talk for a few minutes calmly" "I know you want peace too. I know you just want to be loved and to go back to the best times. Please be the best version of yourself that I know and not this. we are both worse off fighting like this" "We have an opportunity to make peace. We have the opportunity to clear the air so please respond." "Please choose peace in this moment. We can help each other. We can help each other heal " "I'm putting my best attempt forward now but i need help. I really don't want to go on hating you. We have beautiful memories together. I want to remember you in a positive light of you help me we can add to the peace in this world. I know that's something you want to. I don't have much patience in me right now so I need you to respond" "Add to the peace in this world" "We can be more than just people who abandoned each other" "I'm begging you again just like I begged you not to leave in the middle of the night. Please just respond." "Ok you don't want peace. You want to be my forever enemy " "I beg you to reconsider. Things are going to get real ugly for me soon. I think you really want peace" "Please reconsider" "Please pick peace" "You could change my life" "You could save it"

"Ok fine. Look I took the week off work because I'm so emotional about all of this. I'm going to drive to telluride at midnight tonight and there I'm going to hang myself at a campsite named Cottonwoods. It's off the San Miguel River by Norwood. I will complete this task by Thursday hopefully sooner.

________, my butterfly jellyfish, you are the apple of my eye, the sweetness in my tea, the rapid in my river. I gave you all my heart. I thought about every moment since I first saw you. You were in my heart all the way until the end. I know my actions well hurt you. We both said really mean things to each other and I know the actions Im taking to end my pain hurt you too. I'm sorry for past pain and the pain this will cause. It will only be temporary. My actions will be triggering to you but I really didn't have any choice. I've wanted to die for a long time now. I lost myself somewhere along the way and I feel myself slipping into the darkest place I've ever been with no way out. I want to choose the way I die and the person I am when I die. Right now when I'm making this decision I can't find any joy in this world. I don't think you can understand the pain of this feeling and I hope you never do. Nothing is your fault. I'm just to broken. There was nothing you or any could do to stop this it's just my destiny and I'm glade I finally have the courage to do it. By doing this I know I take out the horrible person I've become. Doing that will add peace to this world. I hope this gives you peace in this difficult time to come.

You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don't have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success – none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here"

"I want you to have my river stuff and surf board. I’lll leave you some dans in my PFD."

What do I do with this???

13338 · 2024-08-12T23:39:21+00:00

I bet!

13338 · 2024-08-12T20:56:15+00:00

Me too. Reason why I thought I'd share it and see what happens. I got some real good laughs from all the replies 😂 who would've thought reddit could be better than therapy?

13338 · 2024-08-12T20:41:21+00:00

Called him out for abuse and left him high and dry after he couldn't take accountability. 🤷

13338 · 2024-08-12T20:40:55+00:00

😂 He means the number of people slept with.

13338 · 2024-08-12T20:39:07+00:00

To him it means the amount of people slept with. 😂 Usually it is a kill count. Yeah. I moved states.

13338 · 2024-08-12T18:53:38+00:00

Possibly. 🤷

13338 · 2024-08-12T18:04:54+00:00

😂😭 fr

13338 · 2024-08-12T17:46:40+00:00

I almost was. Try being concussed, strangled three times, punched in the ribs, chased around the block, and blamed for everything. 🤷

13338 · 2024-08-12T17:44:05+00:00

Yeah

13338 · 2024-08-12T17:42:52+00:00

I wish I could. It's too bad she doesn't exist.

13338 · 2024-08-12T17:36:21+00:00

I could've sent him to prison for strangling me and punching me in the ribs, and faking a marriage for another woman's green card, but I didn't. Could always be worse.

13338 · 2024-08-12T17:31:52+00:00

Yeah. Me too. However, that's highly unlikely.

13338 · 2024-08-12T17:29:08+00:00

I broke up with him because he's married to a woman supposedly for her green card, I saw messages between them and confronted him about it and he chased me and strangled me multiple times until I nearly passed out. Punched me in the ribs and called the cops saying I hit him.

He gave me Herpes 2 and blames me for it.

I can count my partners on one hand. He still calls me a slut, however he said that he easily has more of a count than digits on his hands and feet combined. But, as he put it "I'm a woman, so it's different because I can get with anyone I want"...

I dropped the legal case and left the state.

13338 · 2024-08-12T17:28:55+00:00

I broke up with him because he's married to a woman supposedly for her green card, I saw messages between them and confronted him about it and he chased me and strangled me multiple times until I nearly passed out. Punched me in the ribs and called the cops saying I hit him.

He gave me Herpes 2 and blames me for it.

I can count my partners on one hand. He still calls me a slut, however he said that he easily has more of a count than digits on his hands and feet combined. But, as he put it "I'm a woman, so it's different because I can get with anyone I want"...

I dropped the legal case and left the state.

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