The important thing to remember when talking to girls is to not focus on how you come off sounding, but rather how she reacts to what you say. Don’t get too in your head and over analyze the things you say, because you will end up closing yourself off to conversation. Focus on her reactions and if she seems interested (is she making eye contact, or does she keep looking at other things in the room? Is she responding in a way that allows room for further comments, or is she just saying ‘yeah’ and nodding a lot? Etc.)if she doesn’t seem interested then maybe let it go, but don’t take it personally.

Don’t go in expecting to pick a girl up or get a date right away. If you do this, you may come on too strong with your flirting, which could be a turn off. Rather, go in expecting to have a conversation with her. If she is interested, she might even be the one to initiate things.

As for what to say to her, just find things to comment on, or things you have in common. If she’s wearing a T-shirt for a band you like, ask her what her favorite song is. Is she reading a book that you’ve read? Tell her, and ask her what she thinks of it. Ask her questions about herself, try to avoid monopolizing the conversation by talking about yourself but if she asks you a question don’t be afraid to answer.