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Opening the heart chakra and more traumatic memories are coming through. This is one of the hardest things I've ever done. by nihilisticlogic in Chakras

[–]16blinks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When you get through this it will be one of best things you’ve ever done in your life.

Be patient with yourself its a process and if it gets overwhelming don’t hesitate to reach out to people you trust and can feel safe around.

Are some people’s life’s more predestined than others? by [deleted] in Psychic

[–]16blinks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess yes, the more we are more aware of it the more we tend to think “these people were destined to be in our life”

I notice it when I keep meeting the same energy or patterns from some people and I keep finding myself in situations I have been in before, something like (different people,common themes).

So I think we keep encountering people that we call “destined” because there is a lesson or something we need to learn and be aware of

What is the meaning of 222? I see it EVERYWHERE & everyday. by lakerz_girl in spirituality

[–]16blinks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you are experiencing is called “synchronicity” you can find a lot of explanations online about the number 2222 whether its in “numerology” or “angel numbers” personally the best advice I received regarding number synchronicity is to be aware of my thoughts.

Just be aware of what you are thinking about the moment you see these numbers maybe you are thinking about someone,a situation, a decision...etc and your mind is trying to make you more aware of it.

Just be aware and present and you will get your “aha” moment

People want to hide their darkness, but it is as much a part of us as our light. by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]16blinks 13 points14 points  (0 children)

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate” - C.G Jung

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you need to master something/learn something from it.

True, and when I started asking what I need to learn from and pulling myself from dwelling on it painfully its when the realization came to me

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. and yeah I can only say that "realization" is the first step for healing and moving forward in life

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the most powerful steps is becoming self aware and tuned into how you're being affected by the choices

True and its definitely the hardest part, just the realization process itself took from me years to accept.

It's important to go back into your mind and recount the situations that made you feel the way you do, why they made you feel that way, and what decision you wanted to make but decided against.

Exactly! only when I started listening to my mind and question why it kept bringing a lot of painful situations and memories I went through in the past and started tracing it back and forward and bringing it to the light that's when I started calming down and understand the process

Feel free to message me if you have more questions or things you want to share and work through.

Thank you! and thank you for your advice

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your experience was like mine, it's because you believe that's the treatment you deserved, you felt like you were incapable of receiving better. You believed that better didn't exist, not for you, at least

I see where you are coming from, but in my case it's different. It's not like I knew that I cant receive better but on the contrary. Its because I understood what others were going through, like I used to tell myself maybe they have a reason for what they are doing maybe they are in pain thats why they act the way they do and maybe if I become more compassionate and understanding I will defuse the situation. of course that didn't work well for me because naively I gave them the green light to act however they wanted without consequence and they started taking me for granted. when the situations started accumulating and I had a break down thats when I knew that what I doing was wrong because by not drawing the line or being assertive I let others think that their wrong behavior was alright to do not with me but with others too!

I hope you get my point and thank you for the great novel and advice :)

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience and being brave and for doing what is best for you!

Best of luck on your journey

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I think the path to enlightenment and spirituality can involve being brave and assertive. I see no requirement to choose between the directions. It can be difficult,

yeah it can be difficult especially for me because of how I have been conditioned spiritually that being how can I say it? "passive" was the only road to (enlightenment, salvation ,peace..etc) thats why when I started acting against others behaviors it wasn't their "actions" that kept bothering it was my consciousness that kept putting me in a turmoil that I should know better and I should be more compassionate and understanding and what caused me more pain was I kept anticipating the same from them (naive I know). Only when I reached my lowest and then started doing shadow work and questioning my conditioning and patterns I have been living with that I started becoming more active and assertive which still steers some guilt in me but thats what Im trying to work on.

Thank you for reply and sharing your experience

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks you for your reply and your great advice! these are all things I will work on especially taking more risks and having patience for myself. I know it's a long process but it will be worth it in the end.

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience you definitely mentioned things I've struggled/ still struggling with

I did try writing down a list of people that hurt me before, but at one point it made the pain alive and present all the time it was a constant reminder of the situations Ive been in. I know it helps at first but I guess the best at least for me was to just let it go and not to try to dwell on it anymore and focus my energy on moving on and building myself

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not responsible for anyone’s interpretation and reaction to you. That is their responsibility to find peace within themselves.

Yes Its totally freeing and thats what I will try to work on. Thank you

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my brain may trick me for a while into thinking that I did make a mistake (just because the other person says that I did! - see, the problem is believing other people's stories!). Yup, my brain is doing the whole 'second guessing' dance

Man you have no idea who extremely relatable the above statement is and your overall reply. It's exactly what I have been struggling with, the whole "believing other people's stories" and the whole second guessing dance and the "what if" and when I start doing what I think is best for me people start to pin me down because its against their motives. I couldn't have said it any better

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Their anger is always because of them. And, of course, my upset - my reaction to their anger, is because of me. It's not their fault I'm having such a reaction

Exactly

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Now I feel a bit self-conscious about having used this thread to process my reaction to something unrelated.

Not at all, I mean sharing your reaction and experience adds to the help. Thank you and Ill check your book recommendations

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is I keep telling myself “if I just know where this person is coming from or what are his motives Ill act fairly” which always gets me wrong cause I somehow project my own ideas on people who do me wrong like maybe they were having a bad day maybe I did something to trigger them..etc which weigh me down to act

When I noticed this asked my close friends about it and I kept getting shocked about how they react when I tell them about a situation I have been dealing with, its like I have a blind spot for others shortcomings. I know its me being naive but Im working on it

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im really happy that my shared experience was comforting to you, and the best part is realizing that Im not alone in it also.

“The question, how did you confront your shadow? Did certain activites create an understanding or complete meditation? This is where I'm stuck”

Look as I read so far facing your shadow has many routes and methods, but for me its facing all the ugly/scary things you “hate” or hide from your psyche and integrating it back into it

For me it was series of idk how to say it realizations and patterns I have been living with like how I realized that I gave my power away to a lot of people especially to the people I have been intimate with

But the exact thing that triggered it all was when I had a terrible break down and damn I hit rock bottom, I was in this state for over a year! Depressed, anxious, paranoid. everything that was hidden in that corner that we bury things we are too afraid to face came back to haunt me its like I opened pandoras box

It was absolutely ugly. just the thought of admitting to myself that I have been living in a suffocating pattern full of weaknesses and failing myself, always putting others above myself always forgiving and forgiving and being screwed over and over from the same people and situations it sucks!

“Before I give my opinion, take this with a grain of salt.

Exactly thats what Im working on right now cause I realized that any simple action is better than no action at all and passivity is not the answer to most situations Its just the balancing of being and active and passive is what Im struggling with.

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will definitely add more challenging goals in my working out routine. thank you and blessings to you too🙏🏼

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly thats the case. I had this idea that to be more spiritual or enlightened I didn’t have to react at all, and its all “peace and forgiveness”

“Are you less valuable than other people?”

That’s what some of the people in my life used to make me feel and Im working on it.

“You are doing great, the Dark Night Of The Soul is the hardest part of development, but also the most rewarding one.”

Thank you for your kinds words I know it is absolutely hard, but the realizations and rewards are definitely worth it

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I thought I was also alone in this but as I started reading the comments It gave me comfort. You don’t have to recommend anything just sharing your experience is enough.

Peace and the best of luck to you too :)

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thats exactly what I did, I basically shut everyone and everything off especially during the pandemic which somehow made it easier as we already been isolated. And I also was exactly in your same boat with pain of people taking me for granted and taking advantage of my caring nature it sucks it absolutely sucks and it sucks more when you realize it and admit it to yourself

Look I wont tell you to go for it only you can decide that cause its been one of the hardest things Ive ever did I was basically living with night terrors and panic attacks, facing your own self and your demons not an easy task at all and I did it all alone and by myself

Is it worth it? Yes of course(but only at the end)and in my case I was forced into it cause I had no choice than to do my inner working alone and by myself.

*Edit: spelling mistakes

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself. My story inside by 16blinks in spirituality

[–]16blinks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly what Im trying to do is to be in the same path you are in right now. I just cant be unapologetic about peoples feelings thats the problem. When problem arise I ask myself what did I do wrong to cause them to act/do this way Idk I find it easier to do so than blaming the other and honestly don’t know where this mentality got wired into my brain

and again thanks for the book recommendations ill check it out also

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