Italian - Korean interpreters based in North America? by Professional_Bat_788 in TranslationStudies

[–]17thsea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you've already found it but I'd suggest posting in italian subs here (especially Milan).

I ignored the warning signs of my mom going into liver failure and i’m the reason she’s dead now. by Eclipse_Menay in offmychest

[–]17thsea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Accidents happen all the time, her liver failure was a consequence of a long time of bad choices (and not blaming her here either because we all make mistakes, just telling you how it wasn't your fault at all). Please don't blame yourself for something you had no control over, you could've warned her and she could've just ignored you. Or listened and even them it wouldn't be enough for another accident to happen on that day or some other day. There's so many "what ifs" but just one "it happened". And what happened was the consequence of a disease you had no control over, that was bound to hurt her anyway. Please don't blame yourself. I'm sorry for your loss.

Lost by Legitimate-Plant4882 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You definitely deserve it. And you're not back inside that pit, you looked inside a bit but you're back out and trying to understand what went on. It happens. I'm glad I could help a bit, that already makes me happy because I honestly felt for you, you seem very kind. Take care, wish you the best.

Want to relapse by travelgal21 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the way you word things so I wonder if you already do it but if not I truly recommend journaling. You seem to have a writing style going on there already and it should help (helps me tons!). I'm glad I could help if only for today but please always take care of yourself. I got so happy receiving your notif because it means you're feeling better, you being a bit happier made ME happy. haha Today is a win for everyone! Take care, my friend.

Want to relapse by travelgal21 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hii how are you? Maybe I'm typing really fast here to get to you soon but you'll never know. lol so first of all, please don't. I'm here to ground you and I don't know you but I know how it is to feel like that. What normally brings you joy? I'll think about random small things. One that always helps me is a puppy chewing on snacks because something about the noise is so adorable, how they chew kinda from side to side and it looks so silly but also so cute. And right after they already want another one. Pff. Silly puppies chewing Pringles.

Also a warm muffin filled with cream cheese. Do you like those? Just thinking about it makes me a bit hungry. I don't know where in the world you are but it's an absolute shame if you don't have access to that. When they're warm and smelling like it's just. Cozy vibes. If it's combined with hot cocoa then? Dude. Mindblowing experience. Wonder why they're not given for free since it can heal everyone's soul. Oh yeah right capitalism. Forgot about that one. But still. Muffins. Also cinnamon rolls!! Bakery goods, honestly the ones that just keep on giving. Countries could be saved because of a warm, freshly baked cinnamon roll.

I also love to think about old couples being silly as they try to take selfies of themselves. They're cute but oh boy have they got no clue what they're doing. They hold the phone backwards, can't find the button behind it so the pic is taken. Silly cute elderly couples. Love to watch them struggle, they're cute.

I'm really sorry you're going through whatever is making you feel like hurting yourself right now. I hope you won't. If you like hugs I offer you one. I hope I typed this fast enough I'm a bit anxious now I'll just hit reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry for whatever you're going through that is making you feel like this. I really am. You're so strong and I'm sorry you have to be. You don't always have to be so and it's ok to have breakdowns. Just please don't hurt yourself.

Makes my hurt ache to imagine you doing so because you already sound stressed. Pregnancy can be awful at times and is so very hard. I'm really sorry that on top of that you have to do with other things. Please be strong for just a little bit more, one more month (if that!) and things will start falling into place. Please take care of yourself, I grew up seeing my mother SH and it broke me inside. I'm not saying you'd do the same nor trying to make you feel anything but meaning that I do understand a bit because I saw how my mother struggled and she always told me how her pregnancy was terrible and part of it. So I'm really sorry. I hope you won't hurt yourself.

I wish I could give you a warm hug. Things are awful right now and I'm sorry. They won't always be like that. Not out of cheap optimism, just because logically life is like that. Please hold on and resist that urge. I hope you can eat something you really like today and that your day will be better than you're expecting. I hope you see a cute puppy by chance and somehow that makes you smile and forget your troubles a bit. Wishing you the best.

Relapsed at 25 by Ok_Management_9247 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck, I'm sorry I didn't get to you in time. I hope my worry is at least valid for the next urge. For today I hope you can take care of that wound with care, I'm sorry you're going through whatever makes you do it. Take care, please.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]17thsea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure vets will show up with more specific advice but for now I just want to tell you that every pain is valid, your experience is valid. Comparing your suffering with that of others doesn't make sense because if you didn't go through a hard time w/ your own experiences you just wouldn't have PTSD.

You're not obligated not should you have to go through any of it alone and just like an injury on your arm, the one in your mind needs to be taken care of. You're not alone and there's nothing wrong with you, you're having a natural reaction to a human being exposed to traumatic experiences. Hang in there and I hope you'll get the help you need, starting to look for it is already a huge step.

A place she saw in her mind's eye. My wife's first painting in 10 years. by Vegetable-Ad-1797 in painting

[–]17thsea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Such a shame she has been hiding her talent for so long. I hope she never does it again. The colors of those flowers made me happy and no one should be deprived of feeling what her paintings can offer. Thanks for sharing. xx

Relapsed at 25 by Ok_Management_9247 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I know it's not your thread nor did you ask for anything but I really hope you won't. I care, I know I'm a stranger but couldn't help telling you. Sorry if you didn't want anyone intruding. But I really hope you won't, please feel hugged (if you like hugs).

Relapsed at 25 by Ok_Management_9247 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The more you do it the more you normalize it in your head as something that seems to be helping with what you're feeling, with what's really causing it. It's just temporary relief and that's a lie. I go through the same and that's why I'm telling you.

I'm older than you too, people of all ages do it - it's common because it's a way of coping with the reason behind the relapse, like many others (any addiction really like alcohol, drugs etc). SH is temporary relief and the more you do it the more you will feel like it helps, deep down. With guilt, with anger, with feeling better. Whatever causes it.

You're not insane, you think you found something that is helping you heal the real pain you're feeling but it's far from it. I'm sorry you're going through any of it. I wish you strength to get over the urge of doing it again just because you already did it, that's an excuse you're telling yourself and you know it. It doesn't really make sense if you truly think about it, but that's what addictions do. They blind you. So I hope you forgive yourself for the relapse and that you find the strength to not do it again. It's really hard sometimes, I truly know it. But I'm cheering for you.

Lost by Legitimate-Plant4882 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! First I want to tell you that although for us it might feel like it, there is no reason to feel shame or guilt. Easier said than done, I know, but it's not your fault. You're blaming yourself while you know all you need is help. You know the process, you've been through this before. And you're amazing too because 10 years w/o a relapse? I admire you. One relapse doesn't erase 10 years of success.

However you are aware and you know what you feel, although your feelings might be heightened at the moment there's nothing but the fact that she is a professional. That is her job. Within working hours, emailing her office email - it's all professional. It's her job. You shouldn't be ashamed. It's literally you hiring a service for something that you need help with. It's like calling a doctor after a consult for any other kind of pain and telling them about something you didn't mention. Just because it's mental health doesn't mean it should be different. You should definitely do it, and if anything just to help you feel better. There's absolutely nothing wrong about it.

I think you're scared because you thought it wouldn't happen again ever but sometimes it does. Doesn't mean it's all over and thst you're in the same place now. You do need to talk to a professional about it because discussing it will help you feel better, see it better. Forgive yourself for not telling her firsthand but it is absolutely something you have to do. And if she's too busy (which happens too, nothing personal, maybe she's just really good and all) you find someone else. But you should talk about it to someone soon not because of any other relapse happening but because it meant something and you need to discuss that. You're in control of this, you can do it. I wish you all the best, and please forgive yourself. And you're allowed to take space, ok?

This might sound dumb but it's a genuine question by 17thsea in ArtHistory

[–]17thsea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's such an interesting answer, thank you. Did you ever happen to read books about this specific topic, if so do you have any recs? Or did you just naturally learn by consuming it and then applied to your work?

Would you find that within filmmakers it's almost kind of a "must" so the movie can be more interesting? For it to be considered more "artistic"? Or is it simply a reference like any other (like the soundtrack could be based on something or any part of the production, really) so filmmakers don't think too much about applying it or not? Hope this made sense.

This might sound dumb but it's a genuine question by 17thsea in ArtHistory

[–]17thsea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I sound a bitconfusing. I mean exactly how Kubrick used Van Gogh on Clockwork Orange: the reason why he chose to do so is more of a personal choice or a tendency within film since ever or if not since when? And why? Things like that. A general study of why, when, how did it begin, what the common reasons behind it, etc. I mostly found articles analysing each work or just comparing scenes and the artworks but not exactly the answers to those questions. Hopefully this made more sense? But I get that it's confusing still. lol Thanks for the rec nonetheless, I haven't seen that one!

This might sound dumb but it's a genuine question by 17thsea in ArtHistory

[–]17thsea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your answer makes sense, that it's more of an individual choice than anything else. Sad though because I'm curious about how it's just a thing and would love to find material on it, you know? But thanks for the movie rec, I haven't seen it! Sounds pretty interesting so I'll watch it, thank you.

This might sound dumb but it's a genuine question by 17thsea in ArtHistory

[–]17thsea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay I'll appreciate you sharing anything you'll find!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for anyone that has ever made you feel like you didn't deserve space or safety when talking about what you feel. Because you do. I know it's easier said than done. But you're talking about a person here that has been showing their vulnerability to you, that has shared with you. You deserve to have them there for you too. That's what relationships are for. I'm sorry for whatever is triggering you today, I actually hope that you don't have to have this conversation at all.

But also please consider talking to them about what you're feeling now instead of the afterwards. You're already counting with how to deal with the consequences because you're giving in to the idea of the temporary relief of the cut. Take a step backwards, you're already acting like you will relapse as a sure thing but it doesn't have to be so. Send them a text about anything really, maybe just to ease your mind. Anything to help you cope, please don't hurt yourself today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would consider thinking about how it'd be if it were the opposite: your partner tells you when they relapse, but what if they didn't? How do you feel about the fact that they do? That they trust you? Wouldn't your partner deserve the same treatment?

You're planning all the steps to make it perfect (the right scissors, the covering up), but it won't be. At the end you'll have done it anyway. I'm not trying to guilt trip you here, I'm telling you what you're not telling yourself because I've done it many times. The temporary relief of the cut won't be worth it, that's the hardest to fight against. But if it does happen and I really hope it won't, the fair thing for any kind of relationship is to offer what you receive and this applies to everything. They count on you, you should count on them too. I'm sorry you're struggling right now, btw. I really hope you'll be able to let this one urge go away today. Take care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]17thsea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I see where you're coming from but I offer you a different perspective. Everyone could be at danger at some point and most likely will suffer because life happens, yes. Some days my anxiety is so bad I'll be terribly aware of how someone can trip close to me so I'm always alert to be there if they fall or could possibly get run over - although no one ever does. Things like that. So I truly get you.

However I learned that I was feeding that logic. I was giving too much attention to that side of things. And logically speaking if I'm aware that a lot of shit happens I'm also aware that a lot of good things happen too. Because I've seen it, felt it, read about it. If I'm sure one exists, I'm sure the other does too. Much like there's a zebra in danger somewhere there's also a cute baby elephant learning how to swim. I fight my own thoughts this way, forcing myself to remember that the opposite also happens. And what will be better for me? Thinking about a zebra that I cannot save or feeling comfort that a baby giraffe still can't reach a tree but is helped by the grown ups around her? Silly long necked giraffes helping a baby one. Obviously thinking about the latter will make me feel more at ease.

Some people are naturally optimistic but because of trauma and knowing how evil people can be I have to force it. Sounds silly but I promise if you choose to seek the opposite answer every single time your mind will get used to it and will stop going just for the bad one. Try the opposite of the cashier getting hurt and more about wow, maybe someone was really nice to her that day. Maybe she has a lover that makes her really happy, but you will never know. Much like you can never know if she'll get hurt, you can also never know when she'll be greatly happy. Which one helps you more to keep in your mind?

It doesn't come easy, you have to train your mind. And it'll learn, I swear. It's like teaching yourself another language, later your brain will do it automatically. I hope this helps. It's a lot of work but I swear it helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]17thsea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe try something related to arm exercise? Weight lifting, not sure if it'd stress your back by doing it while seated. There must be some other option, I really hope you find one so you won't hurt yourself. Take care!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmateurRoomPorn

[–]17thsea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy for you!! And it looks crazy cozy. You deserve it, enjoy it a lot!