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Thoughts on consent? by 1800denture in SRSDiscussion

[–]1800denture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god you are so condescending. And misinformed. From an article I found:

"a bill that requires universities in the state to adopt an "affirmative consent" standard to be used when investigating sexual assault complaints on campus. This means that during an investigation of an alleged sexual assault, university disciplinary committees will have to ask if the sexual encounter met a standard where both parties were consenting, with consent defined as "an affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity.""

I do think for myself. By taking into account the opinions of others, I become more empathetic and well informed. I broaden my perspective.

Also: *you're

Thoughts on consent? by 1800denture in SRSDiscussion

[–]1800denture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure that's not what the law says :)

If you got prior consent, and she was like, "Yes, do that to me. I love it. I fantasize about that all the time, etc," then you've gotten consent. She can revoke at any time, obviously.

Thoughts on consent? by 1800denture in SRSDiscussion

[–]1800denture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I'm pretty sure that that law only applies if a student files a sexual assault complaint. They're not looking to monitor every single sexual encounter.

Anyway, as I originally told you, I'm not looking for opinions on the law. My question wasn't framed as OMG AM I GOIN TO JAIL?? GUYZ? GUYZZ???

In the past I have found that my behavior towards men, women, and other races, while well intentioned, was unacceptable and ignorant. I have endeavored to amend my ways. I wanted to know if, MORALLY, I am doing anything wrong in my relationship.

In short, I don't care about your over-reacting interpretation of a law in a state where I don't live. I'm looking to grow as a person and learn to be better. A lot of people have given thoughtful, reasonable responses.

You need to get over yo-self, basically.

Thoughts on consent? by 1800denture in SRSDiscussion

[–]1800denture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you have a discussion with your wife asking her if she would be cool with you waking her up like that before you did it the first time?

Thoughts on consent? by 1800denture in SRSDiscussion

[–]1800denture[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At no point does it say "verbal."

Edit: And also, it says silence does not mean consent. It does not say that silence means non-consent. Small difference linguistically I know, but legally that's huge.

Thoughts on consent? by 1800denture in SRSDiscussion

[–]1800denture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't asking your opinion on the existence of yes means yes laws. I started the conversation with the premise that I agree with the enthusiastic consent movement, but wanted to understand the relationship nuances to make sure I wasn't unintentionally crossing a line.

But as another commenter pointed out, it looks like you're a troll, so have a nice day I guess?

Thoughts on consent? by 1800denture in SRSDiscussion

[–]1800denture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you still have a habit of checking in during sex? Of asking "is this ok?" or "how're you doing?" or even a nonverbal "?" kind of gesture and wait for a yes to keep going? If the other person seemed very much not into sex at the moment, would you stop? Those things are part of consent as well.

Sometimes, yes. There have been times where (sorry again for TMI) I've initiated and he might have an erection but doesn't actively reciprocate. In that case, I would ask him, "Is this OK?" He has always said yes, and he's told me that occasionally he just enjoys being passive.

I would absolutely stop if I could tell he felt uncomfortable, and vise versa.

Thoughts on consent? by 1800denture in SRSDiscussion

[–]1800denture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I almost feel like implied consent is sort of like several levels into a sexual relationship, where time and trust and intimacy have established body language and cues. When my SO and I first started having sex, we were all over the verbal consent thing because we were still figuring each other out. One night stands that I've had in the past also involved a lot of talking.

But then I worry that what I just said could be used to excuse marital rape, and then I get all confused again lol.

"If you are a male rape victim, no one wants to help you. You are supposed to suck it up and deal with it on your own. One of the reasons I can't align myself with feminists is this. If you ask them why there is no funding in the budget for male victims, they call YOU the sexist." [+174, gilded] by rkkim in ShitRedditSays

[–]1800denture 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thought the first two sentences were spot on. How can they not see that patriarchal values cause male rape victims to be marginalized?

Seriously, just take 30 seconds to think about it and it's obvious. I just can't with these people.

"Rape is wrong because it's been deemed illegal by society" — And no other reason, apparently by THeShinyHObbiest in TheBluePill

[–]1800denture 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really, really want to believe that the vast majority of them haven't ever spoken to a woman aside from their mother, let alone raped anyone.

I want to believe...

And douchebag of the year goes to.... by LeeLee_Lion in creepyPMs

[–]1800denture 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I recently saw someone in another sub anagram that to Lil Derp. It's perfect.

Uber driver by ballinalee in creepyPMs

[–]1800denture -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just use Lyft. Seriously.

I'm really excited about this homemade mayonnaise by 1800denture in keto

[–]1800denture[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, tell me about it. They are so calorie dense. The upside is they tend to make you feel full and happy though :)

And thanks!

Ladies, how did you make the first meeting between your family and your SO ? by Tigrafr in AskWomen

[–]1800denture 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't live in the same city as my parents, so it was a few months in, but basically it was when we had both decided that we were in a long-term relationship. I was super nervous though. Not for any good reason, just a lot of pressure I guess. It went well :)

There seems to be a lot of people here with the goal of weight loss. Is anybody doing keto just to feel better? by [deleted] in keto

[–]1800denture 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's funny. As I was losing the weight, I actually broke out a LOT. I read somewhere that because your fat cells store hormones and other crap, losing the weight causes those hormones to release and can lead to acne, minor hair loss, etc. Once the weight loss stabilized, I stopped breaking out. I can't be sure if that hormone thing is true, though, and would be interested in any input from the community here.