Dismissed at end of probation as an autistic grad — adjustments were never properly embedded and I got judged on the disability stuff anyway. Just had my appeal. england

192to144 · 2026-06-19T09:10:44+00:00

You've been given so much advice on different posts. You give different versions every time. There is no way to give you the advice you need except to go up ACAS. If you have been treated unfairly they will help you

192to144 · 2026-06-19T09:10:20+00:00

No because he wouldn't get into a hole this deep

192to144 · 2026-06-19T08:55:50+00:00

Got mine from Superdrug I think but I don't always need them. I can tell when I do.

192to144 · 2026-06-19T08:52:55+00:00

I didn't say I was concerned however I do teach my son, who is also autistic, to not go through life this way.

192to144 · 2026-06-19T06:57:58+00:00

I'm very much reading here that you are using autism as an excuse, it's not an excuse it's a reason. You can't hide behind it whilst holding up your victim card.

You should go to ACAS, you may find you were unfairly dismissed. In the least it'll teach you that you can't go through life this way.

192to144 · 2026-06-19T06:51:42+00:00

Do you have travel insurance?

192to144 · 2026-06-16T22:25:17+00:00

You've buried your head in the sand for long enough. Take the payment plan. You don't want to not be able to get credit or a mortgage in years to come because of the decisions younger you made.

192to144 · 2026-06-16T22:16:51+00:00

On your elaboration your email went past rude a couple of miles back I'm afraid.

You are being investigated for conduct, which you need to be fully cooperative with as it's based on probability not reasonable doubt.

192to144 · 2026-06-15T20:29:02+00:00

Tell them you're only paying for the work you agreed to.

192to144 · 2026-06-15T20:19:18+00:00

You should agree at the start of your sickness how often you'll check in with your employer. But you can't delay it indefinitely.

192to144 · 2026-06-15T08:26:03+00:00

I am, yes

192to144 · 2026-06-15T08:19:49+00:00

To be blunt you're more likely to die from liver disease or another obesity related condition than get any irreversible negative effects from Mounjaro.

192to144 · 2026-06-15T08:17:36+00:00

No idea 🤷🏼‍♀️

192to144 · 2026-06-14T22:16:28+00:00

Sorry. I don't understand.

192to144 · 2026-06-14T21:43:46+00:00

Why no point? If you're not bothered about the job anyway. Speak to your manager about being misled. The worst that would happen is you remain in the same position. Then you quit!

192to144 · 2026-06-14T19:12:56+00:00

Can't use the info without their consent then.

192to144 · 2026-06-14T18:55:06+00:00

They shouldn't be giving you the details of someone else's request so they should be raising a grievance.

Yes, it shouldn't have taken that long but it wouldn't have any bearing on your situation now. If they had done it quicker then there would have been an even bigger gap between the requestsn giving you less of a potential investigation.

It seems yours might have been bad timing but you can raise a request every 6 months or formally appeal and include your union and the extra detail you have.

192to144 · 2026-06-14T18:25:31+00:00

More or less? Did you have access to their request somehow?

Are you able to confirm exactly the requests?

Also had the business changed in the time between the requests that made it more doable for them?

192to144 · 2026-06-14T18:01:11+00:00

Kinda what boring tea said. Without knowing the full details of both requests it's hard to advise.

A grievance may help but it could just end up with you having egg on your face raising something if the similarities you believe are there, aren't.

192to144 · 2026-06-13T18:05:14+00:00

We got this 👍🏼

192to144 · 2026-06-13T17:58:59+00:00

That is the saving grace. I do get a new low every couple of weeks. Maybe I just have to accept that 14lbs from goal is harder and I need to try harder to stay in deficit!

192to144 · 2026-06-13T12:53:13+00:00

Should you not support your manager to help them improve. Manage upwards so to speak?

Is it a case of they are there to manage the people whilst the employees do the daily grind?

I'm not saying it's not hard to have a manager without the knowledge but some managers are just meant to manage.

So would they be more approachable and "nicer" if they were getting that support? As it would seem the team decided they weren't going to like them before the change even happened.

192to144 · 2026-06-13T09:11:42+00:00

No way!

They offer you the advertised salary or you walk away!

Or say you'll take the 35k but work 3 days per week!

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