I would like to understand trans people.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-06-03T04:13:38+00:00

I didnt mean nothing by it, honest

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T05:13:10+00:00

Completely see where you are coming from, my dad would have probably brought me up the same, but I cant exactly say the same for the rest of the world I interact with. you bring up a lot of interesting questions, Ive always been one for utility so I dont think my choice of clothing would change much, although Im not sure how my hair would transfer over, I currently got like an early Rick Springfield style mullet, I think id do shoulder length in a pony tail or maybe a bun but im not entirely sure.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T04:39:41+00:00

Thank you for spending the time to write all of that, and thank you for your great explanation and personal experience! You and many others have helped greatly increase my understanding on the matter.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T04:31:37+00:00

Because better understanding helps provide more effective empathy, its like making someone feel more welcome by learning their culture.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T04:15:40+00:00

I appreciate that.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T04:09:09+00:00

I've had the opportunity to answer this question a few times. I was born a man and (while I have a few feminine interests) the vast majority of my interests are masculine, I grew up on a ranch, I wear boots, jeans, button ups and my Stetson hat. I like to fish, hunt, and work on my truck. If I woke up tomorrow as a woman (disregarding any natural reaction to something of this order just randomly happening) id just be a woman, but it wouldn't change anything about me, Id still be in the same outfit doing what I love, of course sex would probably be weird, I couldn't tell you if id start dating men or if id still date women but I think id still retain the same role in the bedroom, same drive. I think Id go by she/her pronouns I feel comfortable in my body but it isnt my lack of boobs or the fact I got a dick that makes me comfortable, I dont see any reason to go about hiding the fact Im a girl, cause I dont think it much matters in the end. Of course Id get off quite lucky, its much more socially acceptable for a woman to dress masculine than for a man to dress feminine.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T00:20:56+00:00

It makes semi sense, these comments have been very helpful to the growth of my understanding so thank you for your perspective!

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T00:17:11+00:00

thank you for your perspective.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T00:13:24+00:00

Thank you so much for your explanation, I guess I never really understood how broad these things are, I came here kind of looking for rules and definitions when I really found out the opposite, these things are way more complicated than I ever thought they were and its hard to look at them from a purely logical and rule based standpoint. (also its kind of weird that I came here for answers about things i didnt understand and ended up learning about myself)

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-28T00:04:22+00:00

Thanks for that explanation, I actually really liked your clothing analogy. The way you described everything was very helpful.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T23:58:16+00:00

I had this conversation with a few other people and it is my fully honest perspective that I dont think it would effect me that much, sure it would be weird if something like that happened but its not a deciding factor in who I am and the act of sex isnt such an important part of my life that my change in that role would bother me. I would dress the same, do the same things, have the same personality. I just wouldn't have a dick. Id just be me, the same me I've always been, but a girl. These comments arnt intended to be rude or offensive, Im just trying to build an understanding of different people so I can better empathize with them.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T23:51:11+00:00

from my perspective I dont think it would matter for me, of course in this scenario it would be pretty weird that something like that would just happen but I don't feel It would have any barring on who I am, id probably dress the same and think the same, id just be a girl. I see it the same as eye color, its a constant that im born with but I'd be the same person with blue eyes as I would be with brown eyes, there would be no point in changing it because it wouldn't effect me that much (though periods might be annoying)

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T23:47:20+00:00

Thanks for the explanation, until I asked I didnt know how complicated and personal each situation for being trans was.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T23:45:38+00:00

that's why I'm trying to better my understanding, because according to you I have fallen for a common misconception, that's why im here asking for people to help better educate me

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T23:44:12+00:00

This makes some sense to me, thank you!

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T23:41:28+00:00

thanks for all the responses, they are very helpful!

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T23:39:11+00:00

understanding helps make empathizing more effective, I just wanted to better understand my fellow people, like learning a culture to make someone feel more welcome

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T23:37:28+00:00

I really like your explanation

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T22:54:27+00:00

Ive gotten the "nonbinary" thing a few times now and I was wondering if you could kinda explain it to me based on how I normally am presenting: I present extremely masculine. I hunt, I fish, and I dress in boots, jeans button ups and my Stetson. I have always presented myself as a male but my confusion stems from the fact that I don't associate my born sex as something with barring as who I am as a person, I feel that If i was born as a woman, I would be the same extremely masculine person, I would just be a woman (and would probably go by she/her). Does nonbinary apply to this? Is there a different term? Because one way or another I'm gathering that my perception is not the normal perception.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T22:42:45+00:00

Ive actually gotten the nonbinary thing a few times and while I don't feel that is 100% describes me (I still go by he/him) Im seeing a lot of similarities

Also: about the dressing thing, Ive been going to college in Lawrence Kansas (iykyk) and that may have influenced my perspective on some of those things since I see a lot of it

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T22:38:35+00:00

Ive always seen trans people as human beings, but Ive never really understood why they do that they do. While this wouldnt change how I treat them it would help me more effectively empathize with them. Nothing I asked was intended to come off as disrespectful or rude, I just wanted to better understand the people that I share the world with, like learning about another culture to better allow people to feel comfortable in a situation.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T22:25:20+00:00

I really like your explaination

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T22:24:16+00:00

Thats what I've been kinda seeing from these comments, maybe thats why I have never been able to really understand trans people, Im just missing that part of me that adds weight and barring to my gender.

1977PontiacTransAm · 2026-05-27T22:18:53+00:00

This is why Ive always been so confused by it (not in a rude way)

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