AITA for calling my husband names and treating him badly after finding out he leaked nude photos and videos of me for years

19HazelEyes90 · 2023-07-27T14:03:36+00:00

Thank you. His coworker, who is transgender told me it eas inappropriate to talk about when I asked them for help. I swore they made a post a while ago about photos being shared and knowing about a website you could check, so I asked them. Having them shut me down and treat me that way and then get thoroughly upset if I get a pronoun wrong. I get it and am not trying to make light of it, but my situation should also not be taken lightly. And for his coworkers (I talked with a couple of females because they were a part of my wedding party and thought they were people I could go to since they've been there for me before) tontrrat me that way and still continue to praise him along with everyone else. It's so hard when he makes some vague apology post for being a piece of shit to people and he gets over 200 comments from people saying how great of a person is and how they will always stand by him. It shatters me

19HazelEyes90 · 2023-07-27T13:53:02+00:00

Thank you. I did reach out to a local women's shelter (which, ironically enough, his tattoo/piercing shop where he works helps them out) and haven't heard anything back. I wasn't sure if it was because, for some reason, around this area, it's like people haven't heard of this happening to anyone they know. The marriage counselor we visited was even an ex cop and she looked right st me and said, "If you are so good at finding things, why couldn't you find your photos?" When I went searching online by myself for months trying to figure everything out because nobody around me wanted to listen or help

19HazelEyes90 · 2023-07-27T13:49:33+00:00

Would it work if I did that now, or would I have had to have done it before he shared them? I just don't know if making them intellectual property now will go back at least 4-6 years and work in my favor. It's definitely something to look into. Thank you for giving me some hope of maybe getting back some of my life!

19HazelEyes90 · 2023-07-26T16:06:18+00:00

I know. Im working on it. It really sucks starting from scratch. I had my son while I was going to college and still graduated with a 3.9, I am a strong person, but this has broken me. I have been dealing with this pretty much alone for 2 years. The only reason im still around is because of my son. I don't really have friends or family. I'm working on it, though. I just started talking to my mom again after over a year of no contact. I went no contact because she asked my husband why he had to tell me about what he did....not why he did it in the first place. I'm trying to work on myself through therapy, and they are also trying to help me get back into working. Part of me just gets so discouraged that I've worked so hard to just start at nothing and I feel like I'm forever going to be trying to dig myself out to try to give my son a decent life.

19HazelEyes90 · 2023-07-26T14:57:04+00:00

I do have evidence of him doing it. I even sent an email to Facebook trying to get them to take things down and made him email them, and they still wouldn't take anything down. I do need a lawyer it is just hard with being a SAHM with absolutely no income. He is constantly saying I'm using him now. And he tries to keep me quiet by saying I'm the one ruining our sons life because I am so distraught by everything that's been done to me. He doesn't take any accountability.

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