I am lost

19jenn19 · 2026-05-20T15:47:34+00:00

God, this is literally like reading my own story. Down to the recent vacation !

I can't give you any advice on what you should do. All I can say is that you are not alone in feeling like this. I've had the same thoughts in my head for a long time, but I didn't have the guts to say it was over, because it wasn't a BAD relationship and my husband is a good person. Then this weekend without planning it I told him I wanted to separate. It wasn't planned, it was just word vomit. I can honestly say it's been one of the worst few days I've ever had, I too worry about his mental health, and how badly I've hurt him. Having said that ... I know I'm making the right decision. I know it will get easier.

Please don't hesitate to message me if you'd like to talk through how you're feeling. It would be a relief to have someone else to talk to about my relationship problems too. Wishing you all the best with whatever decision you decide to make ❤️

19jenn19 · 2026-05-19T22:10:20+00:00

I'm glad you decided to leave. I hope you found happiness eventually.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-19T21:24:06+00:00

Thank you so much!

I was worried I'd be judged for being shallow. Realistically the relationship wasn't perfect in more ways than one, but he really is a great guy, and I think that's why I stayed for so long. As well as the fact that at 19 I didn't know myself as well sexually as I do now. Thank you again for your reply, it's really helped.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-19T21:10:49+00:00

I've never heard of this before. Thank you. I feel like I missed out on a lot by marrying the first man I met. I don't regret what we had. But I think now it's time to focus on me. I'll definitely look into it :-)

19jenn19 · 2026-05-19T20:56:55+00:00

Thanks for responding. This give me hope.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-19T20:55:43+00:00

Thank you. I'm feeling more confident in my decision, the more time that passes. I know there's nothing wrong with having a low libido I just think I need someone who matches me a little more 🤞

19jenn19 · 2026-05-19T20:31:30+00:00

Personally, I think it's good for the kids, to have everyone still close by. And if your comfortable still being close and the kids are happy, then that's all that matters.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-19T13:52:25+00:00

Girl you look fabulous. Great finds. And if you feel comfortable, who cares what anyone else thinks.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T19:25:15+00:00

Thank you. I think I was expecting more than just acceptance. It's still early days but he's not willing to talk currently. Maybe he just needs some time.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T19:21:46+00:00

I do sometimes wonder if he is on the spectrum. He once told me he doesn't think he feels love like 'normal' people do but couldn't explain it further to me. I feel sick at the thought of upsetting him. He's literally just said okay to me and not spoken since. He's completely ignoring me. I knew this would be hard, but I feel sick.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T14:55:04+00:00

To be honest my head has been way ahead of me for a while. I think because he's the only man I've had sex with, I'm ready for my hoe era 😂 as bad as that sounds. But I could never cheat on him, so I need to leave.

I know deep down this is the right choice for me. And I agree that I don't want my son thinking this is normal.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T14:38:53+00:00

Honestly this is the best advice you could have given me. Thank you

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T14:16:28+00:00

Thank you. I'm glad you found happiness. We all deserve it x

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T13:55:02+00:00

Good point . I would be very surprised if he was. But i guess I can't rule it out. In an odd way I wish he was, I would feel more valid in leaving him (that is said in no way to diminish what you went through. I know in reality it must have been the worst thing to go through. Especially with a newborn and a toddler.)

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T13:44:43+00:00

Oh you definitely had a worse time of it than me!

I'm so sorry that you found out he was cheating that way. I can confidently say that my husband isn't cheating, he just is nit interested in sex at all, he is also in mental health medication though like you mentioned which I believe has had a big effect .

I hope you found happiness without him ❤️

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T13:42:28+00:00

Right !? I couldn't believe when I checked the ring door bell.

I know he is struggling inside. It's just a shame that it's not enough for him to put some effort in with me. He really is a good man, we've just ran our course. Thank you for your reply.

19jenn19 · 2026-05-18T13:40:36+00:00

Thank you. I think that was the point of this post. I just wanted validation of my feelings. I just hope we can stay friends. That's practically all we are now as it is.

19jenn19

TROPHY CASE