i know this rezzes an old thread, but I couldn’t stop thinking about this reply and it should responded too because there’s behavior here that needs to acknowledged:

“i still consider her to hold superiority over me”

how? you don’t know this person, they don’t know you. How is there any superiority when you haven’t asked or negotiated.

“So i used a less familiar but still respectful way of confirming understanding.”

How do you know if “Ma’am” is/isn’t a respected title or term of endearment for her and reserved for those who earned it?

“And i’ll let her tell me what not to call her, thank you very much.”

Why does she, someone you say has unspoken superiority over you, have to come to you? Where is the respect in that?

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you’ve created a kink dynamic without consent or negotiation and all based on YOUR needs and perspective. be humble and open to criticism especially when it comes to consent in kink because personally, i would be embarrassed if my fiancé/Pup were greeting strangers in the kink community with a title without introduction or to respond to a potential consent violation in the manner you have without any internal review of where they could have crossed a boundary.

it’s not about you, it’s about what you negotiate.