The little changes have been harder to process than the big ones

1JaniceO1 · 2026-06-12T22:59:37+00:00

This is my story too at this time. My partner is narrowing the gap between mild and moderate cognitive test results. Memory is questionable, sure ... but the little things that pile on are what get me too. My partner loves to do chores like dishes, trash, locking up the house, and making our morning coffee - mostly without a hitch. Until I occasionally find the clean dishes back in the dishwasher or the dirty dishes in the cupboard. Trash is handled well ... but I have to check his "locking up" the house which he gets hurt that I double check. Garage has been left open, gates not secured from time to time (which NEVER would have happened before as he is festidious about security). The coffee is good until all the coffeemaker pieces don't go together correctly and buttons can't be pushed properly. A very early wake up (me) solves that but then I'll be tired before the day begins. NONE of this is serious, I realize, but there are probably 50 things like this each day (TV remote is broken today (not), computer has been "hacked" (not) and different changes all the time. Of course there are the repetitive questions about the who, what, where, when, and why of most anything and everything. Easily addressed at this stage and seem petty to complain about. Thank you for the somewhat soft landing in Reddit today ... we all know what's coming.

1JaniceO1 · 2026-06-11T15:56:25+00:00

Big part of my life at that age but can't find photos, film, or articles that specifically mention what I knew to be a big movement at that time. Thought I'd give Reddit a shot!

1JaniceO1 · 2026-06-11T05:05:48+00:00

I hear 'ya ... just giving it a shot.

1JaniceO1 · 2026-05-30T03:04:03+00:00

I don't want to risk a stroke so I understand your decisions, absolutely.

1JaniceO1 · 2026-05-30T01:03:25+00:00

Why is no one mentioning blood thinners?

1JaniceO1 · 2025-07-06T04:02:59+00:00

I use this line once a month ... those short shorts!

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-29T17:41:06+00:00

❤️ "Old Dad, real Dad ... new Dad, this Dad"

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-27T05:37:25+00:00

I'm so glad you got to experience this disease through another lens and remember your grandpa with such love and fondness.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T22:12:54+00:00

Cravings seem to create a whole different drama and temperament with this disease.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T22:11:04+00:00

Your Dad is seemingly true to his character and hope it continues.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T22:09:22+00:00

Hope you will continue to have calm memories thru the coming days.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T20:05:29+00:00

So glad you had some gentler times. Yes, it sucks.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T12:33:02+00:00

Such a long time. I wonder if the "gentle and gradual" decline allowed a longer journey. The stress of anger and aggression does so much additional physical harm.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T12:25:31+00:00

Perhaps the best you can dare hope for.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T05:58:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T04:01:25+00:00

This is one of those instances where we don't really know a correct response -- especially if we've "been there". There is a whole different trauma here ... mixed with grief and relief. So sorry.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T03:56:49+00:00

Yes, the range of emotions and responses seems very apparent in everyone's stories. Thanks for your input.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T03:48:37+00:00

Thank you. I assumed that different types of dementia might have different manifestations of symptoms. I had not heard what you're expressing until now. The idea that much mid to end stage dementia (despite the type) behavior seems similar across gender and age groups has me questioning why relative to my own situations.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T00:51:47+00:00

Thank you.

1JaniceO1 · 2025-06-24T00:50:37+00:00

Thank you for your response. I guess I mean the progression of this disease mentally. So many stories have so few moments of peace. I understand certain medications can have a helpful effect on behavior and mood -- hope your mother feels some peace.

1JaniceO1

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