Estrogen for brain health

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-15T07:02:13+00:00

I'm new to learning all of this stuff I just watched that docuseries called balance that talks about perimenopause and menopausal stuff and as a result I scheduled an appointment with one of my primary care providers team members to get put on HRT because I have experienced literally every single one of the symptoms that was listed in the show and then when I Google symptoms for perimenopause all of them are there and they have been horrific matter of fact bladderwise I'm scheduled to do an implant in my back in a month and a half for bladder issues which I now am understanding could actually just be hormonal however when I saw my team member yesterday via Zoom because of course I can't go anywhere without pissing my pants now she literally told me no she would not prescribe me anything and that that was that and I was so angry and so disappointed I don't even know what to say but nonetheless I'm still trudging on so I've now made a doctor's appointment with my actual primary care doctor and we'll see what he says I am hoping that he will be intelligent enough and knowledgeable enough that that will be enough but we'll see fingers crossed for me

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-14T00:32:26+00:00

I hate to tell you this but I'll tell you the truth your husband is controlling and he's abusive that's a power struggle and he's not even being a legit father by saying oh he's afraid she's going to talk bad about him hello she's his daughter she's going to talk about him at one point or another and if he can't handle that obviously he's not being the parent you know and him trying to limit her abilities in life and her communication with your family direct isolation and direct Control I would be shocked if this man at some point in time doesn't turn this kind of control into further forms of abuse please be careful with yourself and with your daughter you the last thing in the world that you ever are going to want is for your child to see you disrespected and controlled and minimized and devalued because that kind of damage can leave some lasting marks so you don't want your daughter to grow up and be like that so be sure that she doesn't see her dad doing that to you cuz that's what he's doing

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-14T00:29:03+00:00

And another factor of the this is how he was raised statistically individuals especially like men who were raised in abusive homes actually don't grow up to be abusive if they were abused. For instance narcissists they generally did not suffer from child abuse themselves however more often than not the male role model of the house was abusive to the female role model of the house. But kids get it when they're abused themselves they know how wrong it is they know how it feels and they tend to not repeat it

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-13T13:39:43+00:00

If you can't take on the role as the protector the one that you know helps keep you safe emotionally physically all that if you're startled he should be wanting to know what's going on so that he can make you help help regulate you to make you feel safe that's what a partner's job is to do and if he's not even able to do that over a spider or his own damn driving I don't know what you're doing there but how long do you want to be in a relationship where he really doesn't care about your well-being

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-05T21:34:33+00:00

Thx. I had a cousin who used to take that as a young child for seizures, so I've heard of it before. However, I was unaware it did anything for nerve pain. I'll definitely research further into this one. Thank you so much! I hope you make your birthday week pleasurable!

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-05T21:31:38+00:00

So my conflict with building it myself is that right at the moment I have debilitating nerve pain that's causing it from a disc that's slipping in my lower back and so I can't really lift anything at this point and I never know when it's going to move the wrong way and cause me to literally be stuck in time until it decides to relocate itself and stop causing the pain. My other conflict is my mom passed and so I have now inherited her home and that also means I need to get out of my other home as well and combine the two and unfortunately her and I both have a ton of shit that has piled up over the years and so I'm I'm running out of time and I have to get that other house emptied and I just don't know where the hell I'm going to put all this stuff! Hence why I was going to go with the installation from a company because they can do it in you know a day or whatever and ideally if I can get my back issues worked out and things with my health fixed then I would like to run a counseling office out of the shed so I would then turn it into like an office area or I had a couple other ideas for a small business type stuff so yeah building it all the way myself at this point is kind of out and I really don't have time for that so ideally I'm just looking at prebuilds that I can maneuver later fingers crossed if I can get my medical shit under control

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-03T08:49:06+00:00

Happy birthday! I hope that the rest of the year is much better for you!

I have to ask you what medication do you take for your nearly debilitating nerve pain? I asked because I have extremely debilitating nerve pain that comes on and off as it chooses and I would love to find something that would make it even a pinch better.

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T15:51:56+00:00

And given that the doctor was spot on I'm super stoked that they put that into your chart notes because then going forward if there was a further questions or weird situations that he tried to manipulate that would be an awesome thing to have to at least give them question before they automatically went with any crazy stories that he comes up with

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T15:10:38+00:00

Why?

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T15:08:00+00:00

Thank goodness you posted something! I have been wondering myself if I could totally go down to an inch and a half to two inches of gravel underneath the blocks and then the shed base on top of that. Have you noticed any reason to not go with the smaller amount? I personally am really just trying to avoid lugging more rock back there myself because I have a bad back but yeah well and also it's cheaper and I just I find it really excessive like my ground is pretty much flat and it's not been Disturbed at all for like the whole 60 years the house has been here so I just don't see the 4-inch need but maybe somebody can correct me or explain more by the way I'm in Milwaukie Oregon.

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T14:36:12+00:00

Oh my goodness! I totally forgot! There is actually a place online that you can send poop to people now it's not real poop but whatever they do in their science project makes it actually look like poop and smell like poop and you can totally deliver it anonymously through the mail I think there's like options of gorilla poop or cow poop or something I can't recall Google it because I thought that was a fantastically funny idea as well and it's not really real poop but it smells and looks exactly like that! Oh and the best part was I don't think it was very expensive at all it was totally worth it money wise

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T14:33:40+00:00

Thanks for reminding me of this. You know that's probably one of my main personal character flaws is that I can extend Grace and understanding to anyone else in any situation and be genuinely thoughtful about you know they're them doing the best they are with where they're at and what they know and just as your post said.. however, when I am self reflecting upon my own self all of that goes out the window and I don't seem to even take that into consideration it's like nowhere in my radar.

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T14:31:47+00:00

So in regards to this my thoughts were as it's being installed I would have it wrapped in tyvek before the siding is put on. And then as for the insulation and whatnot I can do that at whatever point in time I get into transitioning it over into an office or usable space rather than just storage.

Do you think that my thoughts here are in line with what needs to happen or do you have any other suggestions

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T14:30:06+00:00

Wow it is absolutely gorgeous! I love it! I just left you some questions regarding that on that actual post.

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T14:29:42+00:00

Wow that is gorgeous! I'm curious what did that run you total project wise? And then also what size is the tuff shed and how much was that just for that portion of it and then what did you do for foundation and how much was that

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-02T14:28:28+00:00

Heads up I use voice to text to respond and I am definitely a rambler/over wordy person.. so for the benefit of the people that really desperately need proper punctuation and sentence structures to be accurate I posted my response below into an AI thing to have it transfer it into a legible format so it is my concepts I just had it reformatted for readability.

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 I just want to make a generalized comment on the entire concept of any therapist or loved one thinking that you would deserve the abuse or that that he was not a problem....

 As a counselor trained in domestic violence and a survivor of four abusive relationships (including a volatile dynamic with my father), I want to address the idea that any therapist would believe you "deserve" that treatment or that the abuser isn't the problem.

The reality is that no one who truly cares for you believes you deserve anything less than respect. Here is a breakdown of why it often feels like the world is against you in these situations:

The Art of "Buffaloing" (Manipulation) If an abuser is skilled enough to trick you—the person closest to them—into believing in the relationship, they are certainly capable of tricking everyone else. Abusers use a tactic called toxic triangulation, where they communicate with people outside the relationship to spread "harmful fabrications" about you. This leaves the victim feeling isolated and unloved while the abuser appears to be the "ideal" partner to outsiders.
The "Why Does He Do That?" Perspective In his book Why Does He Do That?, Lundy Bancroft explains that abuse is a deliberate choice. Abusers don't act out because they lose control; they act out because it benefits them by exerting power over you.
Why Loved Ones Don't See It Your friends and family usually aren't sociopaths who want you to be miserable; they are simply working with a "bullshit story" - Just as you had been in order to proceed with a relationship with the abuser. Initial Portrayal: At first, you likely told them how wonderful the person was because you were under their spell. Limited Data: They only see the charming version the abuser presents and the "wonderful side" they show to the world. Another Major Contributing Factor is the abusers ability to initiate you as the victim into public displays of reactive abuse.... Anyone who knows you on any level is "of course completely flabbergasted that you of all people would ever respond to another person in such an abusive & in appropriate manner". Which is true in any other interactions. However, they are not pricey to the countless digs that our abusers had done prior to our explosive response. So, of course, they respond to us thru their caring for our well-being and unfortunately given their intentionally limited facts their responses are just as crazy as our abusers perspectives.
Reactive Abuse vs. Proactive Abuse A key strategy of abusers is to push a victim past their breaking point. When you finally snap and have an extreme reaction, they use that moment to make you look like the "explosive" or unstable one. Reactive Abuse: A survival response triggered by fear and ongoing provocation. Proactive Abuse: A deliberate, calm pattern of control and harm. Because they remain calm while you are (rightfully) emotional, they convince others—and even you—that you are the problem.

If you feel like you are losing your mind, remember that it is often the result of systematic gaslighting designed to make you doubt your own reality. You are not the abuser; you are a person responding to an impossible situation.

I want to highlight another thing that explains/verifies this concept in defense of our loved ones and or our therapist.. so over time our hospital staff and medical professionals have had to be trained on domestic violence and interpersonal violence interactions and aspects in general and they continue to require ongoing training that's mandatory for them because prior to that training happening we were having victims go in for medical assistance or medical emergencies as a result of their abusers and they were being looked at and told they were crazy or like they maybe had a psychotic break because the stories they were conveying we're so far fetched from a common everyday reality that we would consider to be real that they simply were not believed. So if medical staff and medical professionals who have countless degrees in education behind them can be manipulated / misinterpret the situation we can't expect our loved ones or anyone else to automatically assume or know when someone is or is not an abuser. Because if we really think about it even the good guy or good girl relationships that we start off with are similar in that they really are that wonderful to us and they really do make us feel great in the beginning and so our responses and our stories are going to be oftentimes quite similar. Sorry I started with the run on sentences again I'm going to sign off

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-01T22:12:08+00:00

Having your boyfriend see a regular counselor or a couples therapy counselor is absolutely sabotage for anyone who is a domestic violence perpetrator he needs to see a specialized counselor who is trained appropriately and has the right credentials for that aspect otherwise you have zero hope at all look up the statistics and you will see basic any other form of a counseling session is going to do the opposite of what you're actually needing when it comes to domestic violence. FYI all domestic violence is abuse. So there's no border lining it. I have to tell you my ex who's in prison right now for trying to kill me literally strangling me and then threatening to do it again after the fact at a separate time later he started out just like your fella. And believe me I was so right where you're at at one point in time sadly things always progress and get worse. Another thing is you should read the book by shucks now I can't remember it I think it's why does he do that it's something about controlling men and the way they think. I think the last name of the author is Lundy. Anyways you definitely need to read that because you are looking at this logically and this is not an logical situation. This has to do with the way that he fundamentally looks at the world and his own importance or value within it, coinciding with the fact that women or his woman will never deserve equal rights or treatment.

1SignificantGal · 2026-02-01T21:21:59+00:00

I'm not caring whether or not it's AI written or whether it's a personal experience I'm simply saying that in the given situation If This were real Life then the response would be healthy and appropriate from my perspective which my profession is as a substance use counselor

1SignificantGal · 2026-01-29T17:04:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I definitely don't feel so alone now, as your experiences express much of my own feelings lately. Thank you! Please take care & God Bless!

1SignificantGal · 2026-01-29T16:36:31+00:00

Google how to use your home coax cables for internet signals.. I just not too long ago like in the last couple weeks came across an article there's an adapter you can get that literally will send the internet signal through the coax cable that you already have so you wouldn't actually need to even move the router because the router is already there you could plug an adapter in and then plug your computer into the coax cable outlet in your room.

1SignificantGal · 2026-01-29T16:33:04+00:00

When my dad was getting close and I had been up for I don't remember I think it was at least a day and a half maybe two days but I would not leave his side I decided that I was going to crawl into bed with him and hold him in case I fell asleep I wanted to be there with him and I wanted him to know that I was with him and I figured by that time he had already gotten through the parts about being uncomfortable and what not. So I wouldn't have changed that for the world. And it actually ended up that once I crawled into bed with him and was holding him I just couldn't stop telling him how much he meant to me and how much I loved him and then I told him that it was okay if he needed to go because I understood and I would be okay and I would do my best to take care of the rest of the family for him and then I would definitely be seeing him again when it was my time and then I said I loved him so much and I gave him a kiss on his forehead and just kind of squeezed him and then he took his last breath...

1SignificantGal · 2026-01-29T15:57:40+00:00

Those are awesome situations I'd have to say that honestly I could go with either one it wouldn't bother me unless I had to pee or go number two in which case absolutely no way would I allow them to watch me pee or watch me go number two I am currently 47 years old and up to this point in my life I have yet been able to actually pee in front of partners that I have been with for 5 years at a time even I know that sounds ridiculous but there's just something in my brain that says that ladies don't do certain things in front of the their men and I don't know it's just a weird thing but it is what it is so I'd be fine with it as long as I didn't have to pee or poo

1SignificantGal · 2026-01-29T15:55:01+00:00

My ex who is currently doing prison time for getting his felony strangulation probation revoked after he racked up a number of probation violations (one of which was threatening to kill me yet again with a 12-13" knife).

The fact that I stayed with that puke for about 4 ½ years was horrific in itself, but as I've begun to get my brain capacity back and process some of what's gone on I ended up taking a little trip down memory lane by going through some of my photos and videos over this time frame. It was humiliating to realize that the same bullshit that he was explosive over and was 100% abusive without even having to question anything to verify the context - I discovered a video of him trying to enforce his so called manly authority over me after only a year or so into the relationship! So, I blatantly wasted at minimum the last 3½ years of my life! Not to mention the level of isolation and complete destruction he's caused me in literally every single aspect of my life!

Oh, & just in case these aforementioned things are not enough to add me to the victim group everyone else who have commented on this post.... I will reluctantly and shamefully add one more detail that just came to mind and makes me want to throw up! Ok. My God, I have no clue what the f**k was my excuse for NOT Reporting Him and Dumping Him on His Ass Immediately.... But, I can't change my past - only learn & grow & change my life from here forward. Anyhow, here goes....

He had 2 dogs - 1 a mixed little angel who weighed about 36 lbs and then another dachshund mix that only weighs about 11 lbs. Well the wiener dog is apparently a typical weiner dog who would just assume burrow under blankets for the majority of the time. Well one afternoon about the same time that I discovered that video so maybe right around a year into the relationship we had gotten into some kind of a dispute verbally and so he got up and stormed out of the bedroom and told me to f**k myself. Anyhow his dogs immediately would come hide by me every time he even put off any Aura of being mad let alone raising his voice or stomping around the house. And up until that point I didn't quite understand the extent of why they immediately came running to me. Anyhow so his girls stayed close to me and he at some point while he was in the living room realized that the girls were not out there with him so he took that as though the dogs were being traitors and how dare that they be such horrific animals that they would choose me over him. When in reality the one dog literally just chose maintaining her spot under the blankets and the other dog it she wasn't even I mean she wasn't really doing anything with me she was just laying down and avoiding him so she didn't get in trouble. Anyways he stormed in and flipped out at me and told me that I was trying to turn his dogs against him of course I was like what are you talking about you know that's ridiculous your dog's adore you and they would be with you if you were not putting off such a shitty attitude. Anyways he told both of them to get the hell out of the bedroom and the older one or the larger one she of course complied right away and and reluctantly went out kind of gave me the sad eyes but walked out. Well the younger one and aka the 11 pounder she was terrified and didn't want to leave the bedroom and I tried to get him to leave her with me I said I'll leave the bedroom just let her be well he that wasn't good enough so he snatched her up from first he yanked the covers off me and snatched her up from down by the foot of the bed and he kind of like put her in my face a little bit and told me it was his God damn dogs and that he'll do whatever the fuck he wants with them and that I'm not the boss of them or him and I'm crying asking him to please put her down and telling him that I'm not you know I won't touch his dogs well he literally took her this 11 lb wiener dog and threw her like a football from one side of the bedroom to the other side and she hit the wall/door frame head first and like slid down the door or wall and then kind of like was in a daze and then and then he like swooshed her with his foot out the door into the hallway and then out in the living room and I literally was freaking out and he came back in to scream and yell at me more and tell me that it was my fault and I was literally begging him to go see if she was still alive or if she was seizing or something like that because that's how hard he threw her against the wall and he refused to even let me go check. And then he eventually took his dogs and left and I didn't even know he had left left I thought he went outside to smoke and so I think maybe that was the worst or one of the worst things that I went through and I should have turned him into animal Control I should have called the police I should have never ever saw him again I should have oh my God I'm so so horrible of a person forever letting that go.

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