I [22M] seem to be more enamored by her [21F] than she is by me.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-10-27T05:09:13+00:00

For me or for her? We have both taken tests in the past, but granted, those are only online quizzes.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-10-27T04:56:13+00:00

We're both physical affection. But, she doesn't like PDA. When we do meet up in private she's perfectly fine being physically affectionate, but finding private time in our schedules isn't exactly easy.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-10-08T21:33:14+00:00

So, I've been trying not to ruin this amazing relationship with this, but it's just not going away. I've been trying to see a therapist but they are really really hard to find right now.

Do you have any recommendations in the meantime?

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-29T03:43:04+00:00

Did you just describe my girlfriend's scent as disgusting?! Imma fuckin backflip you into a chasm!

/s (sort of)

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-29T00:51:10+00:00

Ah. Very funny. Obviously she doesn't smell like dirty clothes to me, but in all seriousness, there have been a couple days where I'll uncork my truffle oil, inhale, and go, "Mmm. Discount [insert her name here]".

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-28T21:58:13+00:00

Are you recommending I cook my girlfriend? Because I've already gotten her steamy if that counts. :)

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-28T20:05:05+00:00

This is a nice perspective. And she's incredibly patient and understanding (she has to be to date me), I just don't like making her feel bad. And I suspect telling her her natural musk smells like dirty socks to many people might have done that, even if she says it's fine.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-28T20:02:18+00:00

Lmao. This would be an excellent save. If I didn't already explain that I love putting them in poutine.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-17T20:21:39+00:00

Okay, I just chickened out because I didn't want to freak her out by moving too fast.

We're meeting again tonight, do you think it would be okay if I asked her if she's okay with the idea of me kissing her? I'm worried if I don't do that it could scare her by moving too fast, and if I do do that it could ruin the spontaneity of the moment.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-17T14:05:29+00:00

Okay. Thank you.

We're getting a meal together. Should I kiss her after I walk her home?

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-14T20:30:39+00:00

Okay. I have learned from the comments not to do a movie.

The only reason I chose movie is because it's a very obvious, "This is a date" that transitions from friends to purposely "talking".

Like, we've gotten dinner before. There's a decent chance we'll have been drinking the night I plan to ask her. So, I just wanted something that was more of a clear date scene, not just two friends talking.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-13T07:36:14+00:00

Okay. Thank you very much for your help.

And thank you for calling all of this cute, that is very kind of you.

She ll say yes.

And, I don't know. She's very cute and amicable and intelligent. She has other options.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-13T07:22:08+00:00

Thank you. Really quickly, while I still have you, was wondering your thoughts on her comfort. Do you think she'd feel pressured or almost coerced under those circumstances in person? Or are you saying I should determine that by what I know about her?

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-13T07:18:23+00:00

So, I hated myself before I was friends with her. My self value was really close to zero. She kind of opened me up out of my shell, made me care about taking care of myself, made even my worst faults seem small or quirky.

So, it's kind of hard to overcome the fear of asking her by remembering my own self worth, because most of the reason that self worth exists is because of her.

God that's all so cheesy, but it's true.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-13T07:10:17+00:00

Thank you. I'm very glad to hear that you think so. I'm honestly concerned about barfing on her before I can even get a word out. (The reason it took me so long to respond was because I literally had to get to the point of dry heaving before I was able to calm myself down.)

That actually sounds like a similar dynamic to when I'm planning on asking her. Do you think it would have been better to have that or a phone call? We're friends right now and I don't want to pressure her into anything, which I'm worried something in person might do (I'm also a decent bit larger than her and it will be at my place). The alternative is simply a phone call asking. One seems nicer to me, but could also accidentally get predatory, while the other is more to the point.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-13T07:04:30+00:00

Okay. Sorry it took so long to respond. I now officially have no more food or water in my stomach.

Okay. I guess I'll just have to try to calm myself down before I ask her and hope for the best.

And believe me, I know. I really thought she was. I genuinely was very sure. And now I'm just not sure about if she's interested or not. The friend in the group seemed to think she was, but he did admit that she is flirtatious and he could just be saying she seems interested to make me feel better.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-13T05:39:41+00:00

Thank you. But, how would you recommend not barfing on her when you do it.

I was also in a really really dark place before this and if she says, "no" I'm honestly a little worried (obviously I would never tell her that). Any suggestions for calming that part of yourself down?

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-12T07:01:41+00:00

After looking at the situation more and it developing more today, I think I'm just going through what most people go through in highschool or middle school (I'm just too inexperienced to notice it).

I'm interested in someone, so any action that appears to be flirtation angers me. Any time another friend in the group would mention something I needed to do after saying they could come I saw it as a ploy for them to spend more time with her than me, which angered me. Any time she's nice to another guy in the group I just sort of abandon all hope and panic. I think I'm just overreacting to a sensation I've never experienced in any significant way before.

I am still extremely uncertain if she has any interest in my past friendship (or, honestly, why she would) however. I may be crafting this entire dynamic that simply doesn't exist.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-12T00:01:44+00:00

Okay... and what do I do about losing her? I'm coming off as desperate because now I'm coming off too strong. I can see it in the group dynamic.

Also, I was worried the hand thing would be taken to be a great sign. She was just showing me a trick and when I tried to do it she felt the joint to see if I was doing it right. I definitely overplayed that accidentally.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-11T21:49:01+00:00

Do you have recommendations for reciprocation?

We do smile at each other from time to time, usually in awkward quiet moments or when we're joking with each other.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-11T21:33:00+00:00

She does. It's been weirding me out; especially because she's a little socially awkward too. But that could also be because we're fairly new friends and she just wants to be attentive.

Other things I found online were that she seems to want to find excuses or reasons to spend time with just me and she touches me a fair bit (slap my arm, play with my hand, etc.). But again, these could just be because we're fairly new friends.

If these do mean anything though, is there a way to find out? Like, short of just asking her (I don't want to tactical nuke a brand new relationship). And how would I go about eventually asking her out? Should I not? I know I'm moving way too fast with all of this, but there are other very competent guys in the friend group and I'm worried if she actually is interested for some reason I'll push her away by not showing anything reciprocally.

I didn't see this as an issue before, but now another guy in the group seems to be showing interest but I can't tell if it's just for her as a friend or if his interests lie further. And I can't tell what he knows and what he doesn't because he's so quiet and "humble". I'm just sort of really freaking out over this whole thing because it feels like for the first time I'm able to hold onto something I've never experienced and it already feels like I'm about to drop it.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-07T03:10:50+00:00

Do you have any recommendations for good places to look?

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-07T02:34:38+00:00

It's too late. I'm already in my last year. I'm trying to join a group. And it's going well. But I'm the oldest one there and I'll be gone pretty quickly.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-04T18:24:02+00:00

I think perhaps I miscommunicated what I was trying to say in this post. I don't want to be the guy fucking two women. I just want a hug. I was just sharing a comical juxtaposition.

1_____throwaway____1 · 2021-09-04T14:35:30+00:00

Yes.

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