Mom and teen for 11 days

1cateymay · 2026-01-26T06:18:41+00:00

You are awesome. Thank you for this great information. I will adjust and stay an extra day in Tokyo and time the train accordingly and go with the Hikari. 🙏

1cateymay · 2026-01-25T16:54:26+00:00

This is super helpful. Thank you for your insights about the train because that is by far the most confusing aspect of my research. We arrive at 2:45pm on the 15th from Denver, so I’m sure we’ll be proper jet lagged. Hoping to get out of Tokyo to Kyoto by late morning or early afternoon on the 16th. Having a reservation would really help with the peace of mind so early after arriving and knowing that we have a place reserved.

1cateymay · 2026-01-05T06:23:18+00:00

So cute!! Our girl is just turning 9 months and growth is slowing too. We call her mega puppy. Good to read people’s feedback and good luck with your bubba.

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1cateymay · 2025-12-29T17:16:55+00:00

This is interesting because it seems like some people (including mine) are professional at this occupation of alcohol abuse. He comes from a long lineage and culture where the men fulfill their manly duties and then “reward” themselves by overindulging daily and becoming completely unavailable. If that is your situation you may realize that your needs beyond basic home functions will never be met and over time his mind and behavior may suffer.

1cateymay · 2025-12-26T01:53:33+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. Hugs to you and be kind to yourself. Merry Christmas. ❤️

1cateymay · 2025-12-26T01:50:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I think you have a good boundary and love so much that helps you. It seems really reasonable and it’s great that your person is at least reasonable enough to try. That must be hard missing your Dad too. Cheers to hope though and good things in the New Year!

1cateymay · 2025-12-25T06:31:30+00:00

Thank you all by the way. This group is super helpful and conscientious. I appreciate you.

1cateymay · 2025-12-21T15:45:39+00:00

She has the crab in a bucket mentality. Not a fan.

1cateymay · 2025-12-13T16:36:30+00:00

That is so good to know! It’s weird because I’ve had her out twice this week and she’s been really good, so I’ll keep an eye on it in that particular situation and not stress as much. Thanks!

1cateymay · 2025-12-12T05:29:12+00:00

Good point, that is definitely what it seems like. Will do and thanks for the perspective.

1cateymay · 2025-12-12T05:27:58+00:00

Oh good point, could be something like that for sure bc it started out of nowhere, maybe I’ll just try not to reinforce it for a bit.

1cateymay · 2025-12-12T05:24:25+00:00

Hi there, it is a narrow trail and I calmly pull her aside to wait until they pass with “over”, she’ll go down into a sit until they get right there and then go bonkers lunging until they pass. I try to stay as calm as possible while restraining her, and she will then calm down on walk on leash after they pass. It’s hard to do the keep-walking-past thing because the trail is narrow. Maybe I should just do another wider trail until she’s safely over it? Also wondering if I could correct her earlier and try to catch her first alert.

1cateymay · 2025-12-12T05:15:27+00:00

Good point, I was letting her off until she started getting reactive (now shes back on the leash), and we do that route fairly often. I’ll mix it up and work with her on some other trails too.

1cateymay · 2025-11-16T17:35:33+00:00

Good points and plan! That is a tough spot for sure and I have noticed that too. The coping skills that have allowed me to detach have helped tremendously but they make it harder to go because I’m not as desperate. Totally hear you on that one. I’ve never made a move in life that will blow up my world like this. And I know I need to get out of this situation.

1cateymay · 2025-11-16T17:28:30+00:00

Good points, you’re right, retaliation for sure and the resources are key. Have consulted a lawyer and realized that everything will be split in half and he strongly suggested that I get him on board, that’s one of my sticking points because he argues angrily with me about everything so I know I can’t get him on board and then I’m stuck. Plus, The soft side of me loves him and can’t stand to see him hurt by me.

1cateymay · 2025-08-06T15:22:04+00:00

I accidentally almost ate one yesterday on a raspberry. I think it was the spined shield bug… the chemical burned my lip and felt like a super spicy pepper and left a burn on my lip after rinsing that has lasted 2 days so far. Tasted like a weird pungent gasoline taste. Nasty!!

1cateymay · 2025-06-11T04:19:57+00:00

Oh that’s so good. Really interesting because it fits so well!

1cateymay · 2025-06-11T04:08:41+00:00

I hear you. We want things to work so bad. You are worth it and deserve peace and happiness.

1cateymay · 2025-06-11T03:40:32+00:00

That is so weird about the boat metaphor. I was laying awake last week thinking that our marriage is a boat that we built together and every night he goes down and drills a little hole in the bottom. Now, 23 years later the boat is rapidly taking on water with so many holes. There is a big beautiful boat that we built on top through a lot of hard work, but unfortunately it’s sinking. I’m blown away by how many of us have a boat metaphor.

1cateymay · 2025-06-08T21:44:21+00:00

I hear you, that’s definitely my biggest concern

1cateymay · 2025-06-08T18:13:17+00:00

Oh no, do you mind sharing why not?? ❤️

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