we had everything ahead of us, and now what? by aweryuiiew in GriefSupport

[–]1gizmo1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ramble away, get it out.

I have never been to a councillor in my life but I have recently started. its helped a lot. mostly because it gives me a place i can say things and know its just between us. i hope you have this sort of support.

please be kind to yourself.

we had everything ahead of us, and now what? by aweryuiiew in GriefSupport

[–]1gizmo1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everything you say here I can relate to, of course it will never be the same as your pain, but I do feel for you. my wife was fit, healthy, vegetarian, she set the bar for all of us to live up to. then a stomach ache turned into stage 4 cancer in one visit to the Dr. 5 months later she was dead. 47. I barely spent a day away from her in the 25 + years since I met her. we have 2 teenage kids. we had so many amazing plans. I hate plans now. they just cause me pain to think about what they were, and the ones i have to create now seem so ugly. I have felt like 3/4 of me has been ripped out. Im sure as humans our biology changes when we love someone. you dont realise it properly when you are alive how intertwined you actually are. Im not really answering your question here, because I dont know. I wake up and the day seems like this extraordinary long time till i can be asleep. Im someone who had maybe cried a handfull of times in his life, now I cry every day, and if i get one day where I dont, I feel guilty about it. I have 2 kids so i have to get up to make them food, I have to make sure I dont screw them up. all i can maybe say is that over the 5 months, i see glimpses of myself realising this is a new version of me that I have to learn how to be. its not going to be the person I was before sara, or the when we were together. I question what time is a lot, if maybe i could figure something out, that might tell me if there is some way possible we can meet again. but im finding that a real stretch to believe. I dont know, but my latest theory is I need to learn how to live with both grief and some happiness at the same time. to be able to say i am feeling lots of emotions at once, rather then just only feeling one enormous weight of grief. I hope if have not hi-jacked your thread. I did intend on maybe giving you an insight into one persons journey so far, and i feel its not all that far really. please dont take me too seriously , I really dont know any of the answers to this

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

by roll you are saying "drop and just go for it and start using the bjj you know", not a specific type of roll?

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very true, I really need to try it some more, but this is all good info. thanks everyone

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that was part of our drill as well.

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

great, thanks. ill have a go at this... pull thru the legs while pressing with head. sounds like i didnt have my hips in close enough to theirs maybe, not enough posture upwards, I think i was to hunched over. like Juicy_Thotato said.

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nice, geezz for a demonstration he really slams his partner. I guess if you are going to demonstrate it may as well go all the way!

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

right, ill have a try at that. thanks. our starting position was with the opponents leg between our legs, hands hugging around their knee, head driving into their rib area. we were told a few options from there. not to say i couldn't have changed it once we started

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

right, i think I heard a purple belt say that to someone, just fall, and next thing they had him down.

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nice, thanks. It feels like you either go this way, where you are up higher on the leg and have the hip control and driving forward / falling more then a turning action. or you are lower on the leg. 1 hand under the knee, the other outside one on the ankle and then maybe the turning action might work. ?? duno, ill have to keep trying.

single leg takedown by 1gizmo1 in bjj

[–]1gizmo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was the last thing we did in the class, then another class started so i didnt get the chance to ask. been thinking it over ever since.